If one was in a position where they have something wrong with their phone, for instance, there is a strong chance that they would get the right assistance. This could be a time where they will ask a friend what they should do, or they could simply take it to a phone shop.
However, even if they were to ask a friend for their advice, there is not much chance of them being criticised. But if this wasn’t the case, it could be a sign that they have asked someone who has the tendency to put other people down. Part of Life What this comes down to is that most people have had a problem with their phone at one point or another and so it is highly unlikely that anyone would give them a hard time over it. There is going to be no need for one to feel ashamed of what is taking place and this will make the whole process a lot easier. One is also likely to have a similar experience if they were to take it straight to a phone shop, as the people that work there will have seen it all before. They will give them the support they need and it won’t be long until their phone has been fixed, or replaced by a new one. Simple This is an example of how one can have a problem and then before long, they can find a solution. When this happens, there is going to be no need for one to feel hopeless or to suffer in silence. But while this could be seen as the ideal scenario, it is not something that always takes place. Instead, one can end up feeling hopeless and they might even end up suffering in silence. Inner Challenge One area of life where it is not always this easy is when one has a mental and emotional problem. For one thing, one can believe that what they are going through is normal and that it is just something that is part of life. Along with this, one can feel ashamed of what is taking place for them and this can then stop them from reaching out for support. And even if they were to reach out for support, it doesn’t mean that they will get the right support. An Act As a result of this, one can end up covering up how they feel and carrying on with their life. The people around them can then be oblivious as to what is taking place within them and one will end up suffering in silence. One option would be for them to keep what is taking place to themselves and then to go and see their doctor. If they were to take this route, they might be able to get the support they need and there will be no reason for other people to find out. Moving Forward This could be a time where one is offered antidepressants and/or they might be referred to a therapist. On one hand, one might prefer to take something, and on the other hand, they might be drawn to the second option. There is the chance that one would rather take something than have therapy, as this will allow them to get on with their life. When it comes to therapy, this could be seen as something that will go on forever. The Meaning What will play a big part here is the outlook one has when it comes to having therapy, as it could be something that causes them to feel uncomfortable. In their eyes, it could be seen as something that people have when they can’t handle life. In this sense, it would mean that they are weak, and if they were to have it; it would cause them to feel ashamed. It would then be important for one to realise that reaching out for support takes courage. The Right Thing So if they feel ashamed, it doesn’t mean that how they feel reflects reality; it is simply an emotional experience. If one was to allow how they feel to define their life, it would be normal for them to suffer unnecessarily. Yet even if one didn’t have a problem with having therapy, it doesn’t mean that the people around them will have the same outlook. One could talk to someone about what they are going through and how they are having therapy (or thinking of having it), and they may find that they respond in a negative manner. The Response This could be a time where the other person criticises them, or they might shame them in another way. Perhaps they look away when they tell them or roll their eyes, for instance. Or they could come across as though they are supportive, and then as time passes, one could find out that they have been talking behind their back. Through having these experiences, one could end believing that they are doing the wrong thing. A General Outlook But if these individual occurrences are put to one side, it could be said that therapy is something that is often looked down upon in today’s world. When someone has it, it is not always possible for people to see that they have problems and wont to work through them; it can be seen as a sign that there is something inherently wrong with them. The people who have this outlook can then feel superior even though there is the chance that they are in a position where they are running away from their own problems. What is likely to be different is that they are avoiding their pain in ways that are seen as socially acceptable. For Example Their pain could be kept at bay through being in a dysfunctional relationship, rescuing others, working every hour of the day, overeating, drinking too much and/or taking drugs, among other things. There will be then no reason for them to feel ashamed of what they are doing and yet one can feel ashamed for taking the healthy approach. Awareness Ultimately, therapy is there to assist someone when they are going through a challenging time in their life, and this means that there is nothing wrong with having it. So if one is going through a challenging time and they want to move forward, it might be a good idea for them to work with a therapist.
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If one had something on their mind in the past, they may have kept it to themselves or they might have spoken to someone. Nowadays, one has another option, and this is to share what is taking place for them on social media.
