There are some people who typically come across as weak, powerless and incapable, and then there are those who typically come across as strong, powerful and capable. The former can look towards the latter to save them, and the latter can do what they can to save the former.
This dynamic is often played out on the world stage too, with world leaders seeing themselves as people who need to save their own citizens and the citizens of the world. The former will be all-powerful and the latter will be totally helpless.
Back To the Individual
So, when someone comes across as strong, powerful and capable, a lot of their time can be spent trying to sort other people’s problems out. Most, if not, all of their friends can be people who find it hard to handle life.
Fortunately for these people, then, they will have someone in their life who can help them to handle their problems. They could be extremely grateful that they have someone like this in their life.
However, this doesn’t mean that having someone like this in their life won’t rub them up the wrong way, so to speak, from time to time. At times, these people could find that one crosses their boundaries and tries to do too much.
In other words, they will be moments when they are more like a parent than a friend or a family member, for instance, and this may mean that part of them resents them. Still, they could do their best to keep this hidden from this person and themselves.
Out of Balance
As one spends a lot of time being there for others in this way, it could mean that at least one area of their life is not going very well. Even so, they could do what they can to make sure that they are not affected by it.
They will generally be seen as someone who is strong and this will be the image that they will do their best to project. It could seem as though they are inherently different and that they were born to take care of those who can’t take care of themselves.
Bathing in Approval
Now, while one is likely to neglect at least one area of their life and to experience pain as a result, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Thanks to all the positive feedback that they are likely to receive, they may be able to stop themselves from acknowledging what is actually going on.
What is going on around them can stop them from becoming aware of what needs to be faced, thereby allowing them to behave in the same way. There could come a point in time, though, when it is no longer possible for them to do this.
It could be a number of years before this takes place and they may need to go through a breakup or a loss to change their behaviour. Until this point, there can be no reason for them to take a step back and to reflect on their behaviour.
Currently, they will be too caught up in what’s going one externally and receive too much approval to do this. This is why something extreme may need to happen to shake them up.
If it was put forward to them that the person who they really need to save is themselves, it might not have much of an effect on them. They could say there is nothing wrong with them and that it’s other people who need to be saved.
What this is likely to illustrate is that they see themselves as just an observer of what is going on ‘out there’, which is why what is going around them won’t have much to do with them. They will just happen to come into contact with people who need to be saved and this can be seen as a consequence of how capable they are.
On A Mission
If they are religious or spiritual, they could even believe that these people are sent to them so that they can help them. One will have a special purpose, one that involves them being here to help those who can’t help themselves.
Nonetheless, if this is put to one side and one was to reflect on the fact that they are not merely an observer of what is going on ‘out there’, it will give them the chance to gain a deeper understanding of what is going on. This will be a time when they will need to put the identities that their mind has created to one side; if they don’t, they will be held back.
If they were to go deep within themselves, they may find that trying to save/rescue others is an indirect way for them to try to save themselves. These people will be a reflection of the wounded parts of themselves that they have pushed out of their conscious awareness.
It is then not that they need to save these people; it is that they need to heal the wounded parts of themselves that have caused them to co-create this experience. Therefore, what is going on ‘out there’ will be mirroring back what is going on within them.
What this emphasises is that one is not merely an observer of their reality; they are both the co-creator and the observer of their life. Once this understating is in place, one will see that if they develop a certain identity their life will have to reflect this identity.
Subsequently, if they see themselves as someone who is here to rescue/save others that will be their experience. A key point here is that their life is not just a reflection of what is taking place in their conscious mind; it is also a reflection of what is taking place in their unconscious mind.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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