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You Are The Light At The End Of The Tunnel!

18/8/2018

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A number of months ago I was talking to my friend Wain about how important it is to keep going and not to give up.  After this, I think I said that if we do this, the light at the end of the tunnel will appear.

He went on to share something that one of his friends had said to him around his topic. This friend had told him that it wasn’t that a light at the end of the tunnel would just appear; it was that one would make it appear.

A Different Perspective

Therefore, when someone is going through a challenging time, someone or something ‘out there’ is not going to come and save them. The person who is going through a challenging time will be the same person who will get them to the other side.

It could then be said that this is a more empowering way of looking at this, as one will be in touch with their own power. On the other hand, if they were to believe that the light at the end of the tunnel will appear if they keep going, it will create the impression that this is all happening to them.

Out of Balance

One is then going to be just an observer of their reality as opposed to someone who is co-creating their reality. If one believes that they are powerless and that they need someone or something out there to save them, it is naturally going to be a lot harder for them to accept this.

But, as hard as it may be for them to realise that the power to change their life is within them, this will be the best way for them to change their life and to live a life that is worth living. Being in touch with their inner power will not only allow them to change their life, it will also make them feel better.

Another Moment

When my friend said about being the light at the end of our own tunnel, I didn’t think much about it after we went our separate ways. I only started to really think about all this when I caught up with another friend the other day.

I asked him how he had been and he said that he had been through a tough time over the last few years. He said that he just had to keep going and that it was clear that no one else was going to come to the rescue.

One Direction

I said I knew exactly what he meant as I went through an incredibly difficult time when my father passed on and all my early wounds came to the surface. I spoke about what I have mentioned above, with how we are both the tunnel and the light at the end of it.

He agreed with what I said, saying that ‘you are the one who has to pull yourself through it; no one else is going to come and do it for you’. What he said resonated with me – if I hadn’t kept going during my dark moments, I might not even be here today.

Final Thoughts

At the same time, this is not to say that I believe that we are our own island; we all need support from time to time. What I believe it comes down to is that we need to take the first step and play our own part.

And if we need support, it will be vital that we reach out for it. While I played my part during the moments in my life that pushed me to the edge, if it wasn’t for the support that I reached out for I probably wouldn’t be writing this. 
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So, the main thing is that you keep going and don’t give in no matter what: you have the power to change your life and this is what you deserve. My father would often say ‘you keep at it mate’ and ‘you are doing it, that’s the main thing’, and there is no doubt that these words have served me well over the years.

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