Although everyone has their own truth on this planet, it doesn’t mean that each one of them finds it easy to express their truth. And this includes what one says to others and what one says to themselves. There will be things that one needs to say to another or others and there will also be certain things that one needs to listen to from within.
So it is a two way process and while other people can stop one from speaking their truth, one can also ignore their own inner truth; the repression can then work both ways. And it is often said that while other people won’t always listen to what one has to say, it doesn’t mean that one has to copy this approach and ignore themselves.
This outer truth can all depend on what the situation is. It doesn’t necessarily relate to one having some kind of divine truth to express. What it could be is something far more mundane and appropriate to what is taking place. Perhaps one feels threatened or compromised in some way and needs to speak up.
Or one could want to ask another a question or to approach someone, but for some reason they hold back and end up going against this need or want.
Creativity is another aspect of one’s truth and this could include acting, singing or some kind of speaking; such as public speaking for instance. The desire to engage in one or all of these activities could be there and yet one avoids taking part in them.
On the inside this can relate to ones thoughts feelings, emotions and sensations. And their wants, needs and desires are also part of this. It can be easy to ignore some of these things or to ignore almost all of them.
This could be something that one is aware of doing or what they do without any kind of awareness. They then simply have no recollection of what they are or are not paying attention to.
Here, one could end up feeling down, empty, low or that something is missing and all because they are not listening to what their body is telling them. This is naturally leading to different challenges and primarily to a sense of being disconnected from oneself.
And when one doesn’t listen to what is going on internally, it often leads to people following the same pattern externally. So the external world mirrors the inner approach that one has and can end up enforcing it. Making one believe that if no one else listens to them, then why they should listen to themselves.
However, if one did listen to themselves, other people would be more likely to respond to them. Not every one of course, but other people would pick up on their own inner certainty and respond accordingly.
The Other Extreme
While some people can cover up and not express their truth, there can be other people who go to the other extreme. This person will show no restraint in speaking up for themselves and it won’t matter if it is safe or appropriate, they will just vocalise what it going on for them.
Whereas the person on the other side of the spectrum may have a weak voice or talk quietly, this person could have a strong voice and talk loudly. They act as if they have no connection to their environment or any kind of feedback mechanism and can come across as overwhelming or even obnoxious.
The area of the throat as where one can feel the need to communicate and so when there is a block, it can lead to different problems in ones throat. And so when one doesn’t speak up or listen to themselves, tension can arise here.
In the short term it could be mild and become far more significant if this was to become a common occurrence in someone’s life. This could appear in the form of a sore throat or one losing their voice for instance.
For someone to fear speaking their truth or going to the other extreme and not knowing when to keep quiet and when to speak up, something has ended up being out of alignment. The inner balance has been thrown out and one is caught between the two extremes. It will also be possible for one to switch between the two styles.
So during some situations they could deny their truth and in others, they could go to the other extreme and express it without any thought of the consequences. And one could express their truth without any thought in one situation and practically lose their voice in another.
There could have been a moment or moments in their adult life or during their childhood years that created this challenge. During this time, one would have come to see that is wasn’t safe to have a voice.
And although times have changed, this association still exists and one continues to create the same reality or to interpret reality in the same way. The actors might have changed, but the story is still the same.
This could include all kinds of different scenarios that were repeated consistently, to something that only occurred once, but was extremely traumatic nevertheless. One could have been brought up by a caregiver that was verbally abusive and critical and stopped one from ever speaking up. It was then safer to swallow ones truth and not to let anyone know about it.
To have a caregiver that was emotionally unavailable could cause one to think their needs or wants are not important and so one doesn’t mention them to anyone.
If one had a caregiver that was self consumed, they probably wouldn’t have had any time or interest in others and so one ended up feeling invisible and that their voice didn’t matter.
And when it came to one being creative, ones caregivers could have been extremely critical and demeaning; so one came to associate creativity with rejection, humiliation and shame.
As one was not heard by others, they can internalise this approach and end up denying their own truth. Or one could end up fearing what they will find and so continue to cover up what is going on within.
So the ego mind can still hold onto the past and cause one to feel unsafe when it comes to embracing their truth. And the feelings and emotions that were experience during these early years could have ended up being trapped in one’s body; simply because it wasn’t safe to express them.
The mind might have moved from those years, but the body is still living there due to these trapped feelings and emotions.
To release them one can seek the assistance of a therapist of a healer. Here, one can gradually start to feel safer when it comes to expressing their truth and to know when it is the right time to do so; as well as listening to what is going on within them.
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 26 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.