When one spends time with people who treat them well, it is going to be easier for them to feel good about themselves. This is then no different to how it will be easier for their body and brain to function in the right way when they eat well.
It could be said that the most important thing will be for their friends and family to treat them in this way. This comes down to the fact that one is likely to spend a most of time around these people.
However, while this would be the ideal, it could be said that life doesn’t always work out this way. As even though one could have friends who treat them well; it could be a different story when it comes to their family.
Out of Their Control
One way of looking at this would be to say that this is simply part of life and not something that one can do much about. One has the ability to choose their friends, but the same can’t be said when it comes to their family.
So, if their family don’t treat them well, they might have no other choice than to keep their distance. Naturally, this is going to depend on if these people are willing to change their behaviour.
This is not to say that one will have to cut them out of their life, as they might just need to limit the amount of time they spend around them. Something like this could be hard for them to handle, at least in the beginning.
It would then be down to them to decide if they want to spend time around people who will wear them down, or if they want to put their own wellbeing first. If they don’t do this, how they are treated by these people will have an effect on other areas of their life.
what will also be important will be for one to be treated well when they are at work, and this is due to the amount of their life that they are likely to spend their. One could find that they spend more time around these people than they do around anyone else.
Therefore, if they were treated badly here, there is a strong chance that it would affect every other area of their life. Not only that, one could find that this stops them from being able to perform at their best.
A Different Experience
If, one the other hand, one is self-employed, this is not something that is going to affect them. One is then going to have far more control when it comes to who they spend time with.
There is the chance that one is used to spending time around people who treat them well, and this is then not going to be an area of their life that causes them problems. If one was to think about how long they have experienced life in this way, it could be since the beginning of their life.
The Right Nutrients
Through being supported by the people around them, it will be a lot easier for them to achieve their goals. These people will be right behind them, and this could make them believe that they can do just about anything.
There are then going to be the moments when they are not in a good place, for whatever reason, and these people will be there to help them in any way they can. And as one is around people who are like this, they are also likely to treat others in the same way.
What this all comes down to is that one is not their own island; if they were, it wouldn’t matter who they spent time with. Yet, as how one sees themselves and what they believe is possible is more or less defined by the people they spend time with, it shows how important it is to be around the right people.
Thus, when one spends time with people who don’t treat them well, they are going to be undermined. It could then be said that the sooner they get away from these kinds of people the better their life will be.
When one is around these people, they could spend a lot of time putting them down in one way or another. One is then going to feel bad in their presence and they will feel bad even when they are not around them.
Due to this, one is unlikely to feel good about themselves, and this is going to make it harder for them to do anything about it. Through being worn down, they might believe that they just have to tolerate this kind of behaviour.
What’s going on?
There is the chance that one felt good about themselves until they started to spend time around the people who are verbally abusive. If this is the case, one is nothing more than a victim and the people around them are the perpetrators.
At the same time, one may have already felt bad about themselves, and this is why they ended up being drawn to these kinds of people. So although these people treat them badly, it might be no different to how they treat themselves.
The fact that one puts up with this kind of behaviour is then a clear sign that they don’t value themselves. And the reason they don’t value themselves can be due to what took place when they were younger.
This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected. Through being treated in this way, it would have caused then to believe that they were worthless, and this would have set them up to feel comfortable with abuse.
Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with them, but until they deal with what is taking place within them, their life is unlikely to change. The assistance of a therapist or a healer may be needed here.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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