In the past, someone would have needed to go out in order to meet someone, but in today’s world, that is no longer necessary. Nowadays, the only thing that they need to do is to go online.
Social media can allow them to find what they are looking for, or they can go one step further and join a dating site. When it comes to what option they take, it can all depend on what they are looking for.
However, this is not to say that one can only chose one option, as they can use both of these options. And instead of simply joining one dating site, they can join a number of them.
In this sense, it will be similar to one being in a number of bars or clubs at the same time. As a result of this, it could be said that they will have far more control than they would have if they were to go out into the world.
At the same time, one is generally going to find that it is easier for them to meet people on a dating site than on social media. When they use social media, they might be able to take things further with someone they know, or even someone they have been with before.
But other than that, it is not going to be easy for them to find the kind of person who is a match for them. This is not going to be the case when they use sites that are there to assist them with this.
The Right Option
Through signing up to a site, one can search for someone who fits their criteria, and this will mean that they won’t need to waste time going through profiles that are not a match. Still, this is not to say that they will find someone straight away, as they could experience a number of different challenges.
Even so, if one was to go out into the real world it doesn’t mean that they would find someone straight away either. Therefore, it is going to be important for one to be patient and to realise that they might not find their ideal partner when they want to.
And along with what they are doing externally, it is also going to be necessary for them to be in the right place internally. If they are not in a good place, then it is highly unlikely that they will find someone who is right for them.
For example, if one wanted to run a marathon, they wouldn’t just turn up at the race; they would undergo the right training. In the same way, if one wants to rind the right partner they will also need to prepare themselves.
Now, this is not to say that one needs to be in a position where they always say kind things to themselves and their life is perfect. What it comes down to is that if they don’t like themselves, there is a strong chance that they will end up attracting someone who is the same.
Each of them is then not going to be in a good place, and one could then end up being with someone who is abusive, for instance. This is why it has been said that in order for one to find the one, they have to become the one.
When one values themselves, it is going to be a lot easier for them to find someone who will also value them. Ultimately, the people they attract into their life are going to reflect them on some level.
It could be said that the longer someone stays in their life, the greater the chance that what is taking place within them matches up with what is taking for the other person. If one attracts people who they value and admire, they might be only too happy to agree with this.
Yet if this is not the case, it can be a lot harder for them to see that the people in their life mirror them in some way. Still, if one wants to change their circumstances, it will be essential for them to take a deeper look at what is taking place within them.
And although this is something that can cause one to experience lot of pain, it won’t last forever. The alternative would be for one to ignore what is taking place within them and to continue to attract people who are not right.
The Other Side
So when one is happy with themselves and their own life, attracting someone online should be relatively simply. However, although one can use online dating to start a new relationship, they can also end up using it when they are already in one.
What this comes down to is that using it can be seen as low risk; especially as one can look for someone without having to change their schedule. They can behave as they usually do and there is then no reason for their partner to suspect that anything is taking place.
Business as Usual
One can then look for other people when they are at work or when they are at home and they won’t need to use a lot of energy. Yet, if their partner is in tune with them they might notice that they are not as present as they usually are.
And as one is only talking to other people online and not in person, there is chance that they won’t feel as though they are doing anything wrong, or if they do feel guilty, they could say to themselves that they are only taking to people. Thus, it is then going to be a lot easier for one to justify their behaviour.
One Step Further
After a while, they could end up taking the next step, and what they have said online will be backed up by what they do. One has then not only betrayed their partner through talking to other people in a sexual manner, they have betrayed then by going with another person.
It could be said that if someone wants to cheat they will, and this is something that can’t be denied. At the same time, if online dating didn’t exist there is the chance that they would just carry on with their life.
For one thing, there would be a greater need for them to work things out with their partner. This is then similar to how someone is more likely to eat chocolate if it is near them, and how they might eat something else if they didn’t have any available.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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