It has been said that while there was a time when the western world needed feminism, this time has long gone. Now, while it this is something that someone can come out with if they are not a feminist; this is not always the case.
There are a number of feminists who have this outlook and naturally, this is going to cause them to be criticised, and even verbally abused, by the feminists that don’t. What can add weight to this view is the kind of things that some feminists focus on in today’s world and the fact that there are a lot of men who are not doing well. A Different Agenda For example, recently a number of feminists were behind the call for walk-on girls and ring girls to lose their jobs. These women had their reasons for being against this, but this resulted in a number of women being out of work. As a result of this, women who were feminists and women who were not were baffled by what took place. Their main issue with this was that if these feminists want to empower women to live their own life and to make their own choices, why are they behaving like tyrants? Another Form of Oppression These types of feminists are then going to be happy to talk about how they are ‘oppressed’ by the patriarchy, yet they are going to be oblivious to how oppressive they are. What they will do is justify their behaviour, making out that they are there to protect these women. A feminist like this is then going to believe that she has the moral high ground and that she is more capable than these women. This is then the reason why she needs to act like a matriarch and to treat these women as though they are children. One Big Cover Up Through being exposed to this kind of behaviour, it is going to be normal for the average person to wonder what is going on. It could seem as though they are not against oppression, as long as they themselves are the oppressors. The image that they present of being holier-than-thou is then going to be nothing more than an illusion. Behind the facade that she presents to the world, there is likely to be a big part of her that wants to control everything. The Next Thing Once these types of feminists had destroyed the careers of these women, they had another ‘important’ issue to deal with. This is likely to be seen as being even more serious, as it relates to a ‘hate crime’. When a man wolf whistles or cat calls a woman, he is going to be seen as doing something that is ‘misogynistic’. It is then not that a man will do these things because he is attracted to a woman; no, he will do something like this because he hates her. Up is down and down is up Clearly, there are going to be times when this kind of behaviour causes a woman to feel unconformable, but surely it is going a bit far to call this a ’hate crime’. The people who come up with things like this must believe that, deep down, all men hate women, so everything they do is an expression of this hate. Or another way of looking at it would be to say that they are wearing ‘hate’ glasses, which is why they filter everything through the lens of hate. Through being this way, it stops them from being able to think rationally and to see that not everything a man does (or anyone else for that matter) is motivated by hate. A Loss of Direction Perhaps the reason why these types of feminists are seeing problems when they are none is due to the fact that they have got what they wanted. So, instead of moving on and letting go of their victim status, they have to widen the goal posts. It is then not that they want to live in a world that is fair; they want to live in a world where they receive special treatment. They can’t accept that the world is not perfect and that suffering is part of life, and this is then why they need to blame men. Back To Reality But if they were able to extend themselves and to focus on the kind of challenges that men have in today’s world, they would see how out of balance they are. By focusing on their own problems, it would have caused them to have an idealised version of men. This outlook would then have made it easier for them to demonise them; after all, if they are so far up it won’t hurt to bring them down a peg or two. And through seeing them as ‘privileged’ and ‘oppressors’, among other things, there is also going to be no reason to empathise with them or to show compassion for their plight. The Power of the Mind However, if a feminist has been conditioned to believe that all women are ‘oppressed’ and all men, white men in particular, are ‘oppressors’, it is not going to be a surprise for her to behave in this manner. A woman like this is then not going to believe that she is playing a part in how she experiences life; she will see herself as an observer. What is taking place within her and how she behaves is not going to be seen as having an impact on what she sees or how other people respond to her. The problem with this outlook is that she is not merely an observer of her reality; she is playing a part in what she sees and what she doesn’t see, as well as how other people treat her. One Purpose Taking this into account, the conditioning that she has received in regards to men will have defined how she experiences life. When this information first started going into her mind, she may have believed that she was being informed. In reality, this would have been a time when she was being heavily indoctrinated. The people who were passing this information on were then not interested in showing her how to think; they were only interested in doing what they could to define how she would see the world and her behaviour. Conclusion If this took place when she was at university, it could mean that she paid to be indoctrinated. The question is: why would anyone want to control how another person sees the world? There are a number of reasons as to why this would happen, but what is clear is that painting all women as victims and all men as perpetrators is a great way to divide them. So, if a woman has issues with men, it might be a good idea for her to look into what she believes about them and then to work with a therapist or a healer if necessary.
