Over the years, I have heard people say that we should treat others as we would like to be treated, and this is something that I agree with. However, while it is easy to say this, it is not as easy to put it into practice.
This is then similar to how someone can say that they no longer want to behave in a certain way, yet this doesn’t mean that their behaviour will actually change. How many New Year’s resolutions have been made over the years and how many have been forgotten about shortly after?
What this then shows is that having the need to behave in a certain way is not enough; another part of them also needs to be on board with what is going on in their mind. If this was enough, whenever someone said that they were going to do something they would end up doing it.
The other part that needs to be on aboard with their metal self is their emotional self. This part of them can either allow them to fulfil what their mind wants or it can completely derail what this part of them wants.
At one moment in time someone can say to another person that it is important to treat other people with respect, while at another they can do the complete opposite. One may have to wait slightly longer than usual in a line and end up heavily criticising the cashier as a result.
After this has taken place, they could end up feeling guilty or their mind could justify what has taken place, thereby allowing them to push aside how they have just behaved. Either way, it will be clear that they have gone against what they stand for.
What Has Happened?
One way to look at something like this would be to say that an emotional wound was triggered and this was why they behaved in a way that was ‘out of character’. Shortly after something like this has taken place, it can be normal for someone to wonder what happened and how what happened was not like them.
Without realising it, an emotional wound would have been triggered and the conscious part of their being would have gone offline. Their weak conscious mind was then no match for their powerful unconscious mind.
The emotional wound in question here can be the result of what they have experienced as an adult or it may go back to what took place during their early years. Ignoring the inner wounds within them won’t make them disappear, as is exemplified by the example above.
Their conscious mind can resist what is taking place at a deeper level as much as it wants, but this is a battle that it can’t win. The more these inner wounds are pushed down and denied, the stronger they will become and the greater influence they will have on their life.
With this in mind, if someone wants to treat others how they like to be treated or to simply change their behaviour, it will be a good idea for them to heal the inner wounds that are within them. If they don’t do this, it will be perfectly normal for them to switch off, so to speak, and to behave in ways that don’t serve their highest good.
When it comes to healing these inner wounds, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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