During my time in Sweden, Stockholm, I was reminded of how good it was to travel. Before I went away, the last time I went aboard was a number of years ago, and this meant that I had pretty much forget about what it was like to go away.
When I was away, it was clear that I was the one who had to get the ball moving, so to speak, or nothing would happen. There wasn’t someone else who would make things happen.
In The Beginning
Now, I did go there to meet a friend but I wasn’t going to be meeting him straight away. Thus, it was down to me to decide what I wanted to do before I saw him and then to take action.
Through taking action I ended up feeling strong and capable, yet this wouldn’t have been the case if I had just sat around doing nothing. There were times when I felt uncomfortable but shortly after I felt more confident.
Just How it Works
What this made me think about is how it is not uncommon for someone to have the desire to be more confident, and to try to achieve this directly. I thought that this is something that usually takes place indirectly.
So, by doing something that makes us feel uncomfortable, we often end up feeling more confident. Confidence is then not something that we can just attain; it is something that we experience after we have done something that has pushed us past our comfort zone.
If you don’t use it, you lose it
With this in mind, confidence is not something that can be developed and that’s the end of it. In the same way that a plant will die if it is not watered, our confidence will begin to subside if we don’t do things that challenge us.
Confidence, then, works in the same way as just about everything else on this planet - in so far as it is either growing or dyeing. Each challenge that we face can then give us the strength that we need to move forward.
A Different Environment
Back to my experience, I was in another country and this meant that I was out of my comfort zone, which stopped me from simply going through the motions. I had to become more active in order to make the most of my time there.
My way of looking at all this is that being away gave me the opportunity to strengthen the masculine element within me. This is something that exists in all of us, regardless of what gender we are.
I am often very aware of this side of my nature, so it doesn’t take a lot for me to realise when this part of me is not getting what it needs. If this part of you is not very developed, this may change if you were to travel.
Being away would give you the chance to get out of your comfort zone and it would be down to you to take action. And if you are already in touch with this part of you nature, going away is still likely to benefit you.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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