If someone wanted to change one area of their life or a number of areas, it could be said that it would be a good idea for them to find people who are successful. Through doing this, they will be able to listen to what they have to say and this will give them the chance to experience life differently.
This is not to say that one will need to go and find them in the real world though, as they can find people like this online. Due to the internet, it is has given people the opportunity to find out about things without needing to go anywhere.
Therefore, it is not going to be necessary for them to go and find someone who has achieved what they want to achieve. If they were to do this it could end up taking them a while, but if they were to go online it could only take them a few seconds.
The First Step
However, if they are unable to find what they are looking for, it is likely to be a sign that they are searching for the wrong thing. In this case they will need to use different words, and then before long, they should soon be on their way.
During this time, they could come across a number of different articles and videos. And if what they find online is not enough to quench their thirst, then they will be able to buy books that talk about what they want to know.
If they are not already fired about achieving something, it might only be a matter of time before they are. The reason for this is that they are likely to come cross information that tells them that ‘anything is possible’.
Or if they don’t come cross this, then they are bound to come across something that is similar. Thus, one could go from feeling completely hopeless to feeling as though there are no limits to what they can achieve.
One Extreme to Another
This is then similar to how someone can be criticised by others and feel completely worthless, or receive compliments from them and feel as though they are on top of the world. Their mental and emotional state will have gone from one side of the spectrum to the other.
How they feel is then going to give them the motivation that they need to move forward, or if they are already motivated they could end up having even more energy. As a result of this, one could come to believe that they are on the right track.
When it comes to the information that they consume, it could relate to people who teach other people how to be successful or to people who are successful. Therefore, this could mean that these people will have books and courses to sell, for instance, or they could influence people through sharing quotes and statuses on social media.
And if one was to experience doubt during this time, they could simply say to themselves that these people have made it. Based on this, there is going to be no reason for them to scrutinize what these people come out with.
There is the chance that they will come across at least one person who will talk about what they have achieved, and how this proves that anyone can do it. They could then talk about how their life began and setbacks they have overcome.
At the same time, they could come across someone who has just achieved something significant in their life. This person is then likely to be caught up in how they feel and the advice they give can end up being a reflection of that.
One way of looking at this would be to say that it will be essential for one to pay attention to what these people say. Through listening to what they have to say and then applying it to their own life, they will gradually be able to achieve what they have achieved (or a similar level of success).
Another way of looking at this would be to say that this simply proves that this person has what it takes, and just because they have been able to do it doesn’t mean that everyone else can. But if someone is in an emotionally charged state when they write something, then it is to be expected that they will come out with things that have no basis in reality.
When someone comes out with something like this, it could be said that it shows that they lack boundaries. The reason for this is that they are projecting their reality onto other people, and this then stops them from realising that other people are not an extension of them.
If they had boundaries, they would be able to see that their reality is not the same as everyone else’s reality. Thus, even though they can achieve something, it doesn’t mean that everyone else can.
If one of the fastest athletes in the world won a race and then said that this proves that anyone can do it, it is unlikely to have much of an effect on people. This is primarily because most people would realise that this is someone who has something that most people don’t have.
However, when it comes to success, it is not uncommon for people to put their thinking brain to one side and to believe everything they hear. Now, this is not to say that people who are successful have nothing to offer; what it comes down to is that this is not something that is black and white
As while it is easy to believe that it is possible to achieve something through behaving in a certain way, there are other factors involved. What can make it harder to realise this is that people are more likely to talk about their success.
Whereas when one isn’t successful, they can and up keeping it to themselves, and they are also less likely to write a book about it. This can then cause people to have a false sense of hope, and they can then end up feeling even worse than they felt before.
When success is seen as something that takes place when one behaves in the right way, it doesn’t take into account the forces that are out of ones control. Also, this approach could be seen as being out of balance, as it is all about will power as opposed to going with the flow.
This is not to say that one should simply sit around doing nothing; what it emphasis is that one is not in control of everything. It has been said that each one of us is here to achieve certain things, and so if this is the case it is to be expected that some people will be able to achieve things that other people can’t.
It can be easy for one to lose touch with their own needs and to get caught up with what other people are doing, and this can make them want to achieve things that are not truly important to them. And through focusing on the need to be successful, it can also stop one from being able to be present.
So when it comes to being successful, it might be better for one to pay attention to people who are successful but not to get too caught up in what they have achieved. This will then inspire them on one hand and it will allow them to stay grounded on the other.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 26 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.