Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to feel lost and as though they have no reason for being on this planet. But while someone like this may find it hard to get out of bed each morning, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they won’t have a job.
Still, even if they do have a job, it is unlikely to have a positive effect on their wellbeing. If this is the case, they may be very miserable on Monday and extremely relieved when Friday arrives.
The weekend will then arrive yet it won’t be long until they are back on the grind again, doing something that simply doesn’t interest them. Whenever they have time off, it can be normal for them to do things that will allow them to feel better.
Or to be more accurate, they may do things that allow them to momentarily disconnect from how they feel. One is then going to spend a lot of time and energy doing what they can do avoid themselves.
So, if they do feel good it is only going to be because they have used something else to make themselves feel good. If they didn’t use these things to make themselves feel better, it would be even harder for them to handle their life.
Additionally, they may also rely on someone else to make them feel better. If they don’t look towards one person to do this, they may spend with many different people to give themselves a boost.
However, if they were to give themselves some space to think about what makes their heart sing, it doesn’t mean that anything will come to their mind. It could seem as though only some people are on this planet for a reason.
There are then going to be people who have a reason to be on this planet and there will be others that don’t. Consequently, they may believe that the best thing that they can do is to keep going and to keep their pain at bay.
The months and years will go by and one may continue to live in the same way. There could come a point in time, though, when a big part of them is no longer willing to experience life in this way.
It is then not going to be possible for them to just go through the motions and to avoid the discomfort that is within them. Deep within their being, will be the need to live a life that is worth living.
Searching for Answers
Having arrived at this point, they may end up looking online for guidance. This could be a time when they will be encouraged to look into what they enjoy and to find out what they are good at.
Furthermore, they could be told to write down whatever enters their mind up as this may allow them to gain even more clarity. Now, this could be something that has a big effect on them, with it only being a matter of time before they are able to see why they are on this planet.
At the same time, one may find that regardless of what questions they ask themselves, nothing comes up for them. They may also struggle to think of anything that they enjoy doing or are good at.
In a way, it can be as if they are knocking at a door and, no matter how many times they knock, no one answers. The desire to experience a fulfilling life will be there, but the answers they are looking for won’t be forthcoming.
One way of looking at this would be to say that the information that they need won’t be found in their mind, it will be found in their body. If they are unable to connect to what is taking place in their body, it may be a sign that they are carrying trauma.
Being out of touch with their body will make it difficult for them to connect with their feelings and their true needs. And when it comes to living a purposeful life, it will be essential for them to be in tune with their needs.
This part of their being will let them know if something is right for them or if it isn’t. Therefore, if they are out of out of touch with their body, it is not going to be a surprise if they feel lost in life and as though their life has no meaning.
There may have been a time in their life when they felt overwhelmed, which would have caused them to disconnect from their body. Conversely, it may have taken a little while for this to take place.
A Closer Look
If someone has experienced life in this way for as long as they can remember, there is the chance that their early years were traumatic. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected.
Disconnecting from their body would have been the only way of them to handle the pain that they were in. Now that that stage of their life has passed and they no longer need to live on the surface of themselves, experiencing life in this way is going to cause them to suffer unnecessarily.
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
Reconnecting to their body is unlikely to happen overnight, but it is likely to happen as long as they keep going.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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