Therapy: Does Someone Need To Be perfect In Order To Assist Others?

When someone has the desire to assist others, they can end up taking the next step. At the same time, they can also experience inner conflict, and this can then stop them from taking action.

In this case, one could believe that every area of their life needs to be going in the right direction. And so as this is not the case, they are going to stop themselves from taking action.

Moving Forward

It is going to be relatively easy for someone to take the next step when they don’t have this outlook. This doesn’t mean that this stage will be completely straight forward, as they could find that it pushes them to the limit.

However, through doing this, it will only be a matter of time before they will be able to achieve their goal. This could mean that one will want to assist people in every area of their life, or they may want to focus on a certain area.

Training

They could get the training they need by going to university, or by taking some kind of course. Therefore, it could be a matter of months or even years before they are ready to assist others.

But as they are doing something that matters, there is a strong chance that they will be more than happy to wait. During this time, certain doubts could also arise, and they will be able to work through them.

A Balanced Outlook

When one takes action, they could believe that it is not necessary for them to have their whole life in order. Or they could believe that they only need to have the one area sorted; with this being the area that they want to assist others in.

Through having this outlook, they won’t weigh themselves down with unnecessary pressure, and this will allow them to use their energy in a constructive manner. It could then be said that they have the right approach, and this is because they are only human.

Challenges

They may have overcome a number of things already, and this will then have given them something that can’t be bought. Along with this, they are likely to have the traits that are needed in this kind of work.

For example, one thing they are likely to have is the ability to empathise with others. They may find that people often recognise this ability in them, and they may have noticed that not everyone has the same level of empathy as they do.

Born To Do It

In fact, one may even feel as though this is what they came here to do; it is then going to be something that they can’t overlook. The training they get will then add to what they already have to offer.
If this wasn’t the case, one could get the right training and they might not have the right personality to do it. What this emphasises is that there is two sides to this, and that it is not just about having the right training.

Belief

Thus, when one has the ability to assist others in this way and they are able to take the next step, they will be able to fulfil their purpose. What this shows is how important it is for someone to believe in themselves.
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When they are unsure of whether they have what it takes, it is not going to matter if they have the ability to assist others. One will then know what their purpose is, but that will be as far as it goes.

Two Sides

This will then cause one to suffer unnecessarily and the sooner they change their outlook the better their life will be. Along with this, it is also going to stop other people from benefiting from the support that they have to offer.

There could still be moments when they do offer their support, but it is not going to be the same as it would be if they were to fulfil their purpose. And while they may wonder if they have what it takes, they could also believe that they need to be perfect.

A Closer Look

This could be a sign that they believe that the people who do assist others have it all together. On one side, it could be said that they have an idealised image of them, and on the other side, it could also be said that this is due to how some people come across.

For example, when someone assists others they can act as though they are above other people. Through coming across these people, one can believe that they also need to be at this level before they can be there for others.

Inner World

When one sees other people as being perfect and/or when they feel the need to be perfect, it could be said that they have low self-esteem. The way they perceive themselves is then stopping them from being able to move forward.

The way they see themselves could be the result of what has occurred in their adult years, or it may be the result of how they were treated as a child. Either way, it is going to be essential for them to deal with what is taking place within them.

Awareness

If one can relate to this and they are no longer willing to sabotage their life, they may need to work with a therapist. This can be a time where they will work through their limits, and this will then allow them to finally begin to fulfil their purpose.

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Oliver JR Cooper
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