If one was to hear about an abusive relationship, there is a strong chance that this would involve someone who uses force to cause harm. This could mean that they use their body to do this and/or they might only use words.
Either way, this is going to mean that the other person is going to suffer, and their life is then not going to be very fulfilling. And while this could be something they experience from time to time, it could be a way of life.
Alternatively, one could hear about someone who has been attacked, and this is going to be another instance where force has been used. The other person might have been going about their life and for no apparent reason, they were harmed.
In this case, they are not going to be in an abusive relationship, but they will have a similar experience. And even though this could be a one-off, it doesn’t mean that it should be overlooked.
In The Spotlight
However, if one doesn’t hear about something like this, it doesn’t mean that they won’t be exposed to this kind behaviour. If they were to watch the news, for instance, they could hear about people being harmed in another country.
Therefore, this won’t relate to one person being attacked, it could relate hundreds or even thousands of people having this experience. Not only this, it could be something they experience on a regular basis.
In fact, if one was to pay attention to the mainstream media, they would see that this is something is taking place all the time. They might not be able to see it with their own eyes, but this doesn’t mean it is not happening.
There are likely to be certain places in the world where this has taken place for a number of years. And, if one if one spends time learning about the past, they would see that this is nothing new.
It could be said that this is just how the world is and nothing will ever change. It is then going to be important for one to make sure that they don’t get caught up in what is taking place.
Now, this is not to say that they should turn a blind eye to it; what it comes down to is that they can only do so much. The main thing is that they don’t harm anyone or anything, and this will stop them from adding to what is taking place, and they will be an example to others.
At the same time, one could believe that this is something that is caused by men, and this can mean that they will believe that there is at last two ways of dealing with this problem. One way will be to get rid of men, and the other will be for men to no longer behave in this way.
Or, if they don’t believe that men are the problem, they could say that the masculine aspect is what needs to be removed from both men and women. As to how this can be done, they might not be too sure.
If one believes that men are the problem, it is likely to show that they believe that they are the only ones who have the masculine aspect within them. Based on this, women are going to be the only ones who have the feminine aspect.
On the other hand, if one believes that men are not the problem, it is likely to show that they believe that both men and women both have each aspect within them. Still, what they are both going to agree upon is that the masculine aspect needs to go.
Black and White
Masculinity is then going to be seen as good and femininity is going to be seen as bad; that will be all there is to it. Thus, if people only had the feminine aspect within them, the world would be heaven on earth.
But while this outlook can seem accurate, it would be the same as saying that a knife is bad. Clearly, whether it is bad or not will all depend on how it is used; ultimately, the knife is neutral.
Far More Complex
When it comes to the masculine aspect, it could be said that there is far more to it than this, and this is because there are traits that can be seen as positive and traits that can seen as negative. For example, having discipline, taking action and being assertive are all masculine traits, and these can be seen as being positive.
So, if the masculine aspect was removed, it could be said that very little would take place. If anything, the masculine aspect needs to be understand and kept under control; it could said that when people have the right guidance when they grow up, this is something that will take place naturally.
The Same Level
When people go on antibiotics, the bad bacteria within them can end up being removed, and this is a good thing. The downside to this is that the good bacteria can also end up being destroyed in the process.
In the same way, removing the masculine aspect would stop a lot of problems from taking place, but others would appear in their place. And, through focusing on the problems that the masculine aspect causes, it can stop one from seeing that the feminine aspect is not perfect either.
If someone hasn’t embraced their masculine aspect, they can lack self-control, find it hard to stand their ground and be dependent on others, amongst other things. They are then not going to be the ones who are physically harming others, but they can end up being the ones who are being harmed by others.
What this shows is how vital it is for one to embrace both sides of their nature and through doing this; it will allow them to function at their best. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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