While there can be moments when one is in a position where they do know what is best, there are also going to be moments when this is not the case. It could be said that this is simply part of being human.
If, on the other hand, one was perfect, then there would be no reason for them to have moments when they don’t know what is best. Therefore, there will be no need for one to feel bad when this happens.
Still, this is not to say that one won’t have a certain area where they generally know what they are talking about. This could relate to their profession, and when someone asks for their advice, there is a strong chance that they will have something valuable to share.
Even so, they could still emphasis that this is still their opinion and that it can’t be taken as the complete truth. Through having this approach, it can allow the other person to ask other people what they think.
A Number of Areas
Having said that, one may have a good understanding of a number of different areas, and this could mean that they have a lot to share. One is then not going to be limited to one area and this may allow them to stand out in a number of different environments.
But just like in the example above, they could still stay grounded and not let what they know to go to their head, so to speak. So not only will the people they come into contact with appreciate what they have to say, they will also appreciate how they present themselves.
And while they may give unsolicited advice from time to time, it may primarily be something that takes place when they are asked for it. What this can then show is that one has good boundaries and that they don’t try to walk over others.
As a result of this, it can stop their relationships from being out of balance, and this is partly due to the fact that they won’t act like they are a teacher. The people around them are then at their level as opposed to being their students.
When they live their life in this way, it can show that one enjoys learning and that they don’t learn about things in order to elevate themselves above other people. They might believe that knowing certain things give them an edge, but this is not going to be the same.
It could then be said that one is highly curious, and that they love to learn about things whilst there are on this planet. They will then be only too happy to listen to what other people have to say.
One could believe that they are not only a teacher, but that they are also a student. It is then not going to be all about what they have to share, and they will realise that the people they come into contact with will have plenty to share with them.
Yet even though this can sound like the ideal way to be, it is not going to be how everyone experiences life. Instead, one can believe that they always know what is best for other people.
It then might not matter what is taking place or what someone is going through, as they will have the right answers/s. In addition, it could be irrelevant as to what the other person knows or what they have been through, for instance.
One is then going to be in a superior position and just about everyone else is going to be below them. Other people are then going to wonder how it is possible for someone to be so deluded.
On A Pedestal
There could also be people around them who believe that they do know everything, and this could then cause them to look up to them. When this takes place, it might not matter what one comes out with as they will simply believe it.
Through having these people around, one will have a steady stream of support, and this will help to validate what they believe about themselves. What this is likely to show is that these people lack self-belief and this then causes them to idealise others.
It would then be easy to say that one is the complete opposite and this is why these kinds of people are in their life. However, although one comes across as though they are above other people, this is likely to be a way for them to avoid how they really feel.
Thus, while these people will be in touch with what is taking place within them, one will be completely alienated from their inner world. And as a way to feel to better about themselves, they have created a false-self.
Through doing this, one will not only be out of touch the toxic shame that is within them, they will also have lost touch with their healthy shame. This then sets them to believe that they are more-than human, and it will then normal for them to believe that they always know what’s best.
There may have been a time in their life where they were made to feel completely worthless, and this could have been during their early years. They then disconnected from their true-self and created a false-self in order to handle what took place.
Unless one is willing to face what is taking place within then, there is not much chance of them changing. As far as they are concerned, it is likely to be other people who need to change.
If they do want to change, it might be necessary for them to work with a therapist. During this time, they will be able to get in touch with their true-self and to let go of the false-self that they have used to protect themselves.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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