If one was going out for the evening, there is a strong chance that they will end up using perfume. And while this could mean that they were going on a date, this might not be the case.
There is the chance that they are simply going to spend time with a few friends, and this can then mean that they are not trying to impress anyone. What this shows is how normal it is for someone to use it.
Part of Life
In fact, one could wear perfume all the time, and it is then not going to matter where they are or what they are doing. Thus, it is going to be the same as one using deodorant or brushing their teeth in the morning, for instance.
In this sense, each day is going to be seen as a special occasion, and although other people might pick up on how they smell, it could be something that doesn’t have much on an effect on them. This is not to say they can’t smell it; what it can come down to is that they have just got used to it.
On one hand, one could use the same perfume all the time, and on the other hand, they could use a few different ones. For example, if one was to always use it, they could use one in the day and another one for when they go out
Along with this, one may also have another one that they use for special occasions. This is then going to be similar to how one wouldn’t wear the same clothes all the time.
When one uses it all the time and it stands out to the people they see on a regular basis, it could be because they have gone from one perfume to another.
Another way of looking at this would be to imagine someone who always wears a suite; they would be seen as someone who is smart, but the people around them would be used to seeing them dressed in this way. Yet this is not going to be the case when they are around people they don’t know.
The people they know may like the perfume they wear, or they may find that it is s bit too much for them. Having said that, it might not have much of an effect on them, and it then won’t bother them if one uses it on the odd occasion or all the time.
However, if one doesn’t always use the same one, the responses they get from the people they know could change. On the other side of this will be the kind of responses they get from the people they don’t know, and it could be said that one will want the responses that they get from others to be positive.
For example, if one was single and they wanted to be in a relationship, they may hope that their perfume has a positive effect on the gender that they are attracted to. It is then not just something they wear to smell good; it is something they wear to attract their ideal mate.
What this shows is how perfume can be seen as something that will allow someone to improve their love life. And so if they are unable to attract someone into their life, they might end up changing their perfume.
Hard To Believe
There are likely to be some people who will find it hard to understand how someone could believe that they can increase their success by changing their perfume, and it could be said that this shows how much attention is given to what is taking place externally. And how in today’s world, it can be the exception for someone to look at what is taking place within them.
Along with wearing the right perfume, one can also have the need to wear the right clothes and for their hair to be in a certain style. It is clear to see that these elements are important and at the same time, there are other elements that will also play a part.
The time and effort that one puts into their appearance could end up being wasted if they don’t pay attention to what is taking place within them. However, if one was to attract someone into their life, they might not realise this until a certain amount of time has passed.
This comes down to the fact that it can take a while for someone to show their true colours. Thus, if the other person was to change, they could wonder how this could happen; especially as they have the right appearance.
It will then be necessary them to not only pay attention to what is taking place within them, but to also change or to let go of what they no longer need. If they have beliefs that no longer serve them, they can change them, and if they have an emotional build-up, it can be processed, for instance.
However, while one can use perfume to simply smell good, or to attract a mate, they can also use it to do something else. Through using a certain amount (and one could use a lot), it can allow one to hide themselves.
Yet this is not to say that one will actually realise what is taking place, as it could be something that they are generally unaware of. In their mind, it could just be something that they use to.
Using perfume is then going to be similar to how one can wear a mask if they don’t want to show their true-self. The mask they wear can’t be seen and it can’t be felt, but it still has the same effect.
Put Off the Scent
The scent they give off can then throw people off their true scent and it can allow them to create a certain impression. It could also be seen as an invisible wall that one has constructed around themselves.
If one didn’t wear as much, it would give people the chance to get a sense of their own unique scent. But if one was to cut down or to no longer wear it, they could end up feeling exposed.
If one can relate to this and they no longer want to hide behind their perfume, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This could be a time where they need to develop boundaries and to change how they feel about themselves.
The assistance of a therapist and/or a support group may be need here.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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