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Sexualized Emotions: Can Someone Sexualize Their Own Emotions?

18/8/2017

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​At times, someone can mistake thirst for hunger, and there are a number of reasons as to why this tales place. As a result of this, one can end up eating when they are not even hungry.
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The Outcome

If one finds it easy to gain weight, and this was to happen on a regular basis, they could end up carrying more weight than they need to. What this then means is that a small problem will have turned into a big problem.

Still, one may exercise on a regular basis, and this may make it easier for them to lose the access weight that they are carrying. Then again, one could be in a position where they don’t go to the gym or they might just find it hard to lose weight, it is then going to be a different story.

Just One Example

This is, of course, just one of the ways in which one can mistake one thing for something else. One could feel lonely and empty, for instance, and after spending time with someone who treats them well, they could come to believe that they are in love.

How they feel when they are around this person and what takes place in their mind when they are not with them will play a big part in this. Through meeting them, it will have allowed them to feel better about themselves.

Time Goes On

However, as time passes one may find that they no longer feel the same way about them. This could be a time when they will find it hard to understand why they no longer feel the same.

Alternatively, one might start to realise that it wasn’t love that brought them together; it was the pain that was within them. Ultimately, the other person just allowed them to run away from their own pain.

The Real Reason

Through being with this person, it has allowed them to feel different, and this is why they were drawn to the other person. The other person would have believed that one loved them, when in reality; it was just that one loved how they felt in their presence.

Due to how low they felt in the beginning, it wouldn’t have been hard for them to fall for someone who showed them affection. One was needy, and so they needed someone to fill the hole that was within them.

Another Example

If one felt sexually aroused, it would be normal for them to come to the conclusion that this shows that they need to have sex or to masturbate. Therefore, there is going to be no reason for them to take step back and to look into why they are having this experience.

What is also going to play a part here is that the western world is more sexually liberated than it used to be. So, one can pay attention to how they feel and then they can take the next step.

From Here

There are likely to be a number of factors that will define what one will do to experience the pleasure that they desire. If they are in a relationship, they may have to wait until their partner is available.

But even if they are with someone, it doesn’t mean that they will wait until they next see them. What they could do is relieve themselves through masturbating, or they could find someone else to take care of their sexual needs.

The Modern Day World

If they are single, on the other hand, they could just end up masturbating. But if they use online dating, for instance, this could mean that they will look for someone who can come and help them out.

It wouldn’t be accurate to say that it will be just as easy for a man to do this as it will be for a woman, though. As long as a woman is reasonably attractive, she will probably be able to find a guy to have sex with whenever she wants.

One Outlook

When one spends a lot of time feeling sexually aroused, they can come to believe that this shows that they have high sex drive. This is just part of who they are, and the only thing they can do is to fulfil this need as and when they can.

There is the chance that this is the truth, and there is then no reason for one to take a deeper look into why they are experiencing life in this way. If they were to take a deeper look, what they could find is that feeling sexually aroused is often a way for them to avoid how they feel.

Mistaking One Thing for Another

However, this could be something that takes place so fast that it stops them from being able to realise this. If they were to just be with what is taking place within them and didn’t try to do anything, they could end up experiencing a lot of pain.

They could feel angry, powerless and even worthless, and this can show that they are carrying trauma. Having sex or masturbating is then going to be a way for them to keep their true feelings at bay.

A Closer Look

The pain that they are carrying could relate to what they have experienced during their adult life and/or it could go back to what happened when they were younger. When they were younger, they may have been abused and/or neglected.

Awareness

If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist or a healer. 

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