In the past, there was greater pressure on people to behave in a certain way, and it didn’t matter what sex they were. Due to the changes that have taken place in recent years, it is a lot easier for them to behave how they want to.
Even so, this is not to say that everyone feels as though they can be themselves. There are likely to be plenty of people who still feel as though they need to behave in a certain way.
What this could show is that thy live in an environment where men are expected to behave like men, and women are expected to behave like women. This is then going to make it difficult for them to be themselves.
In fact, it could put their life under threat if they were to express their true-self, and so it might be better them to put on an act. This will cause them to suffer, but it would be far worse if they were to be themselves.
And every so often, they could end up going against this pressure, and this could set them up to be harmed in some way. The people around them could end up verbally abusing them, for instance.
Closer to Home
Alternatively, one could find that although their friends accept them even though they act how they want to, the same can’t be said for their family. In their eyes, they could believe that as one is a man/woman, they should act like one.
This is not to say that they will say this directly, but it could come out when it comes to how they behave and what they say to them. The kinds of things they buy them could also reveal what they believe.
If this was something that took place, one could decide to go along with what is taking place, and this will allow them to keep them in their life. Or, they might end up deciding to turn their back on them.
It can all depend on what their behaviour is like, and the effect is has on their well-being. There is the chance that they have tried to talk to them in the past about it, but it hasn’t got them very far.
If one is man, they might find that it hasn’t always been easy for them to show how they feel, and that there are still times when they hide how they feel. This will come down to the fact that men are often expected to be strong all the time.
A lot has been done to change this; however, it is clear that there is a lot that still needs to be done. It could be said that the amount of men who commit suicide each year’s shows that this is an area that can’t be overlooked.
On the other hand, if one is a woman, they may find that it hasn’t always been easy for them to be assertive. There is still the chance that this doesn’t always take place, and it could then be something that they need to work on.
It could be said that this is the result of the kind of conditioning they have received, and how they can feel the need to be agreeable. If they were to always go along with what others wanted, it is unlikely to have a positive effect on their life.
At the same time, one could find that even though they are a man and that it should be easy for them to stand their ground; this could be something they can’t do. It could be a lot easier for them to show how they feel than to be assertive.
And if one is a woman, they could find that they don’t have trouble standing their ground. What they could find, is that they have a hard time showing how they feel.
A Gray Area
Therefore, while it would be easy to put men into one box and women into another, it is clearly not this black and white. As with most things in life, there are going to be exceptions.
Also, if someone was to spend some time looking into this, they could find that some people believe that men are more feminine than they used to be and women are more masculine. Now, if one was to spend time in a certain environment or to pay attention to what is being shown on TV, they could come to the same conclusion.
A Closer Look
If they were to take a closer look into this, they could find that there are a number of reasons as to why this is. The kind of conditioning people receive could be seen as playing a big part in how people have changed.
What they could also come across is how the kind of diets people are on has influenced their behaviour. These two factors could then be seen as the reason why people have changed so much.
Yet, this might not be enough, and they may believe that there is another factor involved. What they could go onto believe is that one of the main reason why people have changed so much is because they are not under as much pressure as they used to be.
It is than not that people have changed; it is that they feel more comfortable being themselves. In this sense, some men and women are allowing their true-self to be revealed, as opposed to putting on an act.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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