Relationships: Is Someone's View Of The Opposite Sex Created At A Time When They Couldn't Think Clearly?
In the same way that people have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive different countries, they also have different outlooks when it comes to how they perceive the opposite sex. There will be some people who generally have good things to say about the opposite sex, whilst there will be others who don’t.
If someone was to speak to a number of people who don’t have good things to say, and to a number of people who do, they might wonder what is going on. These people are going to live on the same planet, but it will be as if they live different planets.
One could go even further and ask these people what they think about the people who have a different outlook. This could then be a time when they will find out that some of them are self-aware and some of them are not.
If they were ask the people who have a positive view of the opposite sex, what they think about the people who don’t, this could be a time when they will be told that these people need to find people who are different. It is then going to be as though they just happen to end up with the wrong ones.
In addition to this, they could also be told that these people need to look into why they come into contact with men/women who are like this. When this takes place, it will be clear that these people don’t believe that this area of their life is out of their control.
If, on the other hand, they were to ask the people who don’t have a positive view of the opposite sex, what they think about the people who view men/women differently, they could be told that these people are just lucky. The reason they view the opposite sex differently is because they just happen to have different experiences.
Along with this, some of these people could dismiss what they hear, and say that all men/women are the same. It will then be as though the only reason someone would have a positive view of the opposite sex is due to the fact that they are being deceived by them.
A Different Reality
And it will be the experiences that someone has with men/women in their day-to-day life that will play a big part in whether they see the opposite sex in a positive or negative light. One way of looking at this would be to say that one is just an observer of what happens; they don’t play a part in how they experience life.
Based on this, if one has positive experiences with the opposite sex, they will be lucky, and, if they don’t, they will be unlucky. One’s outlook is then nothing more than a reflection of the experiences that they have had; nothing more, nothing less.
Not a Problem
If one generally has positive experiences when it comes to the opposite sex, this is unlikely to be an area of their life that causes them to suffer. This can then allow them to focus on other areas of their life.
However, if one generally has negative experiences when it comes to the opposite sex, this could be something that causes them to suffer in one way or another. A lot of their energy could be used on this area of their life, thereby stopping them from being able to use this energy more productively.
So, if one is just an observer of their reality and their view of the opposite sex is simply a reflection of what they have experienced whilst they were in their company, there is not going to be a lot that they can do to change their life. This is not going to be an issue for someone who generally has positive experiences with the opposite sex, but will be for someone who doesn’t.
Another way of looking at this would be to say that when it comes to the experiences that someone has, these are simply a reflection of what is taking place within them. What this would also mean is that they are not simply an observer of their reality.
Out of Touch
The trouble is that if someone is out of touch with what is taking place within them, it won’t be possible for them to realise this. One will then be able to see what is going on externally, but they won’t be able to see what is going on internally.
Yet, if they live an in a society that is focused on what is going on externally and has no interest in what is going on internally, this is to be expected. Their inner world could be seen as something to avoid at all costs.
Now, what is taking place within them is likely to be a reflection of what has taken place externally, but this is not to say that this relates to what has happened in their adult years. The way that they view the opposite sex could be due to what happened when they were very young.
This may have been a time when their brain was still developing, meaning that what took place would have defined what they believed about men/women and they wouldn’t have had the ability to question what was going on. The experiences they had with their mother and father, along with others, would have created their inner model of men and women.
The Unconscious Mind
It then wouldn’t have mattered that these people didn’t represent all men/women on the planet, as these experiences would have laid down how they came to see men/women as an adult. But although their conscious mind would have forgotten about what happened as the years went by, what they came to believe during this time in their life won’t have disappear.
How they view the opposite sex and the experiences that they have with them will show them exactly what they believe. And unless one looks into what they believe and does something about these beliefs, there will be no reason for them to experience life differently.
If someone can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer.
Now that one is an adult, they will have the ability to look into what they believe and to question these beliefs. Through doing this, they can change their life and no longer be a victimised by their own beliefs.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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