In the same way that it wouldn’t be a good idea for someone to put anything into their mouth; it also wouldn’t be a good idea for them to open themselves up to anyone. Therefore, the level of discernment that they show when it comes to the former will need to be shown when it comes to the latter.
If someone exercises discernment when it comes to their relationships, they are undoubtedly going to save themselves a lot of trouble. Still, this doesn’t mean that this area of their life will always run smoothly; what it means is that they won’t have the tendency to open their front door, so to speak, to just anyone.
When they meet someone, it most likely won’t be long until they have an idea about whether or not they want them to be a part of their life. This will apply to someone who could be a friend or to someone who they could have an intimate relationship with.
There will be what takes place at a conscious level and what takes place an unconscious level. One is then not going to need to rely on their intellect alone in order to know if another person is right for them, as their intuition will assist them.
This part of them is like an advanced computer as it doesn’t take long to pick up information and then to send this information up to their conscious mind. Their intellect, on the other hand, is extremely slow in comparison.
This part of them will be trying to work out what another person is like based on their body language, behaviour and facial expressions, for instance. What is different about their intuition is that it picks up on another person’s energy.
So, in the same way that their intellect will enable them to read a piece of paper, their intuition will enable them read another person’s energy field. However, if it wasn’t for what is taking place at an emotional level, it would be a lot harder of them to know if another person is suitable for them.
Due to being emotionally together, this part of them is generally not going to have a negative effect on this area of their life. What this means is that they are likely to feel whole and complete.
The Odd Occasion
This doesn’t mean that they will never feel needy, though, as there could be times when this is exactly how they feel. But, even if they do feel this way, it might not be enough for them let anyone into their life.
During these moments in their life, their friends could help them to regulate how they feel. The ability that they have to handle their own emotions is also going to help them to handle the ups and down of life.
A Different Scenario
But, while there will be people who are able to exercise discernment when it comes to who they let into their life, there are going to be others who are unable to do so. When it comes to what goes into mouth, they could be fine.
Consequently, one could look back on their life and see that they have had a number friends and partners who were extremely harmful. Along with this, their life could be filled with people like this now.
Perhaps they are in a relationship with someone who is abusive, or they could be with someone who simply drains them. This person is then not going to abuse them, but what they will do is take far more than they give.
Either way, this area of their life is going to have a negative effect on their whole life, making it more or less impossible for them to function at their best. What they may find is that they are unable to pay attention to the guidance that is within them.
A Strong Need
What they may find, if they were to connect to what is taking place at a deeper level, is that they have a strong fear of being abandoned. Through having this fear, it will be essential for them to make sure that they are not alone.
And, as this is their main priority, they are not going to be too concerned about what another person is like. Their ability to think clearly, along with their intuition, will be put to one side.
The Best Option
The pain that one experiences by being around the wrong people is then not going to be seen as being as bad as how painful it would be if they were to not have anyone around. What this is likely to show is that one doesn’t just have a fear of being abandoned; they are also carrying the pain of being abandoned.
One is going to have disempowering beliefs and they will have a fair amount of trauma in their body. This is likely to be the result of what took place during the beginning of their life, with this most likely being a time when they were neglected.
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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