Nowadays, it could be said that someone is far more likely to see a therapist than in the past, and this is partly because it is seen as being more acceptable than it once was. This has meant that people are less likely to suffer in silence.
And as mental and emotional problems are just as important as physical problems, this can only be a good thing. Even so, this is not to say that getting assistance for what is taking place within is as easy as getting assistance for what is taking place at a physical level.
When it comes to having a physical problem, there is a strong chance that one will go and see their doctor. This is the obvious thing to do and there is no reason for one to spend too much time thinking about it.
On the other hand, one can take a lot of time thinking about how they can find someone who can assist them. But if this is not the case, they can simply end up going to see their doctor.
During this time, there is also the chance that one will end up being put on some kind of medication. This can be seen as the easiest option, and one might feel as though they don’t have much choice.
Alternatively, one might talk about what they are going through and then end up being referred to a therapist. The therapist they are referred to could be someone who understands what they are going through, or this could be a more one-size-fits-all approach.
What this comes down to is that there are certain therapies or techniques that are often seen as being better than others. As a result of this, it can be normal for one to be told that a certain therapy will allow them to move forward, for instance.
Through being told this, one can then come to believe that they are on the right track and that they will soon be able to experience life differently. It could be said that this is exactly what one would want to hear if their life is not going as they would like it to go.
Yet even though there are plenty of people who go this route, there are plenty of people that don’t. Instead, they can end up looking for a therapist themselves, and this could cause them to go online.
One could be in a position where they know exactly what they need, or they may just want someone to assist them. It may only be a matter of time before they find someone who they believe can assist them.
One of the good things about today’s world is that one can work with someone online, and this means that it no longer matters where they live on this planet. That’s as long as they have an internet connection.
So if they can’t find someone to assist them in their area, for instance, they can look for someone is another country. In this sense, there is no reason why one shouldn’t be able to find someone to assist them.
The Next Step
After they have had their first appointment, they may find that they start to feel different. One could then come to the conclusion that they are working with the right person, and they might then look forward to their next appointment.
As to how many they have can all depend on what is taking place for them and how they respond. Thus, after a few appointments one could be on their way, or they might need a number of them.
For example, if one has just experienced a breakup and they are not in a good place, they might need to work with someone for a number of months. Yet if they are low on confidence, they might not need a lot of support.
Along with this, if one’s early years were abusive it might be a matter of years, not months, before they are able to stand on their own two feet. This can be a time where one will be finding themselves for the first time as opposed to getting back in touch with themselves.
However, although one might experience progress after their first appointment or after a number of them, they may also find that nothing has really changed. Or if they do change during this time, they may find that they only get so far.
One could then begin to wonder if they are doing something wrong, and their therapist may also see if they are holding themselves back. There is then the chance that they fear moving for forward.
A Different Approach
This can then show that one is experiencing inner conflict and this is then why they can’t move forward. It will then be important for them to look into why this is and to work through it.
On the other hand, this could be a sign that one needs to try something else, and it is then not going to be because one is holding themselves back. Perhaps one is working with a therapist that is focused on their behaviour and/or what is taking place in their mind, when they really need to be working with someone that focuses on what is taking place in their body.
The Wrong Approach
What this shows is that there is no such thing as a one-approach-fits-all and that one will need to find the right approach in order to move forward. Without this understanding, it can be easy for them to blame themselves for what is taking place.
It is then similar to one using a hammer to try and cut a tree down and then feeling as though there is something wrong with them when it doesn’t work. In reality, they just need to use the right tool for the job.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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