As a result of this, not only can one share the kinds of things they would tell the people they know, they can also share the kinds of things that they wouldn’t. But when it comes to what one shares, it can all depend what they are like as a person. The Same Although one could share absolutely anything online, it doesn’t mean that this will take place. One may prefer to only share certain things with their ‘friends’ and this is likely to mean that they have a certain level of self-control. This could soon change when they are with someone they are close to, and they might be only too happy to open up. There is then the chance that one was around before social media was invented. A Different Experience On the other hand, one could be in a position where they share more or less everything online. Their ‘friends’ will then have the chance to find out a lot about them and they won’t need to meet them in person. And when they spend time with the people they are close to in the real world, they could behave in the same way. This could be a sign that one was brought up with social media, and what they do is then seen as ‘normal’. Another Arm If one has been brought up with social media, it can be seen as an extension of themselves; whereas if this isn’t the case, it can just be seen as another part of their life. When it comes to the former, it might be important for their profile to be reflection of who they are (or who they want to be). As if one doesn’t look right online, it will be seen as the same as if they don’t look right in the real world. Thus, it will be as important for them to get positive feedback online as it will for them to get it offline. The First Thing When they wake up in the morning, the first thing they think about could be what is taking place on social media. Or more to the point, what kind of responses they have received on there from others. Every other area of their life is then going to be overlooked during this time, but once they have looked through their device everything else could come back into focus, so to speak. However, even if one doesn’t see social media as an extension of themselves, it still doesn’t mean that they won’t be drawn to their device as soon as they wake up. Profile Along with this, even if one didn’t grow up with social media, it doesn’t mean that it won’t be seen as an extension of themselves. As time has passed, their level of attached could be the same as someone who was brought up with it. It is then not going to be possible for them to overlook how they come across online, and it will be just as important for them to create the right impression. And once again, the kind of feedback they get online will have a big effect on them. Different Factors What this shows is that not everyone is going to respond in the same way, and one may choose to share everything online even if they haven’t always had social media. There are bound to be plenty of people in the world who choose not to share everything even though they were brought up with it. When it comes to sharing something online, it doesn’t take much effort; it can be a lot easier than calling someone up or meeting them in person. So it is clear to see why one would share what is taking place in their life online. Different Areas During these moments, one could talk about what they have been doing with friends, how they feel or what their views are. There could also be things that they talk about from time to time. In this case, it could be a sign that one is going on holiday or that someone is their family has passed on, for instance. What one can also talk about is a situation where they made a difference to someone else’s life. A Good Deed When this takes place, it will allow one to receive positive feedback from others and this will also have an effect on how people perceive them. This is because other people will ‘like’ their status and they may even comment. A number of their ‘friends’ will see this as a reflection of what they are like as a person, and as they have helped someone, it must mean that they are a ‘good’ human being. Yet at the same time, there could be others who wonder why they have shared what took place. Making a Difference They could believe that when it comes to lending a hand, the act in and of itself is enough; there is no need to tell the whole world about it. When this occurs, it could be said that one is not helping someone because they want to, but that they are doing it order to create the right impression. And when it comes to social media, it is relatively easy for one to come across however they want to. So if they want to come across as though they are a humanitarian, it is not going to take much effort. Conclusion What this emphasises is how easy it is to deceive others and to be deceived by them. This is not to say that everyone who shares a good deed online is out to manipulate how other people see them, as it is not going to be this black and white.
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When someone has got something to do, they can get it done straight away or they can put it to one side and do something else. And when it comes to what is the best approach to take, it can all depend on what it is that needs to be done.
