Relationships: Should Someone Ask Themselves Why They Want To Cheat?

In the same way as there are thoughts that one shouldn’t follow through on, there are also going to be urges that they will need to overlook. As if one tried to fulfil every need that was within them, it would end up causing them a lot of problems.

A Big Difference

For example, one could be in a position where they have a boss who treats them badly, and there could be moments when they think about what it would be like to harm them. Now, this is not to say that this is someone who likes to harm people; what it comes down to is that this person will push them to the edge.

So, when their boss behaves in this way or when they think about how they are treated by them, their mind can be filled with all kinds of destructive thoughts. And if one was to open up about what takes place within them during these moments, the people around them could find it hard to believe.

Covered Up

What this comes down to is that there is likely to be a side that one will show to the world and another side that is kept within them. Having said that, one might reveal this side to their close friends and family.

But even if they do, it doesn’t mean that they will talk about everything that takes place within them. If they were to talk about their boss, they could say that they don’t get on with them and that they are thinking about leaving, for instance.

No Further

Yet, although one might think about how they would like to do something to their boss, it doesn’t mean that they will actually harm them. One way of looking at this would be to say that that this is perfectly normal response.

Ultimately, they will have been pushed to the limit and this will have caused their survival or fight instinct to come to the surface. This is there to tell them that they are being comprised and that something needs to be done about it.

The Next Step

One can pay attention to this information and do what they need to do to change their life. Perhaps the ideal would have been for them to do something about this before they even started to think about casing them harm.

If, one was to actually cause the other person harm, it would show that this so-called lower part of them has taken over. The high parts of their nature will then have been offline, and one will have lost the ability to behave like a conscious human being.

A Way of life

And when someone has the tendency to physically harm other people; it is likely to show that this lower part of them is out of control. The part of their brain that is there to control or inhibit this part of them is not going to be working as it should.

This can then be the difference between someone being able to live in the world or ending up in prison. There are, of course, plenty of people who are like this who don’t end up in prison, for whatever reason.

Another Area

Something very similar to the example above can happen when one is in a relationship. In this case, one could feel the urge to go with someone else, and this could be something that will consume them.

Once again, their mind is going to face a lot of pressure from the so-called lower parts of their nature, which means that they will probably find it hard to think clearly. If they are unable to take a step back, they will soon be in a position where they have cheated on their partner/wife.

No Chance

The very thing that they needed to do – which was to step back and to reflect on what might happen if they do cheat - will have been the last thing on their mind. A big part of them needed to feel different, and this was why they were unable to behave differently.

And, if someone is possessed in this way, it is to be expected that they will just go for it. This is then going to be no different to what happens when someone is addicted to something; they can’t control themselves.

The Ideal

However, if one was able to take a step back and to look into why they felt the need to go with someone else, it might save them a lot of problems further down the line. If they were to do this, they may find that they feel smothered in their relationship and, through going with someone else, it will allow them to feel free.

Alternatively, they could feel as though they are being ignored by their partner, and going with someone else will then be a way for them to receive the attention that they desire. What this could then show is that the communication between them has broken down.  

It’s Not Too Late

Still, if one has only cheated on their partner once, they could make things worse by doing it again. Therefore, one could still save their relationship if they were to get the help that they need.

If one needs to cheat in order to feel free, it can show that they were smothered during their early years. This would have stopped them from being able to develop boundaries, and getting close to someone would then have been associated as something that would cause them to lose themselves.

Awareness
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Whereas if one feels the need to go with someone else to receive attention, it could show that they feel rejected and abandoned. And this could show that their current relationship has triggered pain from their early ears.

Thus, regardless of whether it relates to the first thing or the second, their pain will have been triggered and they will lose the ability to act in a conscious manner. If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to work with a therapist or a healer.

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