When someone’s uses online dating, the can have the need to create the perfect profile. And as they want to create a good impression, it could be said that this is to be expected.
Fortunately, it is not going to need to take them very long to create the right profile. They might have rough idea of what they need to do, or they might be unclear as to what needs to be done.
However, even if one is not sure about what to do, it doesn’t mean that they will need to sit around. The only thing they will need to do is go online, and they will end up finding plenty of information to guide them.
Still, this is not to say that one needs to spend days or evens weeks doing this, as they could just get a few tips. Ultimately, the sooner they create a profile, the sooner they will be able to find someone.
At the same time, if they were to rush into this, they could end up making it harder than they need to. Therefore, it might be a good idea for them to take their time and to find the best way for them to do it.
After all, it is unlikely to have much of an effect on their life if they were to wait a little while longer. That is unless one wants to find someone to be with in time for a certain event; this can mean that they are not going to be able to wait.
A Different Need
Yet, although they can believe that they want a relationship, it might be more accurate to say that they just want someone to play a role for them. For example, if one needed a ‘plus-one’ to take to a wedding, their main priority could be to find someone who looks good.
The other person is then going to serve the kind of purpose that a sports car often serves; with this being a way for someone to create the right impression. In this sense, the other person can be seen as nothing more than an object to fulfil their needs.
When one is able to take their time, it can also stop them from coming from a place of neediness. Instead of acting as though this is a life or death scenario, they can have a more laid back approach.
Through being this way, it can be a lot easier for them to move forward with this area of their life. Another thing that they could also do is to ask their friends for guidance, and they might be only too happy to help.
There is the chance that at least one of their friends is in a relationship with someone who they met online. It would then be easy to say that this would be the best person to talk to about it.
At the same time, this could be someone who just got lucky, and they might soon come to see that this is not the best option. It would then be the same asking someone for advice on how to win big at a casino, even though this is something that just happened.
A Number of Different Sources
What one could do is take in what their friends have to say and what is suggested online, and then come to their own conclusion. But regardless of what they do, there are going to be two things that they need to focus on.
They will need to make sure their write-up sounds right, and it will also be vital for them to have the right pictures up. If they don’t have the right ones up, it might not matter what they say about themselves.
A Grey Area
It would then be easy to say that the only thing that matters is having the right pictures up, but there can be more to it. As even though someone can like what they look like, this could soon change if they were to read their description.
When it comes to how someone will respond, it can all depend on what they are looking for. Another thing that they can play a part here is what kind of emotional state they are in, as they might go against their true needs if they are not at peace, for instance.
And while one might take a few pictures and then upload them, they might decide to edit them first. In their eyes, they might believe that they don’t look good enough, or that doing this will make it easier for them to find someone.
As a result of this, how they look online might not completely match up with how they look offline. What they could also do is use pictures that are number of years old, and this could mean that they will look radically different.
However, although this will allow them to get their foot in the door, so to speak, it might not allow them to go much further. Once someone meets them, they could be for a big shock, and one could find that it doesn’t go any further.
This could then be a time when they will feel rejected, and they could find it hard to understand what went wrong. One way of looking at this would be to say that one postponed being rejected and, through meeting the other person, they faced what they would have experienced in the beginning if they hadn’t edited their images (or used old ones).
What this illustrates is how important it is to use images that are up to date; if one wasn’t going to meet the people they were talking to, it wouldn’t matter. But as this is why they are talking to them, the truth is likely to come out at some point.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.