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Sense Of Safety: If Someone Feels Unsafe Does It Mean That They Live In An Unsafe Environment?9/3/2018
In the same way that someone needs to eat in order to function at their best, it could also be said that they need to feel safe, too. The food they eat will give them the energy they need, but if they don’t feel safe enough to face the world, it won’t matter.
Taking this into account, the food that one eats can be seen as the fuel that goes into a car, and the engine of the car can be seen as one’s body. If the engine doesn’t want to run, as in their body doesn’t want to go anywhere, it won’t matter how much fuel is in the tank, or what they have eaten. The Difference Now, this is not to say that the only way that someone can live a fulfilling live is if they always feel safe. It could be said that it will be practically impossible for someone to experience life in this way. For example, if one was to try something new, it can be normal for them to experience a sense of discomfort. What they are doing is not going to be seen as familiar by their mind, so this will cause them to experience anxiety and even a fear. A Short-Term Experience Their mind will get used to what they are doing, though, and this is likely to mean that they will soon settle down. Once they have settled down, they could think about doing something else that will test them. And as this is not something that they experience all the time, this can be something that they find enjoyable. If, on the other hand, this was how they felt more or less all the time, this wouldn’t be the case. Avoidance One might then have the need to do everything they can to try to make sure that they don’t feel any worse. Ultimately, they are going to be in enough pain as it is without adding any more. To the outside observer, it could seem as though they like to play it safe and do everything they can to make sure they don’t feel uncomfortable. In their eyes, one could come across as someone who lacks courage. Way off the Mark However, if someone like this was to take the time to get to know them, they would soon find out that there is a lot more to it. For this to take place, they would have to put themselves in one’s shoes. Their mind would then need to be put to one side and they would need to reach out with their heart. Through doing this, they would gradually see that one has enough fear and anxiety within them; what they don’t need is any more. All Too Familiar Additionally, they could have moments when they are filled with terror, and this could mean that they find it hard to stay in their body. It is then not going to be uncommon for them to go up into their head or to dissociate. This is also going to mean that their body will freeze, make them want to run away, and even cause them to feel as though they need to defend themselves from time to time. So, even though they are not going to be able to embrace life, they are still going to use a lot of energy. Retraction Doing what they can to make sure that they are not seen by others is then going to be the key. Being themselves and expressing who they are is going to be too much of a risk; it will be far safer for them to hide. One is then going to physically hide or they will hide in plain sight. The fear within them is not going to want them to expand in any way; doing so will be seen as something that would end their life. Hell on Earth When someone experiences life in this way, they could be in an abusive relationship, or they could live in an environment that isn’t safe. The kind of relationship that they have with one person or what takes place in one environment is then going to define how they perceive the rest of the world. The ideal would then be for one to pay attention to what is going on within them and then to take action. Leaving the relationship or moving somewhere else would be the first thing that they could do, and they would have trauma to resolve. Inner Hell But while one can experience life in this way due to what is taking place externally, it can primarily be the result of what they are projecting onto the world. What this will show is that one is carrying trauma and this is why they find it hard to feel safe. One is then not going to need to be in situation where their life is at risk, in order to feel as though it is at risk. What this then means is that one can be in an environment that is completely safe and they can still feel unsafe. The Power of the Mind The fear, anxiety and even terror within them will make them feel as though they are unsafe and this will stop them from being able to be present. Along with this, their mind will filter everything through a certain lens. This leans will cause one to interpret everything through a lens of fear, thereby causing them to see danger where it doesn’t exist. What can make it just about impossible for them to realise what is going on is if they have experienced life in this way for as long as they can remember. Stepping Out If they were able to see that the only reason why they experience life in this way is because of how they feel on the inside and how their mind interprets the world, it would allow them to see that there is another way. This could show that one experienced trauma during the beginning of their life. Perhaps they were abused and/or neglected by their caregiver. These experiences would then have had a big effect on their mind and body, and defined what they believed about themselves and the world. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This is something can be provided by a therapist or a healer.
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I remember reading about my star sign in different papers when I was growing up and thinking how general it was. So, while I would read up on my sign from time to time, I wouldn’t take much notice of what I read.
