In both mainstream society and the self-development world, it is not uncommon for the focus to be on the conscious mind. In both of these areas, what is taking place in this part of ones being can be the only thing that matters.
For example, let’s say that someone wanted to improve their life; they could end up being told that this shows that they need to believe in themselves. This could then end up being a time when they will start to change their thinking, in order to have more positive thoughts.
A Similar Outlook
Therefore, regardless of whether one looks towards mainstream society for guidance and ends up working with a cognitive behavioural therapist, for instance, or goes a different route and ends up working with a self-development coach who uses positive thinking and affirmations, for instance, one approach won’t be radically different to the other.
Through getting their head right, one can believe that their life will start to move in the right direction. Now, there is also the chance that this approach will lead them to their desired destination.
Then again, one could try this approach and find that their life doesn’t really change. Or if it does, they might only be able to get so far and, before long, their life could go back to how it was before.
Consequently, one will be doing what they can to change their life, but it can be as though they are wasting their life. If one felt powerless and as though they had no control over their life before they tried to change their life, this experience could return once again.
A Slightly Different Scenario
Alternatively, could just find that one area of their life is not going as they want it to but they might not look for guidance. For example, someone could be clear about what kind of person they want to be in a relationship with, yet this might not happen.
Instead, they could have the tendency to attract people who are not a good match for them, and they may even be abusive. There will be the kind of person who they want to be with and then there will be the kind of person who they actually end up with.
As a result of this, it can be normal for them to come to the conclusion that they are unlucky. If this is something that has been going on for quite some time, one could even see themselves as a victim.
In their mind, they will be clear about what they want, and they may have even done what they could to make sure their external appearance is up to scratch. They may even come into contact with people who are surprised that they can’t find a decent mate, adding even more weight to their view - if they have this view - that they are a victim.
One way of looking at these two scenarios above would be to say that they have a lot in common with an engineer who tries to fix a computer by focusing on the screen. In this case, it will be clear that the engineer needs to stop focusing on the screen and to look into what is taking place below the screen – the computer itself.
The screen will show that there is something wrong down below, which is why this part will need to be fixed. Trying to fix what is taking place above will just be a waste of time.
A Big Difference
However, while this is something that is going to be clear, the same can’t be said it comes to looking at what is taking place at a deeper level of a human being. What is taking place down below is something that is often overlooked in both mainstream society and the self-development world.
It is then as though there is no such thing as an unconscious mind, with someone’s life being a reflection of what is taking place in their conscious mind. The part of someone that has the biggest effect on how they behave is then going to be completely overlooked.
What someone is likely to find, if they get in touch with what is taking place at a deeper level, is why they are experiencing life in a certain way. But, without the knowledge that is within them, it will be perfectly normal for them to feel like a victim.
It will seem as though the external world is victimising them; when in reality, they will most likely be the ones who are victimising themselves. Now, when it comes to their unconscious mind (body), this is typically the part of them that contains the painful feelings and memories that they are not willing to face.
Out of Mind, But Not Out Of Sight
These feelings and memories will have been forgotten about by their conscious mind, but the unconscious mind will be fully aware of them. And, as their conscious mind is not willing to face these aspects directly, the unconscious mind will have to reveal them to them indirectly and in a symbolic manner.
This part of them can communicate with them in a variety of different ways such as: through dreams, the people who they attract and are drawn to, how their body responds to different food and environments. The trouble is that if one is not aware of these sings, they won’t be able to take advantage of them.
There is a quote by Carl Jung that is highly relevant here, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” When someone’s starts to work through the trauma that is in their body, they will most likely find that their life gradually starts to change.
The assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance, may be needed here.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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