"This Guy Has Good Boundaries!"

As I look back on my journey, I can see that there have been a number of moments when what I was doing no longer worked. And, when this has happened, it has caused me to look for something else.

One of the moments that comes to mind is in the middle of 2009, as this was a time when what I was doing was no longer cutting it. Soon enough, I came into contact with someone called Simon Rose.

An Opening

Although I can’t remember exactly how I came across his website, what I do remember is that it showed up at just the right time. His method of healing was called Reference Point Therapy, and this was all about getting to the root of the problem.

And as this was something that appealed to me (and still does), I ended up reading his blog. Soon after, I ended up getting in contact with him in order to find out more about what this method was all about.

The Next Step

After hearing more, I soon came to the conclusion that I needed to learn about what this guy was teaching. I think it was only a matter of weeks or months before he would be teaching a few courses in London.

Once I had signed up for these courses, I couldn’t wait to get started - I was raring to go. During the time that I was on these courses, what stood out was that he was sharp, smart and knew what he was talking about.

There Was More

There was another course after this, but I wasn’t sure about whether I was going to do it. In the mean time, I had the chance to go along to a free healing clinic, which was part of the final course, at a university in London.

My father and a close friend also came along too. This was a time when I had the chance to find out more about this course, and my father and my friend were able to experience the technique for themselves.

Another Part

I decided to do the next course in Belgium, and this was a time when I learnt about boundaries for the first time. Whilst I was on this course, I thought about how this was someone who had good boundaries.

Before this, I don’t think I had ever seen someone behave in an assertive manner; he didn’t walk over others and neither did he allow other people to walk over him. I soon realised how important it was to have boundaries.

A Big Effect

When we have boundaries, we will feel safe enough to express who we are, and this will allow us to say yes, and no, at the right moments. As if we can’t say no, they we can’t say yes either.
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The reason for this is that if we can’t say no, we will only be saying yes to please others. Our own needs are then going to be ignored and this is going to make it hard for us to live a fulfilling life.  

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