Offended: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature If They Are Always Offended?

If someone was to stay up to date with what is taking place in the mainstream media, they may have come to see that it is not uncommon to hear about people who have been offended by one thing or another. This may cause them to wonder why people have become so sensitive in today’s world.

At the same time, they may have the tendency to identify with the people who are offended by something or someone. Therefore, when they read about something like this in a paper or online, they could end up getting angry.

A Victim

When they come across someone who has been offended, they could believe that they are in the right. The other person can then be seen as someone who needs to be punished for what they have done.

One person can then be seen as a victim and the other can be seen as a perpetrator. Based on this, one person will have more power than the other, and so it could be said that it will be normal for them to be outraged by what has occurred.

A Reflection

And if one responds in this way when other people are offended, there is a strong chance that they are used to being offended by others. Or if this is not the case, they could also feel like a victim when they hear or see something that has an effect on them.

In addition to this, the people that they spend their time with could have a similar outlook. As a result of this, the people around them are going to give them the support and the validation that they need.

Additional Support

This is unlikely to be the only support that is available though, and this is because there will be what is taking place online. It is not going to take one long to find people on here who have the same outlook as them.

Through going online, they will find videos, articles and forums that support and validate how they see life. Along with this, there are also going to be different videos, article and forums that have a different perceptive.

Tunnel Vision

But even if they were to come across information that goes against what they believe, it doesn’t mean that they will take the time to look over it. And even if they were to go over it, they could still end up dismissing it.
It could then be said that one will be looking for information that validates what they believe. Their mind will be closed and they won’t be willing to question how they see life, and neither they be willing to put up with someone who questions their outlook.

One Outlook

It is then going to be clear that there is only going to one person (or one thing) at fault here, and that is the person who is seen as causing offence. And as this is the case, it is going to be expected that one will feel the need to change other people.

In fact, they may go one step further and to try to have laws put in place to make sure that this no longer happens. Through being this way, it is going to be a challenge for them to find their centre, and even if they do, this is likely to soon change.

Both Environments

It won’t matter if they are around others or if they are online, as they could end up being offended. One could then be in the safety of their own home and feel as though their life is under threat.

But while this could stop them from going online as much, they could end up taking another approach. If someone offends them on social media, they could end up blocking them or trying to have them banned, for instance.
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Greater Control

Thus, even though they are going to end up being offended online, they are going to be able to do more than they can offline. If they are offended in the real world, they are not going to be able to do the same things.

Still, this is not to say that they won’t have the ability to do anything, as there will be a number of options. And when it comes to what they can do, it can all depend on the context.

An Analogy

One way of looking at how one is experiencing life would be to say that they are like a small boat that is being tossed and turned. There is then nothing that they can do and they simply have to tolerate what is taking place.

However, while it can appear as though one has no control over what is taking place; this is not the complete truth. Yet, in order for them to no longer experience life in this way, they will need to get in touch with the part of them that will allow them to experience self-control.

Integration

This will then be the difference between them being on a small boat and being on a cruise liner; it will be a radically different experience.  When one is used to being offended, it can show that they are in touch with their feminine nature but out of touch with their masculine nature.

The feminine is reactive and emotional; the masculine is uncreative and unemotional, amongst other things. When one lacks mental and emotional strength, it can be normal for them to react to life and not to respond to it.

A Closer Look

This can mean that they won’t be able to observe what is taking place within them, and they might find it hard to regulate how they feel. The reason one experiences life is this way can be due to what took place during their younger years.

Perhaps this was a time when they were neglected, and this would have meant that there was rarely anyone there to regulate their emotions. And as their developmental needs were not taken care of, it would have stopped them from being able to develop into a strong adult.

Awareness

Even so, this is not to say that there is nothing that they can do about this now that they are an adult. There is a strong chance that they will be able to develop their mental and emotional strength.
This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist. 

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Oliver JR Cooper
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