If someone was to reflect on their life, they may find that they rarely feel powerful and often feel powerless. This can show that their life is not how they want it to be and they don’t feel as though they have the ability to change it.
As a result of this, it could be said that how they feel is a natural outcome of both living a life that is anything but fulfilling and not feeling that they have much control. Considering what they are going through, how else would they be?
A Victim of Circumstances
What is going on out there will be in control of their life and they won’t be able to do a great deal about it. Therefore, in order for their life to change, what is going on out there will need to change first.
Until then, they will just need to do their best to tolerate what is going on and carry on living. Their life is going to be one big challenge and if they haven’t already, there could soon come a time when they have had enough.
If at this point, it was put forward to them that they are not simply a passive observer of what is going on and that they are playing a part, they could end up being filled with rage. They could end up accusing this person of lacking empathy and compassion.
However, this person could say that this doesn’t mean that they are consciously choosing to experience life in this way. No, they could say that another part of them, their unconscious mind, is the part of them that is causing them to.
Upon hearing this, they could wonder what this other part of them does as even if they have heard of it before; it doesn’t mean that they will have a deeper understanding of it. What they will need to understand at this point is that who they are doesn’t begin and end with their conscious mind.
If it did, they would be nothing more than a passive observer of reality and this would mean that they are simply a victim of circumstances. This other part of them, even though it is hidden, has a far great impact on their life than their conscious mind.
One way of looking at this part of them would be to say that it contains all of the pain that their conscious mind has lost touch with. Once something painful has been pushed out of their conscious awareness, this part of them can forget all about it.
But, once it has been removed from this part of them, it won’t just lie dormant in their unconscious mind. From here, this pain will have a massive impact on how they experience life.
The Missing piece
When someone has this understanding in place, they will gradually be able to co-create a different reality; without it, they will be trapped in an invisible jail. The key to leaving the jail will be inside them but this won’t be realised.
And, as they are likely to live in a society that is a manifestation of ego consciousness and thus will validate the view that they are merely an observer of reality, they are unlikely to receive much support. A number of their fellow citizens will also be in the same position and won’t be able to assist them in their own or another’s liberation.
In addition to their unconscious mind holding pain, it will also contain wounded child parts. These parts of them will be looking to receive what they missed out on during their early years.
The trouble is that these parts will cause them to unconsciously re-create circumstances, situations and events that are very similar to what took place very early on. Consequently, they would have been deprived very early on and they will continue to create a reality where they will continue to be deprived.
A Frustrating Existence
Their brain is likely to have blocked out most of if not all of what took place during this stage of their life, making it a mystery. But, if they were able to go back in time, they may soon see how their adult life is very much a replay of their early years.
The people will be different of course but what will be the same are the feelings that they experience. By re-creating the past, the child parts of them will hope that they will finally receive what they missed out on but as the same scenario will be created, not to mention that this stage of their life is over, the same thing will take place again and again.
Drawing the Line
For them to no longer unconsciously play out the same frustrating existence, it will be essential for them to get in touch with the pain that was repressed all those years ago and work through it. Until this takes place, it is unlikely that their life will truly change.
Facing this pain won’t be easy but by engaging in conscious suffering as opposed to unconscious suffering, this pain won’t last forever. The alternative is to avoid this pain and to suffer forever.
If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 25 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.