We all live on a planet called earth and are all effected by the natural laws of this earth. And while there are some things such as these that we can all relate to, when it comes to our own lives, there can be radical differences.
How people experience and perceive life can vary from person to person. And that is without comparing people from extremely different parts of the world. One person for instance can walk through a populated area and have one experience and another can have an experience that is very different.
For one person it might have been something that was pleasurable and pleasant. And for another it may have induced anxiety and caused unpleasant feelings to arise
While the example above may seem fairly insignificant and not very dramatic, there are plenty more examples that emphasise this point. And what often gets in the way of seeing them is that one can think that their reality is reality. So how one experiences the world, then becomes what the world is like. This then becomes the truth and how life is.
A big part of this relates to relationships and how the opposite sex is seen. For a man it could be that all women are seen as being one way. And for a woman it could be that all men are a certain way. But even though there will be other perspectives on what men and women are like; it can be normal for one to see their perspective as being the truth.
It might not be seen as just how one experiences men or women, it will be seen as how they are. And that there could be another possibility will then be dismissed and rejected.
One thing that one can do to prove that this is the truth is to seek out people who have the same experience of reality. Here their perception will be validated and mirrored by others.
Another thing that demonstrates a difference in how one experiences reality is religion. There are numerous religions around today and some have been around for aeons and others for only a number of years.
Now to one person one religion will often be seen as the truth and for others this may be wrong; with their religion of choice being very different. And the same process of getting together with others who have the same view and dismissing those who don’t can occur.
When it comes to what people are like, some people will say that they can’t be trusted. And as a result of this they either have to be watched all the time or that one has to watch their back all of the time. To be trust another would then be naive and a dangerous thing to do; unless one wants to be taken for a ride or taken advantage of.
For others, people will generally be seen as trustworthy and able to be relied upon. Although some may well be untrustworthy, this doesn’t completely influence how they see other people.
So this causes them to typically attract people who are trustworthy. And the people, who are not, get filtered out due to being outnumbered by the people who are trustworthy in ones reality.
Possible And Impossible
There are some achievements that were classed as impossible by some people and then one person or a group of people came along and proved them wrong. This has happened in the past and will continue to happen.
And this doesn’t have to relate to something that will go into the history books or something that will be seen on the mainstream media. It could be relate to a personal situation in one’s life.
A situation could be created where it appears that there is no solution available. And based on this viewpoint, one gives up and says it’s impossible. But when the situation is looked at through another person’s eyes, it is not long before a solution is found.
Who’s Right And Who’s Wrong?
Through going through each of these different examples, it would be easy to label one person as being right and another person as being wrong. But based on each person’s reality, they are both right.
And the reason for this is that we are all interpreting reality through our own filters. How one experiences life and perceive others is based on their own perceptions of life. So while one thing may seem obvious or perfectly clear to one person, it can be seen differently to another.
Through being surrounded by so many things that validate ones views of life, it can be easy to conclude that this is the absolute truth.
These allow one to feel safe to be themselves. To know where one begins and ends and where another person begins and ends, is what boundaries lead to.
And when these are in place, one will have a sense of what is their reality and what is another person’s reality. The need to be right will not be as strong and simply because one understands that their reality is not the reality.
The Ego Mind
It is incredibly important for the ego mind to be right and this is the result of what it means to be right. At the deepest level, being right means that one is safe and to be wrong means death.
And what is classed as familiar is what is interpreted as safe to the ego mind. So at a deeper level, we are pulled to situations and people that resonate with what is familiar to our ego mind. And repelled by situations and people that go against what feels familiar.
To be aware of how of how the mind works, will enable one to see if what is right in their reality is assisting them or limiting them. And this then creates the opportunity to change ones reality to a version of reality that assists them.
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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