When one thinks about the opposite gender, they may start to think about some of the men/women that they know. Through doing this, they could reflect on what they are like and the kind of qualities they they bring to the world.
One could then see that there are things that they can do that someone else can’t do, or it could be the other way around. Along with this, one may find that some of these people have similar qualities to them.
But regardless of whether this is the case; they could still find that they respect these people. As a result, one is not going to see themselves as being in competition with the people they know of the opposite gender.
And while some of these people could be their family members; there are others who could be their friends and colleagues, for instance. This is not to say that they will have this outlook when it comes to every man/woman they know.
Part of Life
It could be said that this is to be expected, and this is because it is not going to be possible for one to feel connected to every man/woman they come into contact with. Not only that, they are likely to find that they can’t stand to be around some of them.
So while they will feel good when they think about some of the men/women they know; this is not always going to be the case. If they were to reflect on why they feel different, it could be due to a number of reasons.
One may start to think about how someone doesn’t take the time to greet them, doesn’t listen to them or talks down on them, for instance. Through behaving in this way, one could find it hard to spend time with them.
But if they do spend time with them, they could find they it has a negative effect on their well-being. And although this outlook relates to the opposite gender, it is likely to be an outlook they would have if even if these people were the same gender.
What this then shows is that the challenges they have with the people of the opposite gender relates to their behaviour as opposed to anything else. Thus, is these people were to change, one may find that their outlook changes.
This is also emphasised by the fact that there are people of the opposite gender who they respect. However, if one had this outlook when it came to every member of the opposite sex, it would be a sign that it relates to something deeper.
The Superior Gender
When it relates to something deeper, it could be a sign that one believes that the opposite gender is not at the same level as their gender. As a result of this, it won’t matter whether a man/woman changes their behaviour.
Ultimately, they are going to be seen as inferior, and this means that it won’t matter how they behave or what they bring to the world. Also, one may say that it is not simply something they believe; it could be seen as the truth.
Their outlook could also be backed up by some of the people they spend their time with, and this will give them the validation they need. But even if they don’t have people around them who support them, there is a strong chance that they will be able to find this support on the internet.
This comes down to the fact that there will be plenty of information online that supports their outlook, and this will also give them the chance to speak to like-minded people. Therefore, as long as one has some kind of device, they can receive the support they want no matter where they are.
If one is fairly convinced that they have the right outlook, they will be supported by going online. But even if one is not completely convinced that they are right, this could soon change.
What this comes down to is that as long as they are open to the idea that one gender is superior to the other, it will be a lot easier for them to be conditioned. It is then similar to someone who only goes shopping to buy a few things and ends up coming home with bags of things; they wanted to buy things and they were in an environment where this could take place.
Open and Closed
When it comes to information that supports their view, they will be only too happy to hear about it. Yet when it comes to information that goes against their view; there is not much of them being able to take it in.
It will then be normal for them to ignore or to dismiss anything that goes against their outlook. So unless they are willing to change, it is highly unlikely that they will be able to see life differently.
A Closer Look
If someone was able to look into when one first developed the outlook that one gender is superior to the other, they may find that it took place in their older years. But at the same time, it may have be the result of what took place during their younger years.
During this time, their same sex parent may have treated their opposite sex parent as though they were worthless. Or they may have been abused and/or neglected by their opposite sex parent.
If the former took place, it would have caused one to be falsely empowered, and this is because they would have ended up developing a dysfunctional idea of the opposite sex. The parent who looked down on the other parent would have been disconnected from their own shame.
But if the latter took place, it would have caused one to feel as though they were inferior, and in order to avoid feeling this way, they would have gone to the other extreme. The parent who abused and/or neglected them would have also been disconnected from their own shame.
If one can relate this and wants to get back in touch with their own humanity, it might be necessary for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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