While one can believe that they are better than other people at doing certain things, they can also believe that they are better than others at just about everything. When it comes to the former, there is the chance that one is telling the truth.
Perhaps one has been doing something, or a number of things, for a little while, and this has allowed them to develop a certain level of competence. This could mean that they will rarely come into contact with someone who is at the same level.
If they are really good at doing one thing, it may mean that this is what they do for a living. Therefore, not only are they going to be good at something, but they will also get paid to do it.
Down To Earth
Still, even though they are good at something, it doesn’t mean that it will have gone to their head. So, they are going to be only too aware of the fact that they are still human, which means that they are not perfect.
Thus, there are going to be plenty of things that they can’t do very well. And through being in touch with their own humanity, it is going to allow them to keep their feet on the ground, so to speak.
One could have people in their life who are able to do things that they can’t, but this doesn’t mean that they will end up feeling inferior. They could believe that this is just part of life, and that they are always going to meet people who can do things that they can’t.
What this will then show is that one feels comfortable in their own skin and this why they won’t feel inadequate. Through being this way, it is likely to mean that one is only too happy to learn new things.
All in the Same Boat
There is then not going to be one rule for them and another for everyone else; if they want to develop a certain skill or ability, they will need to put the effort in. The reason they are good at something is likely to be because they have worked hard.
And no matter how hard they have worked, it won’t be as if they have reached the end; there will still be more for them to learn. Along with this, there will be times when they will meet people who are even better at doing something than they are.
When one is around others, they are not going to come across as though they know everything, and this is going to have a positive effect on their relationships. Yet, if they are around someone who needs help with something that they are good at, there will be no reason for them to hold back.
What this will show is that one doesn’t believe that being good at one thing makes them an expert on everything. One will then be able to respect other people’s boundaries, and to recognise that they don’t always know what is best for them.
However, when it comes to the latter, it is going to show that one is completely deluded. One can then have the ability to do a number of things very well, but they can create the impression that they are good at just about everything.
Or, if they are able to accept that fact that this is not the case, they could still believe that they are inherently superior to others. It might be more accurate to say that this will be seen as the truth and not just something that they believe.
Out of Touch with Reality
Through being this way, it is not going to be possible for them to come across as being down to earth. If they do, it will simple be an act that they put on in order to achieve a certain outcome.
One is then not going to be an imperfect human being who makes mistakes; they are going to be someone who is more-than human. What this is likely to show is that one is out of touch with their healthy shame.
Ultimately, one is going to be out of touch with their own humanity, and this is the reason why they can behave in this manner. While the self that they present to the world may seem strong, it is going to be built on sand.
And as they come across in this way, they are likely to end up being drawn to people to who have an inferiority complex. Being around people like this will allow one to feel good about themselves, and they will be able to tell these people have to live their life.
The Only Option
What this is likely to show is that at a deeper level, one feels worthless and as though they are not good enough. Their false-self is then something that they had to create to change how they felt.
The trouble is that through disconnecting from their toxic shame, it would have caused them to lose touch with their healthy shame. One would then have solved one problem by creating another.
A Closer Look
This could show that they were abused and/or neglected during their early years. It would then be clear that they didn’t receive the kind of care that they needed when they were younger.
Alternatively, this could have been a time when they were falsely empowered by their caregiver/s. So instead of being treated in this way, one may have been told that they were better than others, for instance.
One, or both, of their caregivers may have also been out of touch with their true-self. There may have been times when one was treated as though they were special, and moments when they were treated as though they were worthless.
But even if they were being treated as though they were better than others, it would have meant that their true-self was overlooked, it wouldn’t have been possible for them to make mistakes, fail or to get things wrong, amongst other things.
One could then look back on their childhood and say that it wasn’t abusive, yet this is not going to be the truth. Their true-self would have been ignored, and they would have had to play the role that their caregiver/s wanted them to play.
This would have caused them to believe that they were not enough, and that they would only be good enough if they jumped through the hoops that were provided. One would have gone from a human being, to a human doing.
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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