After a while, I soon turned my back on it altogether and saw it as a bit of a joke. This was before I was on the path, and had started reading books on self-development and working through my own pain. The Birth Chart I couldn’t accept that my star sign was able to provide an adequate description of who I was or how I would live my life. However, in 2011 I came to see that there was far more to astrology that I had ever realised. A friend asked me for a few details so he could do my birth chart and, the details he wanted were: my date of birth, time of birth, and place of birth. I soon came to see that this was my full astrological portrait and that my star sign was just one part. A lot of Information What I had in front of me was nothing like what I had read about in a paper; it was the difference between a plate of food and a table full of different dishes. I came to see that I had four main signs. It didn’t stop there though, as there were all the planets and aspects that added even more depth. My mind was like a child in a toy shop; I couldn’t contain myself and I warned to look through everything. The Big Four I learnt that my star sign related to how people saw me when they got to know me; my ascendant/rising sign was how people saw me when they met me first the first time; my noon sign was my emotional style and how I responded to things, and my midheaven sign related to my life path. I ended up putting each of these signs into a search engine and going over page and pages of information. I wanted to find out as much as I could and to see how each sign affected me and the impact it had on the other signs. In the months and years that followed, I spent a lot of time and energy going through my birth chart. A Powerful Tool Doing this helped me to learn a lot about myself - I came to see that a lot of what I admired about others was waiting to be developed within me. Furthermore, there was also what I learnt about others. And although I have spent a lot of time looking through my chart over the years, even to this day I am still learning more. If I had had a closed mind and stood by the view that I had of astrology all those years ago, I would have missed out on a lot of powerful information. Final Thoughts I believe that it is important to have an open mind and to at least give something a try. This doesn’t mean that I have accepted everything I have read and gone along with something just because it paints me in a positive light – far from it. Also, thinking critically and questioning things will help to minimise the chances of being deceived and developing a big ego in the process. If you would like to look through your own birth chart, this can be done through typing ‘birth chart’ into a search engine.
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When someone exercises, they are likely feel better, and this can be how they feel for a little while afterwards. There are going to be a number of reasons as to why this is, but one of the things that will have had an effect is all of the energy that was released.
This is not the nutritional energy that was used while they exercised, it relates to the emotional energy that was burnt off. Letting go of the emotional energy that had built-up within them would have had a liberating effect. A Big Impact Therefore, although one probably wouldn’t have been able to see this energy before they exercised, it wouldn’t have stopped them from feeling different after it had been released from within them. Their body will feel lighter, which will have an effect on what is going on in their mind. This is then the opposite of what usually takes place when it comes to self-development, where the focus is on the mind. Instead of changing what is going on up top to influence what is going on down below, one will have done the complete opposite. A Clear Out At the same time, even though one might feel better it that doesn’t mean that they are completely aware of what has taken place. During this process, one may have let go of anger, anxiety, frustration and rage, among other emotions. Due to this, the energy within them will begin to flow and this is why they will feel alive. This could be how they usually feel, or they could find that they rarely feel this way. The Norm So, if this is how they usually feel, it could show that they have recently been through a stressful situation. As a result of this, it caused their body to feel heavy and stuck. Yet, as this is something that rarely takes place, there will be no need for them to become addicted to exercise. If they did have the tendency to feel flat and heavy, this might not be the case. Another Factor What is also likely to play a part in why they are not used to feeling weighed down is how they deal with their emotions in their day-to-day life. Through generally being aware of how they feel and taking action, it will stop them from having to sit on how they feel. If they had proclivity to ignore how they felt, these feelings would start to build-up within them. Their body would then gradually seize up in the process and they would start to lose motivation. A Powerful Emotion One is then likely to have a healthy relationship with their anger, meaning that they won’t see it as something that is ‘bad’. Experiencing this emotion will allow them to feel alive, but repressing it will have the opposite effect. Thus, the fact that they feel comfortable with this emotion is going to play a big part in why they are not accustomed to feeling as though they are dead on the inside. There is then going to be how one behaves when they experience anger. Information When someone experience anger, it is usually because they have been compromised in some way. With that in mind, one could get angry if another person crossed their boundaries. This will be a time when they stand their ground and let the other person know that their behaviour is not acceptable. Through doing this, they will be able to express themselves and this will enable them to experience a sense of control. Taking Action In a situation like this, one is going to do something about what has taken place, as opposed to simply tolerating someone else’s bad behaviour. What this is also going to show is that one values themselves. Additionally, they will feel as though it is safe enough for them to assert themselves on this planet. If they didn’t feel as though it was safe for them to do so, their life would be very different. Another Scenario When it comes to the people who don’t listen to their anger and sit on how they feel, they can be used to feeling flat and even depressed. Someone like this is rarely going to feel as though they are alive. If another person violates them in some way or if they are not happy about an area of their life, they might not do anything. One is going to be a human being, but it is as though they are more like a punch bag or a door mat. Pushing Back What they need to do is to assert themselves and to no longer tolerate anything that has a negative effect on them. Ignoring their anger is going to be what feels safe; the trouble with this is what it is causing them to suffer. There is likely to have been a time in their life when it wasn’t safe for them to assert themselves. This would then have set them up to disconnect from the part of them that is there to protect them. A Deeper Look Perhaps it wasn’t safe for them to stand their ground when they were growing up, with this being a time when they were abused and/or neglected. If they had tried to protect themselves, it might have caused them to experience even more pain. Their early years would have been a time when they had to disconnect from their survival instinct and being treated badly would have gradually felt comfortable. The years will have passed but what took all those years ago will still be defining their life. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to feel comfortable enough to assert themselves, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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For a number of months, I have thought about what was said during an English lesson while I was at school. A number of years have passed since that moment, but I can hear it as clear now as I did back then.
