When it comes to someone’s truth, this could be seen as their thoughts, beliefs, feelings and what they sense, among other things. It is then something that relates to what is actually taking place inside them.
In other words, this will include the things that are part of their own experience on this earth. So through being aware of what their ‘truth’ is and allowing this information to influence their life, it will probably allow them to lead a fulfilling life.
The reason for this is that this information will enable them to express who they are and, therefore, to live in a way that is in alignment with who they are. What this comes down to is that another person is not going to know what is right for them.
This doesn’t mean that they can’t give them guidance, but when it comes to what they need to do to live a fulfilling life; one will need to listen to themselves. Their truth will be inside them, not outside of them.
Having this connection to themselves is also going to allow them to form deep and authentic relationships with others. This will partly take place by opening up about how they feel and being honest.
If they don’t want to do something or if something doesn’t feel right, they will be able to make this clear. Being this way will prevent them from doing things to please others and endlessly compromising themselves in the process.
Ultimately, not just their physical body is going to show up around others, their inner self is also going to show up around them. If they didn’t have this connection with themselves, it might be normal for only their physical self to show up.
There are going to be two parts to this, though; on one side will be the connection that they have with themselves and, on the other, will be the fact that this is what feels safe. If this second part wasn’t in place, it would be a lot harder for them to express their truth.
By feeling safe in their body, expressing who they are is not going to be seen as a threat to their survival. If one has been this way for as long as they can remember, they might find it hard to understand why this wouldn’t feel safe.
And even if they have had moments when they haven’t felt safe, it could still be hard for them to get their head around this. They could believe that there is no reason for them not to express their truth.
A Different Scenario
However, although it might be hard for someone like this to understand why they would need to hide their truth, there are going to be plenty of people that have a strong need to hide their truth. For someone like this, they might not know what it is like to experience life differently.
As a result of this, they are generally going to keep their truth to themselves. At the same time, what is taking place inside them could typically be a mystery, with them being primarily focused on what is taking place externally.
So regardless of whether they are generally out of touch with what is taking place inside them or not, they are not going to listen to the information that is inside them. When it comes to what they do each day, it could be a reflection of what other people want them to do.
Their life is then not going to be in alignment with who they are and what truly matters to them. The life that they lead may allow them to receive a fair amount of approval, but it probably won’t be a life that allows them to feel alive.
Out of Tune
Through being disconnected from themselves, it is unlikely that they will be able to have deep and authentic relationships. Instead, they may typically hide how they feel, their needs and what is going on in their head.
Going along with what another person wants, even if they don’t want to, can then be the norm. Living in this way is going to mean that one will be used to being walked over and even violated.
Ones physical body is going to show up around others, yet their inner self is rarely going to show up - the part of them that relates to who they really are. This will need to change in order for one to live a life that is worth living.
If one was able to step back and to reflect on how long their life has been this way for, they may see that it has been this way for a very long time. When they think about expressing their truth, they might end up experiencing a lot of fear.
Back In Time
What this may show is that during their early years, it wasn’t safe for them to express their true-self. If they asserted themselves or expressed their feelings, they may have been harmed and/or abandoned.
Keeping their truth to themselves and putting on an act would then have been a way for them to survive. Disconnecting from themselves would have set them up to suffer as an adult, but this would have been the last thing on their mind.
To move forward, they will need to question the beliefs that they formed during this time, heal the emotional wounds that were created, and to resolve the trauma that they experienced. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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