One thing that is often said by people in the self-development world is that it is important not to care about what other people think. This is not the only area where this is said, though, as there are plenty of pages on social media where quotes are shared that have the same message.
Taking this into account, it is likely to be a big surprise if someone hasn’t come across these words or words that have the same meaning at least once. And if someone hasn’t heard this from these two sources, they may have heard it from a friend or a family member, for instance.
What is clear is that if someone does care about what other people think, it is going to be a challenge for them to express themselves. Before they do, they will need to get permission from others.
Their true-self is then going to be watered down and it could be said that they will live a ‘half-life’. The fact is that there are always going to be some people who are not on board with how they behave and won’t agree with how they want to live their life.
Part of Life
However, just because another person doesn’t agree with how they behave or is unable to support their vision, it doesn’t mean that they should throw the towel in, so to speak. Ultimately, they are not here to please other people; they are here to live a life that matches up with who they truly are.
If they allow other people to define how they live their life, they are simply giving their power, and their life, away. Living this way will fill them with regrets and they will end up living a life that is not really worth living.
Easier Said Than Done
But, while the above is perfectly clear to anyone who has thought about this, it doesn’t mean that it is easy for someone to no longer care about what others think. If it was, there would be no reason for them to care about what other people think to begin with.
If someone was to imagine themselves behaving in a certain way, they might end up experiencing a fair amount of discomfort. One way of looking at this would be to say that this shows that they need to learn how to ‘manage’ their thoughts.
It’s all About the Mind
Once they are able to get their mind under control, they will be able to live their own life. At the same time, what this could show this that they are carrying a fair amount of trauma that needs to be resolved.
Playing around with their mind is then not going to be the answer; what they will need to do is to work through the trauma that is in their body and brain. As this is dealt with, their mind should settle down and there will be less need for them to worry about what others think.
The mind receives a lot of attention when it comes to self-development, but this part of someone only plays a small part in why they behave the way they do. What is taking place at a deeper level, their body, has a far greater affect.
If someone finds it hard to express who they are, they may need to reach out for external support. With the assistance of a therapist or a healer, for instance, they will be able to process the pain that is within them.
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Oliver JR Cooper
Oliver JR Cooper
Author of 25 books, Transformational Writer, Teacher & Consultant.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.