When one spends time around the people in their life, they may find that they generally feel good about themselves. And through feeling this way when they are around them, it is likely to mean that they will feel good when their time together comes to an end.
Yet, if this is not how they feel, it could show that one is annoyed that their time together had to come to an end. Perhaps one didn’t have enough time to stay any longer, or the other person might have had to leave early, for instance.
At the same time, one could find that they feel sad after they have spent time with someone they are close to. What this could come down to is that one is a highly emotional person, and it could then be hard for them to say goodbye.
A Number of Experiences
There are then a number of ways in which one can respond, but it could be said that this is just part of life. It is not that one way is right and another way is wrong; it is not this black and white.
What matters is that one has just spent time with someone who has a positive effect on their life. If they do feel sad after afterwards, it might not be long until they are back on their feet, so to speak.
One could be used to feeling good after they have spent time with someone, and this might stop them from looking into why this is. It is then something they have become accustomed to and there is no reason for them to take a closer look.
If they were to look into why they feel this way, they may start to become aware of certain things. The reason for this is that one doesn’t just feel good around someone; there are going to be a number of factors that play a part here.
On one side, it could be said that there will be what one can see and, on the other side, there will be what they can’t see. When it relates to the former, there will be the kind of facial expressions this person has, what their body language is like, and how they behave.
And when it relates to the latter, it is going to relate to the energy/resonance that this person gives off. Now, it might not be possible for them to see this, but it will certainly be possible for them to pick up on what is taking place at this level.
The unseen and the seen then combine and this allows one to feel at ease in their company. It would be inaccurate though to overlook the part that one plays in all of this, as they are not just going to be an observer in all this.
If one wasn’t the same person, it would probably cause the other person to treat them differently. This comes down to the fact that a relationship is a two way process; it is about give and take.
How the other person behaves can then be similar to how one behaves, and this is going to mean that both of them will feel good in each other’s company. And when their time together had come to an end, they can both walk away feeling as though their soul has been nourished.
The support that they give to each other is going to make it easier for them to function at their best. However, this doesn’t mean that one will always spend time with people who are life affirming.
Instead, there could be moments when they spend time around people who behave in a different manner. When they are around someone like this, they could end up feeling as though they are losing energy.
Their emotional state could start to drop, and they could feel the need to get away from this person. How they behave and the energy they give off will play a part in this.
A Closer Look
If they were to reflect on why they feel this way around them, they may find that a number of things come to mind. Firstly, they may see that the other person has negative body language and their facial expressions might not be any better.
Along with this, they may find that the other person is very judgemental, and this is then going to make it incredibly difficult for them to relax in their presence. As far as this person is concerned, it will be clear that one is not good enough.
A Different Approach
Or, one may find that they are unable to work out why this person has such a negative effect on them. The other person’s body language could be fine, as could their facial expressions.
After a while, they may see that this is someone who focuses on what they are not doing as opposed to what they are doing, for instance. Consequently, one could feel as though they need to prove themselves.
Either way, part of them could feel as though there is something wrong with them whilst they are around this person, and they could feel this way for a little while afterwards. It is then going to be in their best interest to limit the amount of time they spend with this person, or to cut them out of their life altogether.
If one was take a look into what is taking place for this person at a deeper level, they may find that they feel worthless. But as they have disconnected from how they feel, it causes them to project this part of themselves onto others.
When one comes into contact with people like this on a regular basis, it could show that they need to look into what is taking place within them. Maybe they also feel worthless at a deeper level.
It might then be necessary for one to reach out for external support, and this is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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