Relationships: Does Someone Leave Their Childhood Behind When They Leave Home?

When someone gets on a plain to go home after they have been on holiday, it could be said that they are leaving the country behind. Once they get home, they can carry on with the rest of their life.

Now, this is not to say that they won’t have moments when they will think about what took place, or that they won’t imagine would it would be like to be back there again. However, what it does mean is that it is not going to have a big effect on their life.

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If, on the other hand, one does find that they are unable to carry on with their life, it could be a sign that there life is not very fulfilling. In this case, it is not going to be possible for them to carry on with their life.

Ultimately, they will believe that they haven’t got much of a life to live, and through going away, it will have made it even harder for them to function on a day-to-day basis. This could be something that is seen as the exception as opposed to the rule.

Memories

When one carry’s on with the rest of their life, some of the experiences they had may have an impact on their life. They could find that they have been inspired to do things they wouldn’t have done before.

If something bad happened, it could cause them to retract in some way, but this could pass as time goes by. The experiences they have once they are back could allow them to move on from what took place.

A New Home

This is an experience that can be seen as similar to what takes place when one leaves the home that they were brought up in. And how once they have left, what took place whilst they were there will no longer affect them.

Or if it does, the impact it had will soon come to an end once they have lived somewhere else for a short amount of time. This then matches up with what people say when they leave home, and how this is a time where people feel free.

A New Beginning

Along with this experience (or even if one doesn’t see it in this way), it can be seen as the start of a new phase of their life. If one had an enjoyable childhood, this could be a time where they feel a sense of loss.

But if their experience was the complete opposite, they could experience a sense of relief and as though they are being liberated. Thus, how each person feels after they have left is likely to be radically different.

It Will Soon Pass

However, even if one does feel sad about what is taking place, it could be said that they won’t stay this way for too long. Once they have settled down somewhere else and started to create a new life, their emotional state will soon change.

And if one was only too happy to leave home, their emotional state could go from one end of the spectrum to the other. Still, one is likely to find that they end up having moments where they don’t feel as good.

Good and Bad

What this comes down to is that no matter what one’s childhood was like, they are not always going to feel good in the real world. There is also going to be different challenges that they have to deal with.

Yet what they will have is the ability the make their own choices and not to be defined by the choices their caregivers make. Therefore, there are pros and cons, but there is no denying that one will have more freedom.

A Smooth Transition

If one is in a position where they had a fulfilling childhood, they could find that the kinds of interactions that they have with others are fulfilling and life-affirming. It is then not going to be as if the good moments in their life have come to an end, as they will continue to take place.

They could find that the people they meet remind them of the people who were around during their younger years. This is not to say that they will be an exact match, but that they will have similar qualities.

A Rocky Road

If one is in a position where they didn’t have a fulfilling childhood, they could find that the interactions they have with others are not fulfilling or life-affirming. What they went through during their early years will then have continued.

The people they come into contact with can then remind them of the people who were around during their early years. It can then be as if they are the same people, but that they have different faces.

The Ideal

This scenario could be seen as the ideal, as there is a strong chance that one will not see the connection between what is happening in their adult life and what took place during their childhood. As far as they are concerned, what took place in the past could be in the past.

So whatever takes place in their adult years has nothing to do with their childhood, and this can then cause them to feel as though the world is against them, for instance. Whereas if they were able to see the connection, it would allow them to see that they are not simply observing what is taking place.

Awareness

Unless one deals with what took place during their childhood, it won’t matter where they go as the past will always be with them. Their mind and body will carry the past around until it has been dealt with.
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When it comes to dealing with this, it might be necessary for one to work with a therapist and/or a support group. 

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Oliver JR Cooper
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