If one had a piece of furniture that needed to be built, it might be possible for them to ignore it for a few days; but once those days are up, it might need be ready to be used. However, this could all depend on what type of furniture it is, as it might be possible for them to leave it for a number of months. The Difference One could live in a climate where it won’t be warm for a number of months, and this will then mean that they won’t need to use any tables and chairs outside for quite some time. Thus, if they overlooked this and did something else, it is not going to have a negative effect on their life. Yet if one had some furniture that they needed to use inside, it is not going to possible for them to put it to one side. Perhaps they haven’t got anywhere to eat or they have a table but no chairs. Part of Life Now, it could be said that there are times in everyone’s life where they delays things, and there are a number of reasons why his takes place. When this relates to something that one needs to do, it could be said that they are procrastinating. For example, one could be studying or have a career where they give presentations on a regular basis, and instead putting the work in, they could do something else. Through behaving in this way, it could set them up to suffer unnecessarily. A Regular Occurrence If this was something that took place every now and then, for instance, it might not have much of an effect on their life. But if this was a common occurrence, they could end up sabotaging their life. It would then be a good idea for them to take a look into why this takes place, and to do what they can to take action when they need to. This could be a sign that one is doing something that doesn’t really interest them, and it might then be time for them to do something else. Loss What can also stop one from doing what they need to do is when they feel the need to maintain a certain appearance around other people. Their need to look right or to behave as they have done in the past stops them from expressing what is taking place within them. This is something that can take place when one experiences loss and this can then mean that it won’t be possible for one to grieve. Instead, one can end up carrying on as normal and how they feel will stay trapped within them. Behaviour So although they need to change their behaviour, this is not going to take place, and there is even the chance that the people around them will give them positive feedback. As far as these people are concerned, one could be seen as someone who is strong. There will then be no need for them to embrace what is taking place within them, as this would be a sign of weakness. This could be a time where one is focused on someone else who is grieving, or they might just throw themselves into their work, for instance. Backwards One of the problems with today’s world is that people who express how they feel are often seen as weak and people who don’t are often seen as strong. This then sets people up to repress how they feel, and not only does this affect their personal lives, it is also has an effect on their society. Ultimately, it takes strength for someone to face how they feel; it is a lot easier for one to run away from themselves. There is also a lot of pressure on people to be ‘positive’ all the time and to avid anything that is ‘negative’. Life Goes On So through living in a society that is out of balance, it is not going to be much of a surprise if one doesn’t face how they feel when someone in their life passes on. The weeks, months and years can then pass and it can be as if there life is no different. This is not to say that certain symptoms won’t arise, but if one is out of touch with how they feel they are unlikely to realise what is taking place. One could find that they start to feel depressed or they could lose their motivation, for instance. Out of Nowhere When they do get in touch with the pain that they disconnected from when someone passed on, it could end up taking them by surprise. One can then go from feeling as though they have a certain amount of self-control, to having absolutely no self-control. They will then be overwhelmed by emotion and they will have no other choice than to face what is taking place within them. This is not to say that they won’t resist how they feel, but it will be a lot harder this time. The Trigger One could be in a position where a relationship has just come to an end up and this causes them to face how they feel. It could also be the anniversary of the person who has passed and this could change their point off focus. Or one could move somewhere else, or change their job, and this then allows them to settle down and to get in touch with their body. There are a number of ways in which this can take place. Awareness If one can relate to this, it might be important for them to reach out for external support, and this can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group. This can be a time where one will be crying out the pain that is within them, among other things.
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If one was to think about being in a relationship, they might focus on what it would be like to be with someone who they can share their life with. This can then mean that they will experience positive feelings.
The reason that one has this experience could be because it reminds them of what their previous relationships were like, or it could be the result of their own imagination. If it relates to the former, it could be said that this how one would like a relationship to be. Reality However, if one has been in a relationship before, they might realise that there will also be moments where they will experience negative feelings. This could see as something that is just part of life and not something they can avoid. On the other hand, if one has not been in a relationship before, they might believe that it will always be filled with good moments. Experiencing negative feelings in other part of their life could then be seen as normal, but it won’t be seen as normal in this area of their life. Abuse Now, this is doesn’t mean that one should be with someone who is abusive in any way, as this is not something that they will need to put up with. What it comes down to is that it is not going to be possible for one to always feel good. In the beginning of a relationship, one may only experience positive feelings, and then as time passes, this is something that will soon change. It