Men and woman look different, but that doesn’t mean that they haven’t got anything in common. First and foremost, they are human beings; thus, despite their differences, they have a lot in common.
A Closer Look
Due to how they look, it could be said that men are an expression of the masculine and women are an expression of the feminine. Yet, while this can appear to be the case, it is not this black and white.
So, regardless of whether someone is a man or a woman, it doesn’t mean that they will always act in a certain way. There are going to be moments when both of them will takes on attributes that are associated with the opposite sex.
A Bit of Both
What this comes down to is that both men and women have the masculine and the feminine within them. Therefore, a man could behave in a certain way and be seen as going against their true nature, and the same could be said if a woman was to behave in a certain way.
However, what it can show is that the man/woman is just expressing the other side of their nature. At the same time, this doesn’t mean that every man and woman on the planet have half of one aspect and half of the other.
A Grey Area
There are going to be men who are more masculine than feminine and vice versa, and women who are the same. And there can even be men and woman who are only in touch with one side of their nature.
As a result of this, they are going to be completely out of balance, and this is likely to have an effect on every area of their life. If a man was only in touch with his masculine side, there are likely to be people who will criticise his behaviour, and the same could be said if he was only in touch with his feminine side.
Part of Life
And if a woman was only in touch with her feminine side, there are likely to be people who will criticise her. But if she was only in touch with her masculine side, it is unlikely to be any different.
Even if a man or a woman was fairly balanced, it doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t be criticised by others. At the end of the day, there are always going to be people who have something to say.
Still, one way of looking at all this would be to say that men are likely to have a stronger masculine than feminine side, and women are more likely to have a stronger feminine than masculine side. This comes down to evolution, and how it has been necessary for men and women to behave in certain ways for so long.
But even though a man can have a stronger masculine side, it doesn’t mean that this will have an effect on how he behaves. The reason for this is that he can end up rejecting this side of his nature.
If this takes place, he can and up coming across as passive, and he might be used to being walked over by others. This is someone who is not going to be a leader; they are going to be a follower.
It is then going to be difficult for him to fulfil his needs, and he could have the tendency to feel depressed. Other people might not respect him, and he might find it hard to respect himself.
And even though a woman can have a stronger feminine side, it doesn’t mean that this will have an effect on how she behaves. This comes down to the fact that she can end up rejecting this part of her nature.
Consequently, this can give her the need to always be in control, which is going to make it hard for her to relax. Her need to look strong can take over and this can stop her from being able to express how she feels.
The Harder Emotions
If she does show how she feels, it could be because she is angry about something that has happened to her. Through being this way, it can mean that she will find it hard to experience intimacy.
But if she does end up in a relationship with a man, she is likely to find that the man is extremely submissive. On one level, this might please her, but at a deeper level, it could repel her.
The strongest part of her will have had the desire to be with a man who wouldn’t challenge her and even though she has what she wanted; it will be as if she has been let down. Whereas the weakest part of her may have the need to be with a man who will stand his ground.
What this can show is that she doesn’t feel as though it is safe for her to be vulnerable, and this is why she is out of balance. And as she has rejected her feminine side, it can cause her to be critical of the women who have embraced theirs.
As far as she is concerned, these women could be seen as being weak, and this can mean that she will see herself as being superior to these women. If she was able to take a step back, she may find that these women remind her of what she has rejected within herself.
Deep down she will have the desire to embrace this side, but that will be as far as it will go; that is unless she is able to look into what is taking place within her and to change it. If she is able to look in what is taking place, she may find that what happened when she was younger is still defining her life.
A Deeper Look
This may have been a time when she was abused and/or neglected, and this would have caused her to believe that it wasn’t safe for her to be vulnerable, amongst other things. Perhaps her father was the one who abused her, or it might have been her mother.
There is also the chance that both of them played a part, and there may have been other people around at the time who were just as abusive. Ultimately, this was a time when she didn’t receive what she needed to receive in order to develop in the right way.
If a woman can relate to this, and she wants to change her life, it might be a good idea for her to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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