If one sees themselves as someone who is capable, it is naturally going to have a positive effect on their life. Through having this view, it will allow them to take the steps that they need to take to fulfil their goals.
Thanks to how they feel about themselves, they will believe that they have what it takes to fulfil their needs. Being this way is also going to help them to keep going when the ‘going gets tough’.
A Strong Core
The mind will be there to give them the support that they need and so will their emotional body. This doesn’t mean that there won’t ever be moments in their life when they get knocked down; what it means is that they are unlikely to stay down.
Before long they could be back on their feet, with this being a time when they will look into what they can do to surmount the challenge that is in front of them. Ultimately, no matter what is put in front of them, they will typically believe that they have what it takes to overcome it.
If they hit a road block and are not sure how to overcome something, they could end up reaching out for support. Reaching out for support is then not going to be seen as a weakness in their eyes - it will be seen as the sensible thing to do.
Not being able to do something is not going to be seen as a reflection of who they are, which is why they won’t need to hide it. In other words, not being able to do something won’t mean that they themselves are incapable.
Two Essential Parts
Feeling capable and being able to reach out to others is going to make it a lot easier for them to move forward in life. Also, having the ability to overcome challenges and achieve their goals is going to allow them to feel empowered and to feel good about themselves.
Their mental and emotional health is then going to benefit as a result of the view that they have of themselves. Furthermore, they may find that this also stops them from experiencing too much fear.
One may even say that knowing that they will be able to handle just about whatever happens to them is what allows them to relax and to feel at pace. The view that they have of themselves, then, is going to stop them from living on edge and trying to hide from life.
They will be able to embrace the life that they have been given and to truly live. From the outside it may seem as though one is just ‘lucky’, but what is taking place within them will be what enables them to experience life in this way.
A Different Reality
If, on the other hand, one doesn’t see themselves as someone who is capable, their life is likely to be radically different. Due to how they see themselves, they might not even go after their goals.
Or if they do work towards something, they might give up as soon as it gets hard. It will be as if they have bit a brick wall and there is going to be absolutely nothing that they can do to go through it.
This is going to stop them from being able to move forward in life, setting them up to play small. Challenges are then not going to be seen as things for them to overcome; they will be seen as things for them to avoid.
Their mind is unlikely be supportive and their emotional body is unlikely to provide them with the support that they need. As for reaching out for support, this might not even cross their mind.
This could be seen as something that would let other people know how incapable they are. Therefore, in order for them to save face, they will need to do what they can to make sure that other people don’t realise this.
Then again, they could be in a position where they look towards other people to always be there and to do just about everything for them. Unconsciously, one can see other people as parental figures that are there to take care of them.
As a result of how they see themselves, it could be normal for them the experience a fair amount of fear. The reason for this is that they won’t feel as though they have what it takes to handle life.
Their mental and emotional health is likely to suffer, and it will be difficult for them to truly embrace the life that they have been given. This could mean that they are rarely able to relax and to feel at peace.
How they see themselves is not a true reflection of who they are, yet it will most likely be seen as the truth. This is likely to show that they have experienced life in this way for so long that they are simply unable to see this.
Perhaps, their childhood years were a time when they didn’t receive the type of care that they needed to able to develop in the right way. For example, this may have been a time when they were neglected.
A Big Impact
To be left at this stage of their life would have been too much for them to handle, causing their whole being to be overwhelmed. This could have been something that took place on a regular basis.
If the care that they needed was provided, there would have been no need for them to have spent so much time feeling overwhelmed and this would have allowed them to slowly develop inner strength. The years will then have passed, but how they felt all those years ago will have stayed within them.
If this was also a time when they were physically abused, it would have been ever worse. Now that they are an adult, there will be what they believe and there will be all of the emotional pain that is within them.
Taking this into account, just changing what they believe is unlikely to allow them to feel capable. Doing this will be similar to changing a label on a box; it won’t change what is in the box.
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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