The main reason why I have thought about this moment in my life is due to what has been taking place on social media, at universities, and in the real world. Nowadays, it is often seen as perfectly acceptable for someone to label another person in some way, without providing any evidence. Two Ways This can mean that someone will call another person stupid or they could go even further, and say that they are racist, homophobic, xenophobic or islamophobic, for instance. When something like this takes palace, it will be as though they haven’t taken the time to engage their brain. If anything, what they have said will be more like a reaction, as opposed to something they have consciously thought about. Their response is then going to be very similar to how a reptile can just lash out. Acceptable Behaviour When a reptile behaves in this way it is excusable because they haven’t got the ability to think. Yet, when a human being behaves in this manner, it is not because this is the only thing that they can do. The trouble is that even though someone like this is not going to be engaging their brain, it doesn’t mean that they will feel bad afterwards; in fact, they can end up feeling good about themselves. Additionally, they can receive positive feedback from other people. Going Backwards Still, as surprising as it can be to see this kind of behaviour online or in the real world, it is even more surprising to see this at a university. This used to be somewhere where people would go to learn. Therefore, if someone doesn’t get taught how to engage their brain here; where are they going to learn how to do this? A university like this is then not going to allow someone to evolve; they are going to encourage them to devolve. Unbelievable When I first came across what was going on at certain universities I couldn’t believe my eyes. I had always believed that this was somewhere were people went to expand their mind and that you had to be really intelligent to go there. But after seeing this behaviour, it made me wonder what had happened to these places. It was as though they no longer existed to educate people and that their purpose was to indoctrinate them instead. Back In Time So, coming back to what was said during an English lesson at school, the teacher, Mr Wiseman, asked us to share our views on what we had just watched. I think it was Educating Rita or The Breakfast Club, or maybe another film that I would almost fall asleep to. One pupil put their hand up and said that it was ‘shit’ or something similar, and the teacher said that that was not an acceptable answer. He asked them to go into why they thought it wasn’t good, to explain how they came to that conclusion. The Missing Part The teacher was emphasising how important it was for us to engage our brain and not to just blurt out whatever came to mind. At this time, I knew that it wasn’t right to say something was ‘shit’, but I didn’t know much about what the teacher was trying to teach us. Nevertheless, behaving in a civilised manner was something that I was completely on board with. What was clear is that it took a lot more effort to come up with the reasons why something wasn’t good. Final Thoughts I believe that one of the main things that the educating system should do is to teach people how to think. If they don’t do this, they are simply teaching people what to think, and this is all about control. The purpose of education is surely to empower people and to give them the tools that they need to function at their best. Ultimately, using words as a way to try to silence others is easy; it is not as though someone needs to go to university to learn how to do this.
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If someone has watched at least one video of a speaker give a talk at a university, they may have seen a number of students try to silence the speaker. After seeing this, they may have wondered what was going on.
