When I look back on my life, I can see that my healing journey began in 2003 when I met my first mentor. This was a woman who I would go on to study with for a number of years.
During our time together, I would go on study Reiki healing and NLP. It wasn’t just the qualifications that I picked up that made the difference, though; it was having the opportunity to spend time with someone who understood me, didn’t think I was strange and listened to what I had to say.
This was a long time ago but I remember those moments clearly, perhaps this is because this was the first person I met on the path. I can also remember all of the other mentors and healers that I have worked with since that time.
Thanks to all the experiences that I have had so far, there is a lot that I have picked up along the way. Looking back, I can see that there have been a number of challenges that I have had to overcome in order to move forward.
Mapping It Out
So, what I would like to share with you are some of the challenges that you may encounter whilst you are on your healing journey. Ultimately, these are things that can slow you down and stop you from living a fulfilling life.
What I can say is that if I knew about all of these things in the beginning, I would have certainly gone down a different route. At the same time, if my life had been different, I might not be able to share anything like this.
At the start of your healing journey, you may feel the need to tell just about everyone you know about what you are going through and what you are learning. To have the desire to reach out to others is the normal, healthy thing to do.
However, although there will be people that will be happy to listen to what you have to say and to support you, there can be those that are unable to do so. There can be a number of reasons as to why this is but it will be important for you to not take what happens personally.
Another thing that you may hear from people, even those that have your best interests at heart, is that you just need to let go and to put the past behind you. Another way of looking at this would be to say that some people will invalidate your experience.
Someone like this won’t understand what you are going through and they won’t be interested in putting themselves in your shoes, for whatever reason. Again, keep in mind that this is not personal, and allow experiences like this to teach you discernment, so you know who deserves to hear about what you are going through and who can truly be there for you.
If you focus solely on your healing and neglect other areas of your life, you are likely to find that you feel even worse. What this comes down to is that what we focus on grows, which is why it will be vital for you to be mindful of where your attention goes.
I know only too well that this can be incredibly hard, especially if your emotions are all over the place. If this is the case, do what you can to nourish the areas of your life that bring you happiness and fulfilment.
Since working on your inner baggage by yourself and/or with external support, you may find that you feel worse than you did before. This can simply put down to the fact that you are facing what you have overlooked for however long, so it is to be expected that you will feel worse off – at least in the short-term.
At the same time, if you find that you continue to feel worse and that nothing really changes, it could show that you need to try another approach. The reason for this is that certain techniques/therapies will cause you to become more attached to your story and make it even harder for you to actually move forward.
What this last point brings into focus is that to your ego-mind, what is familiar is what is classed as what is safe. The negative feelings that you experience, for instance, that you want to let go off can be associated as what is safe.
Therefore, while you will consciously want to move on from them, another part of your being will want to hold onto them. The reason that this point is connected to the one before, then, is that if you are not aware of this, you can unknowingly engage in things that fulfil your ego-minds need to hold on but not your need to let go.
Lastly, there something called the healing paradox and this means that the more you want to heal, the harder it can be for you to heal. To me, this comes down to the fact that what is resisted is what will persist.
Thus, while it is a good thing that you are taking reasonability for your own wounds and want to let them go, keep in mind that getting too attached to this will most likely hold you back. As I touched upon in point three, it will be essential for you to be aware of what you focus on and what you emotionally feed into.
How Can I Serve You?
There are a number of other points that I could have gone into but this has given you a number of things to consider when it comes to your healing journey. If you need additional support right now, one of the ways that I can provide this is for you is through the personalised consultations that I offer via Skype or Zoom.
If you would like to know more, please go to – www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/consultations. If you are committed to your own healing, it would be an honour to assist you on your journey.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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