There could be moments in one’s life when they come into contact with people who don’t act all that interested, whilst there could be others moments when this is not the case. Here, another person could act as though one is the most important person on the planet.
A Gradual Transition
When the former takes place, one could appreciate the attention; then again, it could all depend on who is giving them this amount of attention. If one is attracted to the other person, they might be only too happy for this to continue.
Yet, it might not be long until they start to grow weary of this type of behaviour and just want this person to take a step back. By coming on so strong, it will have gradually caused one to change how they see them.
The amount of interest that his person shows will be too much for them and the last thing that they want to experience in life. This could be a sign that one is used to receiving a lot of attention.
As a result of this, they could be more attracted to someone who is more laid back and doesn’t try too hard. To meet someone like this could intrigue them, making them wonder why they are not acting like other people.
A Common Occurrence
So, if one is used to receiving so much attention and this takes place without them needing to do a lot, there is going to be no reason for them to appreciate attention that is given to them so freely. It is going to be no different to all the goodies that are given to famous athletes – it will have become a normal part of their life.
It is then no longer going to stand out; it will just be something that they have become accustomed to. This is then similar to what happens when one takes the same route to work every day, there will be no need for them to be aware of where they are going.
A Different Response
But if one was to go somewhere else, it would be necessary for them to pay attention to where they are going. In the same way, when one is used to receiving so much attention and they meet someone who doesn’t behave in this manner, it can cause them to take notice as opposed to simply switching off and placing them in the same category as every other person who acted in that way.
However, even if one is used to receiving this amount of attention, there life is not always going to be this way. What this mean is that while one could be fed up with the amount of attention they receive at one point in time, they could be desperate for it at another.
Even if one is used to receiving attention, they could still have moments in their life when they feel down. If this was to take place, this type of attention could be far more appealing, and this could cause them to put their discernment to one side.
An Easy Target
The fact that they are receiving attention could be all that matters; thereby they won’t be too concerned about what this person is like. After a little while, they could see that they have made the right decision.
At the same time, they could soon regret spending time with this person. How they came across at the beginning could be radically different to how they now come across as time has passed.
When one comes into contact with someone who acts really interested, regardless of if this is something that happens to them on a regular basis, it could show that the other person simply likes them. There is then going to be no ulterior motive or anything that one needs to be aware of.
If one was to take things further with them, they may find that they are a good march. On the other hand, one might gradually see that there is nothing to keep them together and that it would be better for them to go their separate ways.
But even if one is not used to receiving attention from someone and another person was to act really interested, it could still make them step back and think about what is going on. One could think about how they haven’t really done anything to earn this amount of attention.
If one desperately needed attention, it would probably cause them to overlook this and to go along with it. One would then be ruled by their emotions and this would stop them from being able to think straight.
A Deeper Look
When someone acts really interested for no apparent reason, it could show that they are simply trying to avoid themselves. For example, they could feel emotionally empty or down, and see one as some kind of saviour.
One is then going to be seen as an object or an accessory that they can use to change how they feel about themselves. If they feel as though they have been abandoned, for instance, this can cause them to come on strong and, after they get close, they could feel smothered, which will cause them to pull away.
It is human nature for someone to only appreciate what they have worked for and to place little, if any value, when something is just given to them. If someone has the tendency to act really interested too soon, this might be something that they need to reflect on.
And if one finds it hard to accept this kind of behaviour, and they don’t know why, this might allow them to understand why this kind of behaviour makes them feel uncomfortable.
If one usually comes on too strong, and they want to change their behaviour, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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