This would have been somewhere where people are supposed to go to engage their brain, but it would have been as though these people were unable to do this. Instead, their mind would have been closed and they would have resorted to violence. On The Outside Nevertheless, while it might have made them curious and even caused them to feel uncomfortable; they wouldn’t have had to experience this first-hand. One can then carry on with the rest of their life after watching a video like this. Alternatively, they can take a deeper look into what is going on; it is all going to depend on how much of an impact this has on them. On the other hand, if someone has been to one of these talks and experienced this in person, it is likely to be different. Part of Life This could be something that they have experienced on a number of occasions whilst they have been at university. But even if they have become accustomed to this kind of behaviour, it doesn’t mean that they accept it. They could say that these kinds of people are out of control and need to seek professional help. Then again, they could be more concerned with how uncomfortable they feel around them. The Civilised Approach If they have this perspective, it can mean that they are at university to develop themselves. Therefore, even if they hear things that make them feel uncomfortable, they are not going to try to silence others. They will question what they are told and be willing to change what they believe. Their desire to grow is then going to be far more important than their need to be right, which is then why they are university to begin with. Out of Control One way of looking at this kind of behaviour would be to say that it is no different to how some people behave when they have had too much to drink; they are going to be filled with rage and this stops them from being able to experience self-control. The difference here is that when someone behaves in this was at a university; they can believe that they have the moral high ground. Someone like this is then going to be right and this is what gives them the right to behave in this manner. And, through being so attached to what they believe, it stops them from being able to step back and to reflect on their own behaviour. A Big Problem What this emphasises is how dangerous it can be when someone is convinced that their views are right and the people who have different views are wrong, regardless of whether their views stand up to scrutiny. This person is going to reject anything that goes against what they believe. It is then clear that someone like this shouldn’t be anywhere near a university; if anything, they would be more suited to being part of a government that has absolute force over its citizens. They are not interested in respecting other people boundaries, and this is why they are happy to violate other people’s personal space. A Closer Look What needs to be looked at is why someone like this is so full of rage, can’t control themselves, and why they are happy to walk over others. Due to how they behave, it would be far better for them to fix themselves than to try to change the world. If they were able to take a step back and to reflect on their own behaviour, they might soon realise that they are doing more harm than good. Yet, unless they are able to calm down and to think rationally, this is not going to take place. Avoidance Someone like this is likely to believe that they are responding is this manner due to what is taking place around them. However, there is a strong chance that they were full of rage before they even started university. When they experience rage, they are going to feel strong and powerful; it could be as though they are invincible. But if they were to let go of this rage, they could end up feeling powerless and ashamed. Two Options As a result of this, it is not going to be hard to see why they are often consumed with rage. If they were to embrace how they feel at a deeper level, they would soon hit rock bottom and this would cause them face up to the shame that they continually try to project onto others. This is also explains why someone like this acts as though they are morally superior to just about everyone else - it allows them to disconnect from how bad they feel about themselves. Their behaviour is not a reflection of how moral they are; it is a mask that they wear to feel better. The Cause At the beginning of this person’s life, they may have been abused and/or neglected by their caregiver/s, and this means they would have experienced trauma. Through being violated at this stage in their life, they would have experienced rage and felt powerless and, as they were egocentric at this age, it would have caused them to believe that there was something inherently wrong with them. Facing how they feel is going to be too hard for them to handle and this is why they have gone from being a victim to acting like a perpetrator. This is someone who is in a lot of pain, with this being the reason why they cause other people to experience pain. Conclusion What this shows is how hard it can be for someone to tolerate their own shame; it is far easier to project it onto others. The downside to this is that one is not going to be taking responsibility for their own pain. The ideal would be for them to face up to how they feel and then to reach out for the right support; this would allow them to gradually heal themselves and this would stop them from harming others. If someone does want to heal themselves, this can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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A few weeks ago, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine called Wain, and this was a deep conversation. However, this was a conversation that was far deeper than usual and I ended up thinking about what we spoke about.
