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On the one hand, there are people who are rarely, if ever, offended, and on the other, there are people who are offended by just about everything. This is something that is going to have a big effect on how they experience life.
One Side When one can relate to the former, it is going to be a lot easier for them to behave how they want to behave and to stay focused. One can then move forward in life as opposed to getting caught up in what is taking place around them. What this is likely to show is that they generally feel at ease, and this is why they don’t react to what is going on in their environment. Through being this way, it will make it easier for them to handle their emotions. Working Together So, instead of being controlled by how they feel, they can take a step back. Therefore, if they were to experience a strong emotional reaction, they would be able to think about why this is. Said another way, one is going to be behaving like a couscous human being. There will the effect this has on their own life and there will be the effect this has on the people around them. Two Parts If one was offended by just about everything, it would make it incredibly difficult for them to stay on track. One would be like a small boat on the ocean; they would be tossed around by the smallest wave. Not only this, but one would probably feel the need to control what other people can and can’t say. One would have no inner control, or very little, and it would then be normal for them to have the need to control others. Two Benefits As a result of this, it could then be said that it is going to be a lot easier for one to live a fulfilling life. Their attention can be divided between what is taking place internally and what is taking place externally. One will be able to express their true-self, and they will be happy for other people to do the same. Whereas if one wasn’t this way, they would spend a lot of time focusing on what is taking place externally. Two Experiences However, it wouldn’t be accurate to say that everyone who has the tendency to be offended will act in the same way. For example, if one was to see that it was a challenge for them to experience inner peace; they could look into why this is. Thus, instead of focusing on what is taking place around them, they could look into what is taking place within them. What this shows is that one is not going to blame other people for how they feel. Point of Focus One way of looking at this would be to say that one has a good connection with their inner world. Looking into what they feel a certain way can be something that comes naturally to them. This can then be a time when they will take a closer look into why they are experiencing life in this way. Before long, they may realise that it is a challenge for them to experience emotional control. More than Words Consequently, when they hear something that causes them to be offended, it can be as if they are being physically harmed. They will experience a strong emotional reaction, and this is going to stop them from being able to think clearly. Their reaction is then not the result of what someone has said; it is the result of how they have responded to what has been said. If anything, it will have triggered something, and this is why they have lost their mental and emotional stability. Reaching Out One can look into what they can do to experience life differently, and this may mean that they need to work with a therapist or a healer, for instance. What they could find is that they are carrying trauma, and this is then why they are so sensitive. Perhaps they were abused and/or neglected during their younger years, and this would have stopped them from being able to develop in the right way. This may have stopped them from developing the ability to regulate their own emotions. Another Experience Yet, when one doesn’t take this approach and they continue to blame others for how they feel, it can show that they lack self-awareness. As far as one is cornered, they could be nothing more than an observer of what is taking place. It is then not that they need to look into why they have the tendency to be offended; it is that the people who are ‘offensive’ need to change their behaviour. Now, there are going to be times when someone does need to change their behaviour, but it is not always going to be this way. Dissociated What this can show is one doesn’t have a strong connection with what is taking place within them. And through being out of touch with their inner world, it sets them up to blame other people for how they feel. One is not going to be able to see that there is what someone says and then there is how they interpret what has been said. This shows how much power they have when it comes to how they respond to what people say. Awareness If one was to develop the ability to observe what is taking place within them, it would give them the chance to see why they are reacting in this way. It might also start to become clear how emotionally sensitive they are. And as they are this sensitive, it is not going to be a surprise for them to experience life in this way. If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to work with a therapist or a healer.
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