Taking action is one thing, but it is another thing altogether as to whether or not the action someone takes is coming from their true essence or their need for approval. One of the best ways for someone to find out is to take the time to reflect on why they are doing something.
What this then means is that instead of doing something because the urge is there, one can take a step back and tune into themselves. If they are used to getting an urge to do something and then doing it, this might be a challenge.
When it comes to their true essence, this is the part of them that doesn’t need acceptance, approval or attention. The urge will come up for them to express themselves in a certain way or to experience something.
Yet, when it comes to an urge that is coming from their ego, this part of them does need acceptance, approval and attention. The urge to do something will then be the result of their need to gain something from someone else.
A Different Energy
When it comes to the former, the urge within them can be fairly quiet, and this is why they will need to have a good connection with their body. If they don’t, it won’t be possible for them to hear their inner guidance.
On the other hand, when it comes to the latter, the urge within them can be very loud. In this case, this is something that can be coming from their mind as opposed to their body.
One of the reasons why it can be far easier for someone to listen to their head than their body is due to what took place during the beginning of their life. For one thing, early trauma and/or neglect may have caused them to disconnect from their body and to live in their head.
And, even if something like this didn’t take place, they would have most likely spent years in an education system that trained them to look outside for answers. Experiencing one of these things is enough, but experiencing both will have most likely stopped one from forming a strong connection with themselves.
When someone doesn’t have a strong connection with their body and is caught up in their head, a lot of their attention will be directed towards the external world. They will need to be aware of what will allow them to receive attention, approval and acceptance; otherwise they won’t be able to take care of other egos needs.
By spending so much time on what is taking place externally, it won’t leave them with much time to focus on what is taking place deep within them. So, instead of acting like an individual, they will be acting as though they are an extension of others human beings.
A Poor Replacement
The guidance from the universe that is available to them via the connection they have with own their body is then going to be overlooked. Their life is then not going to be an express of this guidance, it will be an expression of what will please others (or what they think will enable them to please others).
One way of looking at this would be to say that they will see other people as parental figures, thereby stopping them from realising that these people are also children of the universe. Some of these people will be in tune with themselves and some of them wont, but none of them are going to be all-knowing gods.
A Clear Sign
If someone feels the need to do something and they end up noticing that it is being driven by the need to look good, to be respected, to be seen or anything else that relies on the approval of others, it is likely to show that it is coming from their ego. This doesn’t mean that one should end up judging themselves for having these desires.
They can simply become aware of them and see how behaving in this way is not going to be as fulfilling as it would be for them to listen to the guidance that is within them. What can cause someone to take a step back and to look into why they do what they do is if they have experienced a number of setbacks.
What can also play a part in this is if someone’s appearance has started to change and it is no longer as easy for them to gain approval for others. This will have been painful but, on the plus side, it will have given them the opportunity to embrace who they are.
Yet, regardless of how old someone is, it will be a lot easier for them to listen to themselves and then to express who they are when they feel safe enough to do so. And what can stop them from feeling safe is trauma.
This can relate to the moments they have had in their adult life when they felt overwhelmed, and it can go back to what took place when they were younger. These moments would have taken away their inner stability and security – or, if this was how they felt on a regular basis when they were younger, it would have stopped them from being able to develop inner stability and security to begin with.
Along with this, it would have made it harder for them to feel rooted in their body, making it difficult for them to tune into themselves. If someone can relate to this, they may need to reach out for the support of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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