I won’t go too far into what we spoke about as I sure that he will want to talk about this when the time is right, but I will touch upon the general theme. This was a time when he spoke about the relationship that we have with everything. A Few Things He asked me what my relationship was like with my left hand and how I felt about this part of my body. After this, he went onto to say about the relationship that we have with the sun and the wind. What this was all about was how everything is connected and that nothing is truly inanimate. By thinking about all this, it emphasised how powerful our thoughts and feelings were, along with our beliefs. Many Sources I ended up talking about the relationship what we have with nature and how this can be a source of love and nurturance. I said these are things that we often look towards other people to provide and one person in particular. Over the years, I have gone for a number runs and walks through woods and the country side, so I know how good it can be to be in nature. When I have gone for a run, I haven’t really been able to take it all in, but this hasn’t been the case when I have been for a walk. Embracing the Moment The main difference is that when I go for a run, I have music in my ears and I’m in doing mode. Yet, when I go for a walk, my mind is not being stimulated by music and I can just be. When I have finished my walk and gone back home, I usually feel as though I have received something. I feel calmer, more connected to myself and the world around me, and grateful for what I have experienced. A Powerful Experience Since I have had these kinds of conversations with Wain, been reading a book called ‘E-Squared’, and felt more at peace within myself, among other things, I have experienced an even deeper connection to nature. What brought this to my attention was how I felt when I walked past a wooded area the other day. As soon as I got close by, it was as though I had just come into contact with an old friend who I felt completely at ease with and who I loved dearly. I felt really good and it was as though I had a deep connection with the tress. Another Moment Shortly after this, I went out when it had been snowing, and this was an incredible experience. Even though it was cold, what instantly stood out was how peaceful it was. I walked through the country lanes and then I walked through the woods; it was a very nurturing experience. Part of me feels sad that it’s over and wants to go through the whole experience all over again, and this shows that my mind formed an attachment to this moment. Final Thoughts There is the chance that a number people would think I’m crazy after reading this and wonder how something like this can take place. After all, it is only possible to have these kinds of experience with another human being, right!? I would say that this comes back to how disconnected so many people are in the world. If someone lives in their head and is out of touch with their body, it is going to stop them from being able to deeply connect to ‘mother’ earth; the earth, like their body, can be seen as just another thing that needs to be controlled. And if you would like to find out more about Wain, and the services that he offers, please go to - https://www.timetorelax.space/
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For a while now, there has people who have said about the no-go zones have been forming around Europe. However, although some people have been willing to listen to what these people have had to say, there have been others that haven’t.
Upon hearing something like this, it can be normal for someone to say that this is not something that has any basis in reality. It is then going to be as though this is something that is said to create fear and to put an end to the help that is being provided for people from others countries. Real Life Now, if someone says that there are no–go zones, it could just be a sign that they have heard about them through watching videos. As a result of this, this person might not be able to prove that they exist. However, the fact that the chancellor of Germany has now come out and said that they exist, shows that someone doesn’t need to watch a video to find out them; they can hear about them straight from the horse’s mouth. Then again, if someone lives near to one of these areas, they are not going to need to read about them in a paper and they won’t need to hear about them from the chancellor of Germany either. An Analogy If someone has heard about these zones from news outlets and even from the people they know, and they haven’t believed what they have heard, it can be due to where they live. Perhaps they live in an area that hasn’t really been affected by migration, which has allowed them to carry on as normal. This is then going to be very similar to someone who has a disease, but as the disease has only just formed, they won’t realise what is going on. Consequently, it can be as though they haven’t got anything wrong with them. A Matter of Time But unless something is done to what is going on within them, it will only be a matter of time before they can no longer experience life in the same way. In the same way, one might be able to carry on as normal for a while, but this is likely to change as more people from other countries enter their country. Nonetheless, this is not to say that everyone who comes into their countries will cause problems, far from it. Yet, if one was to believe that everyone who comes in will be a good natured human being, for instance, they are likely to be incredibly naive. A Different Point With that aside, if someone is white, they can say that Europe should take in as many people as possible, and they can come out with a number of reasons as to why this should take place. Firstly, they can say that we messed up their countries, so it’s only fair that we help them. Along with this, they can talk about colonisation and how we have to give back to the people that we took from in the past. When something like this is put forward, it is going to be as though white Europeans are the only race on the planet that has ancestors that have ever done anything wrong. Every other race on the planet will have ancestors that have only done good things. And if someone has this outlook, there is a strong chance that they will have been to university, or they might still be there. Self-Hate Someone like this can then feel incredibly guilty and ashamed due to what their ancestors supposedly did. Not only will they hate themselves and everyone else who has the same colour skin as they do, but everything they see will be seen as a reflection of the bad deeds that were committed in the past. So, if someone sees themselves and their country in this way, there is going to be no reason for them to protect what their ancestors have built. The best thing will be for their culture to be completely destroyed. Another Angle Let’s just say that what has been said above is true and that the ancestors of the white Europeans were the worst human beings to ever walk the planet, does that mean that their decedents deserve to suffer? To miss quote Ghandi, will an eye for an eye allow the whole world to see? To blame one generation for what their ancestors have supposedly done, would be similar to saying that one child is allowed to beat up another child due to what the child’s great-great-grandfather did to the other child’s great-great-grandfather when they were growing up. The only thing that this will show is that there is a lack of awareness, and this is why this would be allowed to take place. A Gradual Process When someone does hate themselves, along