If someone is not in a relationship, they may find that they are generally settled. What this can mean is that they are rarely emotionally flat and are rarely overwhelmed by their emotions.
Being this way is naturally going to make it easier for them to function at their best and to enjoy life. If they were often emotionally flat or taken out by how they feel, it would be much harder for them to experience a fulfilling life.
In general, it could be said that one won’t be controlled by their emotions and neither will they try to push them out of their awareness. As a result of this, the people in their life could see them as someone who is calm and emotionally in tune.
Also, it might not be uncommon for others to open up to them about the challenges in their own life. This will come down to the fact that these people will know that one will be able to handle what they have to share.
A New Beginning
However, if they started to see someone, they may find that their inner world starts to change. It might not be a small change either, as they could have moments when they are very unstable.
Due to how they were before, they may struggle to understand what is going on for them. Nonetheless, thanks to how strong these emotions are, it won’t be possible for them to carry on as normal.
What may also confuse them is if they have only known this person for a short while; it is then not as if there is a reason for them to feel this way. It might seem as though the emotional part of them is out of control.
This might not be as far as it will go as they could experience even more inner discomfort as the weeks and months go by. One could even get to the point where they wonder if they are with the right person.
Part of them can then feel connect to their partner and appreciate their company, but another part of them can be having a very different experience. What they do next can all depend on how aware they are.
If they lack a certain level of self-awareness, they might end up pulling away from their partner, seeing them as the problem. The discomfort inside them will been so strong that they were unable to listen to the other part of them.
A Short-Term Solution
Taking this route might allow them to gradually settle down again, but what it won’t do is allow them to experience a deeper connection with someone. So even if they do feel better, it won’t make up for the pain and even the regret that they will probably experience in the long-run.
What they may find, if they were to start another relationship, is that the same thing happens all over again. If so, this may allow them to see that what is going on out there is not the issue.
Staying With It
Conversely, if one is able to take step back and not get caught up in how they feel, they may wonder why there is so much going on inside them. One thing that they could do is to speak to a close friend about what is going on for them.
What this friend may tell them is that it sounds like emotional pain from their past has been brought up to the surface. The person they are with will have simply triggered what was already within them.
One way for one to understand what has taken place would be for them to imagine that a number of items have been frozen in ice. When the ice is frozen these items can’t be seen, but if the ice is melted, the items will become visible.
Similarly, the emotions inside them were frozen in their body, and through experiencing another person’s warmth, this ice has started to melt. What this has done is started to release emotions that were stuck.
Now, if someone believes that their thoughts create their feelings, it can be hard for them to accept this. What they may come to see is that this is not the complete truth, with their being far more to it than this.
The emotional pain that is being unthawed, so to speak, can go back to what took place at the start of their life. What this will show is how long it has been in their body and that time alone won’t cause this pain to disappear.
The Time Has Come
One way of looking at what is taking place would be to say that one is ready to face this pain; if they weren’t, it wouldn’t have come up. It might then be hard for them to accept this as they are in so much pain, but this will be a time when they are being given the opportunity to become more whole and complete.
This pain will have also had an effect on their resonance/vibration, and lot of energy would have been needed to keep it out of their awareness. Working through this pain will enable them to feel better, change their energetic imprint, and give them more energy.
If one can relate to this, and they are ready to work though their pain, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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