When it comes to whether someone does or doesn’t do something, it could typically depend on if it is right for them. In others words, they won’t have the inclination to do along with what other people are doing.
What this is likely to show is that they have a good connection with their needs and feelings. However, the connection that they have with themselves is not going to be the only thing that allows them to experience life in this way.
What will also play a part here is that behaving in this way is likely to be what feels safe. If one only had a strong connection to themselves but they didn’t feel safe enough to listen to themselves, their life probably wouldn’t be the same.
So through being able to pay attention to the information that is inside them, they will live a life that reflects who they are. Thanks to this, their life is likely to be very fulfilling.
The Only Way
One way to look at this would be to say that this is how someone should live; after all, it is not as though other people know what is best for them. Thus, if they were to look towards others to tell them how they should live their life, it would set them up to lead a life that is anything but fulfilling.
Nonetheless, while this is the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone will experience life in this way. There are likely to be plenty of people that are out of touch with their true essence.
A Different Life
When someone is out of touch with their needs and feelings, it will be normal for them to please other people. Doing what they can to do what other people want – along with what they think they want – is going to be their priority.
Now, this doesn’t mean that they will never come into contact with their needs and feelings. Yet, even when they do, they could end up overlooking what is taking place inside them.
A Momentary Boost
Living in this way is not going to be very fulfilling, but pleasing others will most likely allow them to experience positive feelings. There could also be other ways for them to keep their true feelings at bay.
For example, one could take or do something that will allow them to experience an artificial high. What this shows it that one is going to use a lot of their time and energy to keep what is taking place in their body at bay.
One is then going to have a head and a body, yet they are not going to have a strong connection with what is taking place in their body. In a way, it will be as if one has a big house but they only use a small part of it.
Staying out of their body and living in their head is likely to be what feels comfortable. There is a strong chance that one has lived in this way for as long as they can remember.
If one is in touch with their body, it can be hard for them to understand how someone could live in this way. Due to the fact that their body is connected to them, it could seem as though it would be impossible for them to lose touch with this part of their being.
What this is likely to illustrate is that they have more or less always had a good connection with their body. In order for them to truly understand this, they would need to lose touch with their body.
When one is out of touch with their body and therefore, finds it hard to connect with their needs and feelings, amongst other things, there is the chance that they have been this way for a very long time. If they were to become aware of how they experience life and they were to reflect on why they are this way, their mind could go blank.
If so, there is the chance that what took place during their early years played a big part in why they are not an integrated human being. At this stage of their life, their true-self may have been completely disregarded.
A Closer Look
Maybe, they were brought up by caregiver/s that saw them as an extension of themselves, meaning that they were unable to see them as a separate being. This would have meant that they generally overlooked their needs and feelings.
Being treated in this way would have been extremely painful, and leaving their body would have been the only way for them to handle this pain. Focusing on their caregiver/s needs would have been a matter of survival.
This should have been a stage of their life when they received what they needed to develop in the right way. Instead, it was time in their life when they gradually lost touch with their body and experienced a lot of pain.
One is then going to look like an adult, but on the inside, they can feel like a neglected child. The child within them is going to be carrying a lot of pain and there will be a lot of things that it wants to say.
If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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