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Self-Development: Can Self-Development Stop People From Developing Self-Awareness?

25/4/2016

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When one’s life isn’t going as they would like it to go, there is the chance that this will cause them to experience pain. On one hand, one could end up feeling like a victim and not do anything about it, and on the other hand, they could get in touch with their anger and end up taking action.

If one was to take the first option, their life is unlikely to change; whereas if they were to take the second option, it would give them the chance to experience life differently. But regardless of what they decide to do, their life will continue to pass by.  

Information

In today’s world, it could be said that it is easier than ever before for people to get the information that they need in order to change their life. This primarily comes down to the internet, and how one can find just about anything online.

So as long as they have some kind of device, the assistance that they need is not going to be too far away. Yet if one ends up feeling like a victim and comes to believe that there is nothing they can do, it might not be possible for them to embrace the help that is available at their fingertips.

In The past

As a result of this, the information is there but they are not going to utilise it, and if their ancestors were aware of this, they might find it hard to understand. During their time on this planet, they may have wanted to change their life but they might not have been able to get hold of the information they needed.

The reason for this could be because the information wasn’t available, and this would have stopped them from being able to do anything. This is then similar to one having food but not being hungry and another being hungry but not having any food.

Money

When someone doesn’t do something, they can end up saying that it’s because they haven’t got enough money. However, when it comes to finding information on the internet, there is a strong chance that one won’t need a lot; in fact, they might not need any.

Therefore, it is not going to be possible for one to use this excuse, but if they do, it will be hard for them to back it up. Still, if one doesn’t to change their circumstances that is their choice.

Different Areas

If one does want to change their life, it could mean that more than one area of their life is not going to plan. At the same time, they could be in a position where there is one area that they want to improve.

This could be an understatement though, as this could be something that is undermining their ability to live a fulfilling life. Ultimately, it won’t matter what they need help with; what matters is that they don’t suffer in silence.

A Common Approach

If one wanted to improve their relationships, to change how they feel about themselves or to increase their motivation, for instance, they could end up coming to the conclusion that they need to increase their self-esteem. The reason for this is that this is likely to be what they would be told if they were to look for answers online.

However, even if they didn’t take this approach and they were to read a book instead (or a number of them), they could also have the same outlook. What this comes down to is how common this advice is.

The Next Step

One could then continue to look for answers or they could stick with what they have learned about. If they were to go along with the latter, it will be important for them to do what they can to work on their self-esteem.

This can be something that one can do through using affirmations, thinking positive, exercising and focusing on their good points, for example. After doing this for a while, they may find that their life starts to improve.

Adding

What this shows is that one will primarily be improving their life (or trying to), through taking things in. As a result of this, they won’t need to spend much time letting go of what they are already carrying; this could also end up being something that they will completely overlook.

But if one only wants to change their life and they want this to happen as soon as possible, this might not bother them. One way of looking at this would be to say that they are not interested in gaining a deeper understanding of themselves; they only want to fulfil their needs.

Short-Term Solution

When it comes to achieving something or feeling better, for instance, this approach may work; however, there is also the chance that it won’t allow them to experience true fulfilment and the improvements they make might not last for very long. On one hand, they can end up being out of touch with their true needs and on the other hand, they won’t be dealing with what is taking place at a deeper level.

In order for one to get in touch with their true needs, it will be important for them to get in touch with what is taking place in their body. And through doing this, it will also allow them to deal with what is taking place at a deeper level.

Self-Knowledge

This is something that will require self-awareness and through developing this, it will enable one to understand themselves. And while this will take time and cause one to experience pain, it will be far more fulfilling in the long-term than it would be if they were to simply pump themselves up with self-esteem.
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Awareness

Although self-development is often seen as something that is easy and designed to make people feel better, there is a lot more to it. But if one wants to experience pleasure and they want to avoid pain, they are not going to realise this.

If one does want to gain a better understanding of themselves as opposed to changing how they feel, for instance, they may need to reach out for external support. This can all depend on what their circumstances are.

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Oliver JR Cooper
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