About a week ago, I was looking through a book called ‘The Heart of the Soul: Emotional Awareness’ by Gary Zukav and Linda Francis. What first caught my attention was the book’s subtitle, and this was because I had used this term for the main title on a number of articles.
It soon became clear that this was a book that was filled with solid information; if I hadn’t of had a number of books on the go, I would have bought it. Part of this book went into what someone can do when they are trying to avoid their pain.
A Common Occurrence
It goes into how this is something that can take place when someone wants another person to save them. What came to mind during this time was that this is what someone can believe will happen when they get into a relationship.
At the same time, this is something that can happen long before they have even reached this stage; with them believing that another person will do this shortly after they have met them. This is not to say that they will consciously see them as saviour, as it is likely to take place outside of their conscious awareness.
Up and Down
This person will then be elevated and seen as the one who will completely change their life. In the short-term, it might seem as though their life will never be the same, and this is naturally going to cause them to feel good.
But, as time passes, it is likely to become clear that the person they are with is not the savour that they wanted. Ideally, this would be a time when they would step back and reflect on their behaviour.
Even so, it might not be long until they come into contact with someone else who they believe will save them, and the same process could play out all over again. There could be a certain type of person that they go for, too.
For example, they could be drawn to people who are older and have a lot of power, or they could simply be drawn to people who come across as strong and appear to have it all together. This is, of course, not the only area of life where someone can look for a saviour.
Someone could have a teacher or a mentor, for instance, who they have put on a pedestal, believing that this person will change their life. This person could encourage them to take responsibility or they could be happy to make out that they are there to save them.
When one believes that they need to be saved, it is likely to show that they are out of touch with their own power. Additionally, they could be carrying a lot of emotional pain in their body.
When someone sees another person as a saviour, it is as though they are looking at them through the eyes of a child. And, if they feel like a powerless child, it is to be expected that they will feel the need to be saved and see others as being more capable than they are.
This is not to say that someone like this shouldn’t reach out for external support, as their life will change if they receive the right support. The assistance of a therapist or a healer may be needed here.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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