would then be easy to say that this is because the other person has changed. Projection One way of looking at it would be to say that the idea one had of them in the beginning wasn’t balanced (and the other person was probably in the same position). And then as time went by, they were gradually able to drop their idealised version of them. This is then similar to how one can go on holiday and feel as though they are in paradise, and then as the weeks go by (if they stay that long), they can start to notice things that cause them to experience discomfort. Having said that, this can be a time where one will project their disowned parts onto the other person (or the country they are visiting). The Other Extreme As a result of this, one won’t go from seeing the other person as being perfect to a human being with good and bad sides; there will only be one side to them. And the side they see will be influenced by the parts of themselves that they don’t want to face. If one is aware of what is taking place, it would give them the chance to work through their own projections. Through doing this, it would allow one to grow and it might also bring them closer to the other person. The Conscious Approach When one is able to do this, it could be a sign that they have already done a certain amount of work on themselves. And through having the ability to work through their own pain, they know what to do when they are in a relationship. This is not to say that they will always be aware of what is taking place within them, but what it does mean is that they won’t project everything onto the other person. Yet if one has taken the time to process their pain, it can mean that they will be less likely to project onto others. Baggage Through the work that they have put in, there will be less of a build-up within them, and this will make it easier for them to be present. Thus, there will be less chance of them seeing someone as perfect or as though they are the complete opposite. There is also the chance that this will mean that one has developed boundaries, and this will make it a lot easier for them to see where they begin and end and where others begin and end. When one experiences life in this way, it could be said that they are taking the conscious approach. Another Approach On the other hand, when one is unaware of what is taking place, it can cause them to push the other person away or they might even try to change them. Therefore, it is not that what is taking place within them is having an effect on how they perceive the other person; it is that the other person is the problem. However, this is not something that will only take place if one has formed a negative outlook of someone, as this is something that can take place even if they have a more balanced perspective of the other. When this happens, the other person can do or say something and it can then press one’s buttons, so to speak. A Trigger How they feel, the thoughts they have and the sensations in their body will then be seen as the result of what has taken place. It can then be normal for them to blame the other or to push them away in some way. Yet if one was to do this, it would stop them from looking into why they have responded in a certain way. Blaming the other or pushing them away, for instance, might allow them to feel better, but what it won’t do is allow them to grow and develop. Short-Term Relief One could then leave the relationship and find someone else, and there is then a strong chance that they will end up in the same position all over again. And once again, one could see the other person as the problem. It is then not going to be much of a surprise if they end up feeling like a victim and as though they have no control over their life. In order for this to change, it will be important for one to take responsibility for what is taking place within them. Awareness This can be a time where one will end up having to face a lot of pain, but this is something that won’t last forever. The alternative would be for them to experience pain that is not as strong for the rest of their life. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist and/or a support group. Through doing this, one will develop boundaries, and this will enable them to see what belongs to them and what doesn’t.
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If a wasp started to chase someone and they didn’t want to be stung, they might end up running away. This could be a sign that they have been stung before and don’t want to go through the same experience all over again.
If they were to run away, it might only be a matter of time before they lose contact with the wasp. One will have then taken the right approach and they will be able to carry on with their life. Everyday Life When it comes to other areas of one’s life, they can also end up taking the same approach, and while this may allow them to carry on with their life, it might not. This is because it can take a while before one sees the effects on their actions. For example, one could be in a relationship that is no longer fulfilling and they could simply walk away. Through putting this behind them, their life could soon improve and it won’t be necessary for them to look back. Another Side At the same time, one could be in a position where they find it hard to feel good about themselves, and this could then mean that they end up in a relationship. Through being with this person, it allows them to change how they feel and they can then forget about what was taking place before. There are numerous other examples where one can be in a position where they are unable to appreciate life and through making a few changes, their life can be completely transformed. A New Start Based on this, it could be said that the only thing that one needs to do in order to change their life is to walk away from something. There is naturally going to be a difference if one is trying to change how they feel, but they will still be able to do this by changing their circumstances. There is then no need to them to face anything or to work through how they feel; they simply need to turn a new page, so to speak. If one has this outlook, it could be something they have developed through paying attention to the people around them. Influences Perhaps one’s early years were a time when the people around them didn’t face anything, and went from one experience to another. Yet even if that wasn’t the case, one could have picked this up from the kind of conditioning