In today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they have ‘low self-esteem’, that’s if their life is a certain way and/or if they behave in a certain way. The same thing could also be said if they experience a lot of ‘negative’ thoughts.
So, someone may find that it is hard for them to assert themselves and to say no at the right time. Or, perhaps they have settled for a job that is not fulfilling or are in a relationship that doesn’t serve them.
The List Goes On
There are many other things that are seen as being a sign of low self-esteem, and as time passes, more things are bound to be added. Based on this, if someone is in this position it will be vital for them to increase their self-esteem.
In a way, it will be as though self-esteem is a liquid and, as their liquid is low, they will need to top it up. Once this part of them has been tipped up, the different symptoms that they have will disappear.
A Common Approach
If they were to reach out for support, they may be told that this will take place when they change their ‘negative’ thoughts and beliefs. Monitoring their mind and choosing to have ‘positive’ thoughts will be vital, as will challenging what they believe about themselves.
They could also be told that they need to focus on what they are good at, to be compassionate to themselves, and to start saying no, amongst other things. After applying what they have learnt for a number of weeks or months, they may start to see an increase in the amount of self-esteem ‘liquid’ that they have within them.
The Main Focus
When this approach is taken, someone’s emotional body is likely to be overlooked. Still, as it is commonly believed that ‘it is all about the mind’ when it comes to mental, emotional and behavioural problems, this might not even stand out.
They might not even realise that they have an emotional body and the person who gives them this advice might not realise it either. It is then not that anything is being overlooked as its existence is unknown.
Another way to look at the emotional body would be to say that it is the unconscious mind. This is the part that someone’s mind can be disconnected from, with this being the result of years and years of repression.
Their unconscious mind will then just be below their head, but due to how disconnected they are from it, it can be as though it is located on another planet. Nonetheless, while they can have a very weak connection with this part of them, what is taking place in this part of them can be what is causing them to have low self-esteem.
If this is the case, what is taking place up top is merely going to be reflection of what is taking place down below. Therefore, trying to change what is taking place up top can cause them to become even more estranged from what is taking place in their body.
Their body will be trying to communicate with them, but instead of listening to this part of them and looking into what is going on, they will try to push it away again. Like a parent that ignores their child, they will ignore their bodies cry for attention.
When it comes to what is taking place in their body, it can be the result of what they experienced during the beginning of their life. What happened will then be ‘in the past’, but the emotional experience of what happened will be held in their body.
Through processing the emotional pain that is in their body, they may find that their mind starts to settle down, that they become more loving to themselves, and that they feel better. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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