If someone was asked to share their views on something, they might not have a problem speaking out. Also, if another person was to do something that they disagreed with, they could also be happy to speak up.
What this can illustrate is that this is someone who doesn’t have any trouble asserting themselves. They could often be described as someone who is confident and comfortable in their own skin.
One is then going to be aware of what is taking place within them and they will feel comfortable enough to vocalise it. Being this way is likely to have a positive effect on just about every area of their life.
Ultimately, it will allow them to behave like an individual, which wouldn’t be necessary if they were merely an extension of others. In this case, what was taking place inside them would be no different to what was taking place inside everyone else.
Not a Clone
Like a programmed machine, what is true for them would be true for everyone else on the planet. But as they have their own inner self, it will mean that there will be times when they come out with things that go against what other people believe.
Thus, even if someone agrees what they say in one moment, it doesn’t mean that they will in the next. So, just as there can be people who admire the fact that one stands their ground, there can also be people that don’t.
A Number of Areas
The connection that they have with their inner world, along with the comfort that they have in expressing what is taking place there, will enable them to show up in their relationships. They will be able to open about how they feel and they will be able to disagree with someone if they need to.
Still, this is not to say that they will be argumentative as they may be able to do this without coming across as aggressive or rude. The people in their life might not have a problem with this as they could be the same.
When they are at work, being this way could allow them to make a greater contribution to a project, for instance. Thanks to the confidence they have in speaking up, they won’t need to worry about how other people will respond to their ideas.
Furthermore, it could allow them to move up the ladder faster than they would otherwise. The reason for this is that they will be able to speak up if they don’t feel that they are getting paid what they deserve, and this will help them during any interviews that they have.
The Bigger Picture
This can show that one doesn’t spend too much time thinking about what may or may not happen if they speak up, preferring to focus on their own objectives. What this will do is stop them from wasting their valuable energy and postponing what they need to do.
Tension may arise after they have said something, but keeping what they said to themselves might not have solved anything. It can often be a case of short-term pain, long-term gain or short-term gain, long-term pain.
Although there will be people who are able to express themselves in this way, there are going to be others that are unable to do so. If someone experiences life in this way, it is going to be a challenge for them to assert themselves.
This doesn’t mean that they will never speak up; what it means is that this will be something that rarely takes place. Keeping their thoughts and feelings to themselves is likely to be what feels comfortable.
A Door Mat
Therefore, regardless of whether they are around friends or at work, they will generally keep things in. If they don’t like or agree with something, for example, they will do what they can to hide this from others.
Experiencing life in this way is not going to be very fulfilling, yet it is going to be what feels comfortable. If they were to connect to what is actually going on for them and to speak out, they could end up feeling overwhelmed.
A Closer Look
If it is normal for them to keep their true feelings to themselves and to have moments when they don’t even know what is going on for them, it could be because they don’t feel safe enough to speak up. Deep down, they could believe that doing so would cause their life to come to an end.
One way of looking at this would be to say that this belief is completely irrational and that they need to let it go. Another way of looking at it would be to say that while it may seem irrational, there was probably a time in their life when it was perfectly rational.
During the beginning of their life, they may have been brought up in an environment that was dangerous. One or both of their caregivers may have been physically abusive and, if they dared to speak out, they could have been severely harmed or neglected.
Over time, they may have lost touch with what was taking place within them and just done their best to please their caregiver/s. Even so, losing touch with themselves most likely wouldn’t have stopped them for being harmed or neglected.
The trauma that they experienced at this stage of their life will have stayed trapped in their body and, until they start to resolve it, it will be a challenge for them to speak up. This trauma could cause their throat, as well as their body, to tighten up.
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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