Relationships: Why Do Some Intellectually Developed People End Up With People Who Are Emotionally Undeveloped?
In a relationship, it is not uncommon for one person to be logical and the other to be emotional. It can then seem as though one person provides what the other is lacking, thereby balancing each other out.
By themselves they are out of balance, but together, they end up becoming the ultimate team. Perhaps one of them has a job where they primarily use their left brain, while the other has a job where they primarily use their right brain.
When it comes to the person who primarily uses their left brain, they could have a job in the city, for instance. This may mean that they spend a lot of time on a computer and having business meetings.
As for the person who primarily uses their right brain, they could also have a job in the city. Yet even if this is the case, it may mean that they do something that is creative or they may spend a lot of time caring for others in some capacity.
A Bit of Both
However, just because they both have a stronger connection with one part of their nature, it doesn’t mean that the other part of their being is completely undeveloped. As a result of this, the person who is primarily logical is still going to be able to relate at an emotional level, and, the person who is emotional is still going to be able to relate at a logical level.
If this wasn’t so, it might appear as though one of them is from Mars while the other is from Venus. They would be so different from each other that the relationship would end up being a huge challenge.
A Stronger Connection
Therefore, as both of them are able to relate at an emotional level, it will allow them to have a far more fulfilling relationship that they would otherwise. And, as both of them are able to think clearly, this will also help.
It could then be said that being different is what brought them together, but it is what they have in common that keeps them together. This doesn’t mean that conflict will never arise; what it means is that they will have the ability to resolve it.
Naturally, if they were too similar, it is unlikely that they would have the same level of attraction for each other. Instead of being in an intimate relationship, they might end up just being friends.
One of them is going to have strong connection to their masculine element and the other will have a strong connection to their feminine element. This will allow them to work together as opposed to having the need to compete with each other.
A Different Scenario
Now, although there will be relationships that are like this, where two people complement each other, there are also going to be relationships that are not like this. In place of this can be a relationship where one person is very logical and finds it hard to relate at an emotional level, while the other is very emotional and finds it hard to relate at a logical level.
Consequently, a lot of conflict is likely to arise in their relationship, and it is going to be a challenge for them to resolve it. The view that one of them is from Mars and the other is from Venus may make perfect sense.
When it comes to the person whose attention is typically focused in their head, they may see their partner as being undeveloped and lacking self-control, for instance. They may struggle to understand how they have ended up with someone like this.
A lot of their time could be spent reading books and educating their mind, something that their partner probably won’t have any interest in doing. On the surface, it may seem as though one of them is far more evolved than the other.
A Common Outlook
What can play a part in this is that the intellect is often seen as being a higher part of ones being than their emotional self. It can be as if ones emotions are just a distraction and need to be overlook.
Due to this, it is not going to be a surprise if they do see themselves as being in a superior position. Nonetheless, while they may have this viewpoint, it doesn’t mean that it is the truth.
Out of Balance
Intellectually, this person may be evolved, but when it comes to their emotional self, they could be undeveloped. The person they are with is then simply mirroring back what is taking place within them.
If one doesn’t have a good connection with their emotional self, it is not going to be possible for them to see the connection. The other person will be seen as the one with the issues, while they are above it all.
If one was to get in touch with their emotional self, they may find that they are carrying a lot of emotional pain. Getting out of their head and embracing the pain in their body may cause them to be as out of control as their partner usually is.
The trouble with their mind is that it can give them the impression that they are just observing what is going on around them, having no effect whatsoever. In reality, they are playing a part in what they do or don’t experience.
If one can relate to this, and they want to become a more integrated human being, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 25 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.