Having a sense of personal power will be the only thing that some people have ever known; while there will be others who will only know what it feels like to feel totally powerless. Therefore, even though both types of people will live on the same planet, it will be as if they live on separate planets.
The main reason for this is that they are likely to experience life very differently. When someone does feel empowered, it will be similar to being in a car that woks; whereas when this is not the case, it will be similar to being in car that doesn’t work.
Through being in car that works, one will be able to go wherever they want to go; they won’t feel stuck. On the other hand, when one is in a car that doesn’t work, they won’t be able to go anywhere.
Driving somewhere nearby or somewhere that is a few hundred miles away, for instance, will allow one to experience a sense of power. This will then allow them to move and to fulfil a number of needs.
A Different Experience
But, when this is not an option because the car won’t work, they won’t be able to drive down the road or somewhere that is even further away. Not being able to go anywhere will stop them from being able to fulfil a number needs, making it harder for them to feel empowered.
However, when someone doesn’t feel empowered, they are not only going to feel like this when they are in a car that doesn’t work. No, this will be how they feel in their day-to-day life.
If someone who has a personal sense of empowerment was to end up in this position, they would be able to step out of their car and feel empowered once more. And through being this way, they would most likely look into what they can do to have their car repaired.
There is then going to be no reason for them to make a mountain out of a mole hill, and this will allow them to carry on with their life. Their identity won’t be built around them being a victim, so they won’t need to get caught in something like this.
Through being in touch with their personal power, they will generally know what they have power over and what they don’t have power over. Having the ability to know the difference will play a big part in them being able to live an empowered life.
Unsurprisingly, if they spent lot of time trying to change what they have no control over, it would have a negative effect on their wellbeing. Letting go of what they can’t change will be what gives them the energy to focus on what they change.
There is the chance that they will have a career that is deeply fulfilling, or this might be something that they are working towards. If they do have a fulfilling career, having a sense of personal power will have made it easier for them to handle the setbacks that they had to overcome to get on this point
It will also give them the ability to handle the setbacks that arise in the future. If they are in the process of creating a fulfilling career, they will have the belief to keep going no matter what happens.
When it comes to the people who they spend time with, these are likely to be people who are supportive. One will be supportive towards themselves and this will be why they feel comfortable being around people who are the same.
And regardless of whether they are in an intimate relationship or if they are single, it is unlikely that they will tolerate being with someone who tries to undermine them in anyway. When someone experiences life in this way, this could be how their life has always been; then again, it might not be this black and white.
A Different Reality
When someone doesn’t feel empowered, it is naturally going to be a lot harder for them to live a life that is fulfilling. Every area of their life might not be going as they would like it to and it will seem as if there is not a lot that they can do.
Unlike the person above, who will most likely be used to experiencing positive feelings, they will most likely be used to experiencing negative feelings. They may find that they have the tendency to feel powerless, hopeless, helpless, worthless, and angry, for instance.
A Miserable Existence
Someone like this could have moments when they wonder why they are here and if it is worth living any longer. What may cause them experience a lot of pain is when they come across people who are living an empowered life.
It might appear as though these people have something that they themselves don’t have, which is why their life is so different to theirs. There will be a difference between them and someone who is empowered, but it is unlikely be inherent.
A Closer Look
The main difference between them and someone who experience life differently is likely to be what is taking place within them at a deeper level. One of them will have empowering beliefs and the other one wont.
Along with this, one of them might be carrying developmental trauma and the other probably won’t be. What one of them experienced during the beginning of their life would then have been radically different to what the other experienced.
When it comes to someone who doesn’t have a sense of personal power, they might not have received the kind of care that they needed throughout their formative years. This may have meant that they were often left as a baby.
Therefore, this would have been a time when they cried out in order to get their needs met, but on a lot of occasions, their caregivers might not have appeared. Consequently, they might have ended up shutting down and losing hope.
This would have caused them to create a number of associations, and these are going to be holding them back to this day. They would have come to believe that they can’t handle life, that their needs won’t be met, and that they don’t deserve to be here, amongst other things.
If this was how they were treated at the beginning of their life, it is to be expected that their adult life would be a struggle. Unless their inner world changes, they will continue to be passive and to live a life that is anything but fulfilling.
It will be essential for someone like this to deal the baggage that they are still carrying from their early years. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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