with the country that they live in, they won’t have ended up this way over night. What they have been told over the years by the media, the education system and the people in power, will have gradually worn them down. Therefore, they won’t need a gun to be held to their head to surrender; they have already given up. The part of them that is there to keep them alive and to protect them, their fight/survival instinct, will have been disowned. A Deeply Abusive Relationship It is then as though one is a victim and the sources mentioned above (the media, education system and people in power) are the perpetrators. In the same way that an abusive relationship can start of well, this will also have started of well but, as time passed, it would have gradually changed and began to undermine them. If the abuse had taken place sooner, one might have been able to see what was going on and to put an end to it. The trouble is that as this would have taken place so slowly, they wouldn’t have realised what was going on and, now that they feel so weak and worthless, a big part of them can feel comfortable with being treated so badly. Conclusion If one was in an abusive relationship, it would be vital for one to get away from the abuser and then to get support. When it relates to someone who has been and continues to be undermined by so many sources in their society, they probably won’t have anywhere else to go. Instead, it will be vital for them to find the support that they need, so that they can more beyond their self-loathing and embrace the part of their nature that is there to protect them. Once they have started to get back on their feet, they can look into what they can to protect the country that their ancestors passed onto them and expected them to pass onto the next generation. What also needs to be pointed out here is that the people in power are only too happy for different races (and men and women) to be fighting each other and for countries to be destroyed, as this is how they control people and stop them from being able to experience peace on earth. Divide and rule is the name of their game, and this then stops so many people from realising that we are all part of the human race.
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While reaching out to others and experiencing intimacy is normal for some people, there are others who experience life in a very different way. When someone can reach out to others and experience intimacy, they could be in a fulfilling relationship.
However, even if they are not with someone at this stage in their life, there are bound to be other people in their life who they can connect with. When one is around someone like this, they will be able to share who they are. True-Self Said another way, there will be no reason for them to wear a mask and therefore, to put on an act. There are likely to be moments when they are unable to express who they are, so they may have to wear a mask. If they didn’t do this, it might cause them to be harmed in some way, and this is why there are going to be moments when they won’t be able to reveal themselves. But when they are with the people who they are close to, this won’t be the case. Boundaries What this will also show is that one feels safe enough to express who they are around these people. As a result of this, they are not going to have a fear of losing themselves around others or of being harmed. This is going to be why they are able to share their inner world to begin with. If they didn’t feel safe enough to stay in their body around others and to open up, their life would be very different. The Key It is then not that this person is lucky and just happens to experience life in this way; what it comes down to is that they have good boundaries. This is what allows them to act like an individual. Perhaps this is how this person has always experienced life, or maybe this is the result of the work that they have done on themselves. On the other hand, when someone doesn’t experience life in this way, this could be how their life has always been. Overwhelmed When they are around others, they can feel the need to get away or they can end up disconnecting from what is taking place within them. Due to this, it is going to be a challenge for them to express their true-self around others. One can then end up spending a lot of time by themselves as this will stop them from having to experience extreme discomfort. Also, through being in their own company, they will be able to connect to who they are. Out of Their Body If they are around someone or a group of people, they could end up leaving their body and moving their point of awareness up into their mind. One is then going to be out of touch with most of their needs and feelings and this can cause them to play a role. And as one will be out of touch with their inner world, it won’t be possible for them to experience intimacy. Consequently, they can feel just as lonely around others as they do by themselves. Hidden At the same time, if they are able to connect to themselves when they are in their own company, it might not be as bad for them to be by themselves. They won’t have anyone around them, but at least they won’t need to put on an act or to feel overwhelmed. Still, when they are by themselves, they will they come into contact with their need to connect to others. That is, of course, unless they consume something (or a number of things) to push this pain out of their awareness. A Short-Lived Affair If one has been with people in the past, they may find that they were fine in the beginning and then they had to leave before long. They may have just felt compelled to end the relationship. It was then not something that they consciously decided to do; their body would have made the decision for them. These people might have been left confused but one would have just needed to get away. A Number of Words If one was to get in touch with how they feel when they are around others or in a relationship, for instance, they could say that they feel trapped, smothered, or even claustrophobic. Getting away is then going to be seen as the only way for them to change how they feel. The trouble with this is that it stops them from being able to fulfil their need to express their true-self and to experience intimacy with others. Additionally, this will also make it difficult for them to be intimate with themselves. A Closer Look One way of looking at this would be to say that one needs to change their thoughts, as this will allow them to change their behaviour. Another approach would be for them to focus on their body and to see why this is happening. If one feels trapped when they are around others and needs to get away, it is as though their body goes into the freeze response and then into the flight response. This is usually what happens when someone feels as though they are under attack. Trauma There is going to be no reason for their body to respond in this way; it is not as though their life is under threat. Nevertheless, there was probably a time in their life when it was under threat, and this is why their body is responding in this manner. The beginning of their life may have been a time when they were smothered by one of their parents. This might have taken place when they were a baby, meaning they wouldn’t have been able to do anything about it. Awareness If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they might need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by a therapist or a healer. The trauma that is within them will need to be dealt with and, as this takes place, it will be easier for them to be in the present moment.
