While someone could be critical of both men and women, they could also be in position where they have the tendency to criticise the opposite sex. And so if they do criticise the same sex, it could be something that rarely takes place.
This could mean that they will have moments where they are able to admit that their sex is not perfect and then shortly after, this could be something that they will soon forget. Through having this approach, it allows them to return to the outlook that the opposite sex is inferior.
Having said that, one might not have moments where they are able to see that their sex is not perfect. As a result of this, it will only be possible for them to experience life in one way.
Therefore, it won’t matter what men/women do, as their attention is always going to be focused on what they are doing that is wrong. But even though this is the case, it doesn’t mean that one is able to realise what is taking place.
One could believe that they are simply observing reality, and so the reason they are experiencing life in this way is because that’s what men/women are like. Based on this, every man/women on the planet will have the same outlook as they do.
Now, clearly it is not going to be possible for them to talk to every man/woman on the planet in order for them to prove they are right, and there is a strong chance that they won’t need to. Instead, one may find that they rely on their experiences alone, and this could be seen as the only evidence they need.
If they were to think about what evidence they have, they could say that they know plenty of people who have the same outlook as they do. Along with this, they may also talk about the kind of men/women that they have worked with or had relationships with.
Their real world experiences may also be backed up by the experiences that they have had online. In this case, they may have come across different websites and forums that prove how incapable the opposite sex is.
But if they spend their time around people who experience life as they do, their outlook will be validated, and this means that they won’t always need to look for evidence. What another person says will be seen as the truth and this will reinforce their outlook.
Still, if one did spend their time with people who had a different outlook, they might say that that they are wrong. This is not to say that they will say this directly, as they could show them all the evidence as to why this is.
And not only could they have this approach when it comes to their friends and the people they meet in the real, world, they could also have this approach when they go online. The information they come across could be ignored and if they were to look into, it could be dismissed.
Therefore, it might not matter what someone says or what they read about, as their outlook is not going to change. One way of looking at this would be to say that they only see what they want to see.
But if one simply sees themselves as an observer of life, it is not going to be possible for them to see what is taking place. And if someone sees life differently, they could say that it’s because they are unable to face reality.
It could be said that the reason one believes that they are simply observing life and playing no part in their experience is due to the fact that they lack self-awareness. This then stops them from being able to see how their inner world influences their outer world.
So if one is out of touch with what is taking place within them, or if they don’t realise how their mind only allows them to see what it has been conditioned to see, they will only be aware of one part of the equation. This is the part that relates to the experiences that one will have.
The part that will define what they see is the part that is being overlooked, and this is what is taking place within them. And while what is taking place within influences what is taking place within; what is taking place without also influences what is taking place within.
It is then easy to see why one can end up holding onto their outlook, as unless something changes they will continue to experience life in the same way. In order for them to change, it might be necessary for their inner world to change.
As if they were to come across someone who was different, they could end up overlooking what takes place; whereas if they were to change on the inside, they would be able to embrace this kind of experience. At the same time, one could have an external experience that transforms their inner world, and this shows it can work both ways.
A Deeper Look
When one generally criticises the opposite sex and sees them as being incapable, they may have developed this outlook in their adult years, or it may have been developed during their childhood years. Either way, one is likely to find that having this outlook allows them to feel good about themselves.
What this can also show is that the only way for them to feel good is to put other people down, and this can show that the distain they display towards the opposite sex is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. But as it is too painful for them to face their true feelings, they end up projecting their issues onto others.
If one was able to get into their body and to face their true feelings, they are likely to feel worthless. This can be the result of carrying toxic shame, and the reason one would be disconnected from this inner experience is due to how painful it would be for them to face it.
It would have been a lot easier for one to disconnect from this experience and to see other people as being inferior, than it would have been for them to face their own sense of inferiority. If one feels this way due to what took place during their early years, it could mean that they were abused and/or neglected by their opposite sex parent.
Yet regardless of why it is, it will be important for one to deal with their own pain if they no longer want to experience life in this same way. This is a process that can take place with the assistance of a therapist and/or a support group.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 26 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.