When one meets someone from an online dating site, they can end up having a strong connection with them. As a result of this, the time that they spent talking to them online would have been time well spent.
One way of looking at this would be to say that they were putting their time and energy into someone who would end up enhancing their life. It was then not that one simply overlooked other areas of their life; they were laying the foundations for something else.
This could have been something they were doing for a matter of weeks or even months, and so it is to be expected that other areas of their life may have been neglected. At the same time, they might have been able to speak to them without ignoring other areas.
The reason for this is that one probably would have been able to stay in touch with them no matter where they were or what they were doing; that is providing they have some kind of device. And there is a strong chance that they have a Smartphone.
Therefore, when it comes to things that they don’t need to give their full attention to, they would have been able to message them. Clearly, this is going to be a lot easier than if they had to stop what they were doing all the time.
When it came to what they were talking about, they may have covered a number of different areas. Perhaps they discussed surface level things and went slightly deeper, and this would then have given them a better understanding of each other.
There could have been what their interests are and where they have been on holiday, for instance, and they could have looked into what their values are, amongst other things. What they look like and their write-up on their profile may have been what got the ball rolling, so to speak.
The Other Side
If this was the case, it will show how important looks are to them, and there is clearly nothing wrong with this. Alternatively, they may have been more concerned with what their write-up had to say.
How the other person described themselves might have been what piqued their interest, or it might have been their interests. Either way, something about what they said was enough for the next step to occur.
Throughout the time that they were talking to the other person online, they may have sensed that they were the right one. A sensation in their stomach may have been what told them this, and this could also be a sign that they are in touch with themselves.
However, although one could speak to someone online for a while and they find that they have a connection once they meet them in person, this doesn’t always take palace. Instead, one could find that they don’t have a connection, and they might even be repelled by them.
This can then cause one to wonder what why this has taken place; especially if they were getting on so well online. Now, it could be said that it is perfectly normal for someone to respond on this way.
A Common Occurrence
But if one does feel a confused and even let down, they are not going to be the only ones who have had this experience. Also, one may find that the same thing will happen again if they continue to use online dating.
This is bound to be something that a lot of people have experienced, and it must be just as common as meeting someone who doesn’t look like their pictures. One can then look back on what has taken place and think about how they have wasted a lot of time and energy.
If one was drawn the other person because of their appearance, it is going to be similar to them wanting to eat something because it smells good. Even though one can be pulled in by the smell, it doesn’t mean that they will enjoy how it tastes.
And when it comes to another person’s appearance, there is no guarantee that they will like their personality. Thus, while they can enjoy talking to them due to what they look like, there is always the chance that this will change once they meet them.
Yet if this is not what happens, it can be the result of someone acting differently when they are online, and this is then going give one a false idea. When one meets them, it is then going to be as if they have met someone else.
On one side, this could be a sign that they are out to deceive others, and on the other side, it could be something they do without realising it. This could mean that they are not very confident and so their true nature ends up being hidden in the real world (and that could change if they were to drink, for instance.)
A Different Energy
In addition to this, one is going to be in their presence for the first time, and this will give them the chance to see how they feel around them. One could find that they want to get away from the other person, and they might not know why.
If they are self-aware, they might look into why this is, but at the same time, they could also just react to what is taking place. When the former takes place, one could take the time to tell the other person about why they don’t want it go any further, and when the latter takes place, they could simply go silent and that will be the end of it.
It could be said that it is going to be important for one to make sure that they don’t get too attached to someone online and to wait until they have met them until they allow their mind to run wild. And one may also find that the sooner they meet someone the better, as this will stop them from wasting too much time and energy on someone who is not right for them.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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