Self-Worth: It Is Harder For Someone To Make Mistakes When They Feel Worthless?

If one was to get something wrong, they may find that this is not something that will end up derailing them. They might need a little while to pull themselves together, so to speak, but that will be as far as it will go.

Going Back

And, if they were to look back on how they have been throughout their life, they may find that this is what typically takes place. What this is going to show is that it takes a lot for them to give up and to walk away from something.

Perhaps one was brought up by people who encouraged them to try new things and didn’t criticise them if they got anything wrong. The main purpose would have been for them to give something a go and not to get it right.

A Vital Ability

Through being able to handle a set back without giving up, it is likely to be something that has had a positive effect on their life. For one thing, they won’t expect to get everything right straight away.

As a result of this, there is the chance that they will have been able to achieve a lot. There will be the effect this has had on their personal life and on how it has influenced their career.

The Experience

So, if one was to try something new and it didn’t go very well, there is going to be no reason for them to hit rock bottom. They will be able to look into what they need to do differently and then they can try it again.
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It is not going to be something that is going to define how they see themselves; it will simply be something that they need to correct.  Or, one might come to the conclusion that this is not something that they want waste any more time on.

Self-Image

It could be said that the reason they are able to move on after something like this has happened is because they don’t take it personally. One has then got something wrong, but it doesn’t mean that they are wrong.

This shows that one doesn’t feel the need to get everything right; their main priority is to simply give something a go. Due to this, there is going to be no reason for them to experience a lot of pressure.

Self-Worth

Their value is going to be based on who they are as opposed to what they do; this is going to be why they don’t feel the need to get everything right. Thus, regardless of whether they get something wrong or not, how they feel about themselves is generally not going to change.

This is going to allow them to be in touch with what is taking place within them and to express the part of them that wants to try new things. After all, one is here to experience life, not to sit on the sidelines and watch other people.

Both Areas

When one has this approach to life, they could be in a position where they have been able to create a fulfilling career. As they are able to try new things, without having to worry about if they will get it right straight away, it will have allowed them to progress.

Along with this, they might have developed a number of different skills over the years. There is also going to be plenty of things that they have tried that they are not very good at.

A Different Experience

Yet, while there will be people who experience life in this way, there are also going to be people who don’t. When one can relate to this, they may find that one of their biggest fears is getting something wrong.

This is not going to be seen as something that is simply part of life; it is will be seen as something that they need to avoid at all costs. Therefore, even if they want to try something, it doesn’t mean that they will.

Worked Up

If they do try something new, it could be something that will cause them to experience a lot of pressure. There can be the fear that something will go wrong on one side and, on the other, they can worry about how other people will respond.

One might stop themselves from experiences a lot of pain by not trying things, but it will also make it harder for them to grow. This can cause them to spend a lot of time thinking about what their life would be like if they did try things.

A Human Doing

What this is likely to show is that one believes that their value is based on what they do and not on who they are. Consequently, if they get something wrong it shows that they are wrong.

One is then only as good as what they do, and it is then clear to see why they would want to avoid doing anything that would cause them to make a mistake. When they make a mistake, it is going to cause them to feel exposed.

Going Deeper

One is going to believe that other people will see how flawed they are, and this can cause them to experience fear and anxiety. As if one has no value, it will set them up to be rejected and/or abandoned by others.
This can be seen as something that will put their survival at risk. Based on this, it is not going to be possible for them to make a mistake and then to move on with their life; it will be something that overwhelms them.

Awareness

And, as they experience so much pressure, it can be a lot harder for them to get something right. When one feels as though they are worthless, it can be due to what took place when they were younger.

This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected by their caregiver/s. If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to work with a therapist or a healer.

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