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During someone’s early years, there is a strong chance that they spent a lot of time being told what to do and what to think. There would then have been the conditioning that they received while they were in the education system.
A Few More Years After this, one may have got a job, meaning that they would have continued to be told what do by different authority figures. Then again, they might have decided to go to university or college. This could then have been a stage in their life when they knew very little about themselves; what they knew would have been the result of what they had been told by others. The years would then have passed and one might not be any different at this point in their life. One Step Backwards At the same time, one could still be right at the beginning of their life, meaning they can be the result of what their parents and teachers have told them. It is then only going to be a matter of time before they will come into contact with other authority figures that will shape their personality. Now, clearly a human being will need guidance; it is not as though they will be able to handle life by themselves as soon as they are born. Unlike a rabbit or a mouse, for instance, they will need a lot of love and guidance in order to develop into an adult. One Step Too Far But while this is important, it could be said that today’s society goes too far when it comes to this part of the equation; for one thing, human beings are often seen as having a blank slate. Taking this into account, there is going to be no reason to try to bring anything out of a child, for instance, as they won’t have anything within them. In reality, there will be a lot going on for a child and, when a child loses touch with what is going on within them, it is going to set them up to suffer. On the other hand, when a child is allowed to develop this connection and this connection grows stronger as the years go by, they will be aware of their needs, feelings, and motives, among other things. An Aware Human Being As an adult, they will be aware of what they need to do in life or, to be more precise, what will be deeply fulfilling. They will also feel comfortable with their emotions, so there will be no need for them to hide them from themselves or others. Therefore, if one is in pain, they can embrace how they feel and work through what is going on for them, or they can reach out for the right support if they can’t deal with how they feel. There can then be less chance of them becoming addicted to things or ending up ill. Straight In So, if they feel down or have been behaving in ways that are not helpful, they can look into what is taking place within them. Along with this, if they attract someone who undermines them, they can also look into what is going on for them. Through being able to take this approach, they will be able to change their life. There will be no reason for them to feel like a victim and as though they have no control. Another Experience This could be seen as the ideal and it can be hard to imagine what the world would be like if everyone this connection with themselves. What can be said is that it is likely that the world would be relatively peaceful. But with that aside, someone’s experience on this earth is going to be radically different when they haven’t been brought up in this way. Someone like this can live on the surface of themselves. A Poor Substitute And due to being out of touch with what is taking place within them, they are unlikely to have a very fulfilling life. Yet, if they are ‘happy’ it could be because they are living a life that revolves around pleasing others. What this comes down to is that when one’s attention is in their mind, they are going to be focused on what is taking place externally; whereas, if they felt comfortable in their body, they wouldn’t need to do this, and this would stop them from needing approval. There is going to be no reason for them to face their pain directly, though. A Number of Solutions If they were to come into contact with how they feel, the society they live in will be on hand to take their pain away. There will be plenty of things that one can buy that will allow them to temporarily lose touch with how they feel. The downside to this is that while they will feel better, what this won’t do is allow them to find out why they feel the way that they do. For example, if one felt down and they were to end up taking some kind of drug or to drink, they won’t be able to grow. Outer Directed And all the time that these short-term solutions are being offered, it makes it harder for someone to believe that the answers they need are not outside of themselves. As Carl Jung once said, “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” It would be easy to believe that this is just how the world is and that it is not this way on purpose. Another way of looking at it would be to say that it is this way partly due to how unaware so many people are and partly due to the people at the top, who are doing everything they can to keep it this way. Awareness If someone finds it hard to connect to what is taking place within them, and they want to change this, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for external support. This can be provided by a therapist or a healer. Naturally, this is going to take time and effort, but it will be worth it in the long run. Additionally, one can practice some kind of mediation, as this can be another way for them to develop a strong connection with their inner world.
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