they have received from the society that they live in. In today’s world, there is no shortage of options when it comes to the kinds of things that one can engage in to avoid how they feel. In many ways, this is the norm; whereas if one was to face how they feel, they might be looked down upon. Therapy If one was to spend a lot of time drinking, shopping, going to the gym or eating food, their behaviour might be overlooked. However, if one was to work with a therapist, other people could wonder what is wrong with them. One could be seen as having ‘issues’ and these people can then come to the conclusion that there is nothing wrong with them. Therefore, as they spend a lot of time covering up how they feel through engaging in things that are generally classed as acceptable, they can delude themselves into thinking that they have it all together. Up Is Down, Black Is White As a result of this, the person that is taking the healthy option and facing their own pain is seen as the person who is falling apart. Thus, being unhealthy is healthy and being healthy is unhealthy. So instead of one facing themselves and believing that they are doing the right thing, they can end up feeling as though there is something wrong with them. This is then similar to one feeling ashamed for taking their car to the garage because their brakes don’t work. The Difference Yet while one could soon lose their life if they didn’t go down to the garage, the same can’t be said if they were to run away from their own life. When this happens, there is the chance that they will be able to carry on as normal. But if this doesn’t take place, their life could get even better and there will be no need for them to think about what was taking place before. There will then be no reason for one to believe that they can’t run away from their past. Time Delay However, as times passes, there is a strong chance that what they have run away from will soon catch up with them. This could mean that their new relationship will end up like the one they just left or they could end up feeling like they did before, for instance. One could then do what they did before and look for someone else or something else, or they could stop what they are doing and no longer run away. If they do what they have always done they will go through the whole experience again, but if they take a step back it will give them the chance to experience life differently. Short-Term Pain This could be a time where they have to work through a lot of pain and it will then be a lot for them to handle. Yet this is not something that will go on forever and their life will greatly improve in the long run. On the other hand, if one was to carry on as they are it wouldn’t be as painful; the downside is that it wouldn’t come to an end. It is then case of short-term pain and long-term gain, or short-term gain and long-term pain. Awareness If one is running away from themselves, it could be a sign that they need to work with a therapist. This will allow them to face what is within them in a safe and supportive environment.
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When someone’s car runs smoothly, there is going to be no reason for them to take a deeper look into how it works. And the same could be said when it comes to others areas of their life.
For example, if their body is not causing them any problems, there is also going to be no need for them to focus on it. This is something that would change if they started to experience tension somewhere, and if their car stopped working they would also need to change their point of focus. Now and Then Still, this is not to say that they won’t have moments where they think about their car or their body, for instance, but this is likely to be as far as it goes. There is a strong chance that there will be plenty of other things for them to focus on. And when it comes to what they are focused on, it could relate to things that are not working in their life. Nevertheless, what this comes down to is that one can’t focus on everything; if they were to try to do this, they would be wasting their energy. Emotional Experience When it comes to what is not working in their life, there is the chance that they don’t always feel as they would like to feel. This could mean that they are going through a challenging time in their life, or it could be how their life has always been. If they have always been this way, it could mean that they have spent a lot of time focusing on how they feel. Having said that, it might be more accurate to say that they haven’t had much choice, and this is because they have been consumed by what is taking place within them. A New Occurrence Yet if they have only recently started to struggle with what is taking place within them, it could mean that they haven’t spend a lot of time focusing on how they feel. In the past there would have been no reason for them to and now this is no longer the case. But as this experience is not something they are familiar with, it could mean that they are more likely to reach out for support. The reason for this is that it will stand out and it is less likely to be seen as part of life. Alternatively On the other hand, when one has experienced life in this way for quiet some time, they can believe that it is normal. It is then something they have to put up with and there is nothing they can do. However, even if one has experience life in this way for as long as they can remember, it doesn’t mean that they will tolerate what is taking place. Part of them could have the desire to change their life and this will create inner conflict. Emotional Pain If one did want to change their life, they could reach out for external support, or they could find a way to avoid how they feel. And when it comes to what route they take, it can depend on a number of different factors. For example, one could feel ashamed of how they feel and this could stop them from opening up to others. As a result of this, one could end up being drawn to things that are slightly or extremely harmful. Examples On one hand, emotional problems are rarely given the attention they deserve in today’s world, and on the other hand, there are plenty of ways for one to avoid how they feel. This is one of the reasons why it can be easier for one to take things or to engage in activities that are not in their best interests. One could end up eating when they are not hungry, taking drugs, and/or drinking a lot of alcohol. Along with this, they could end up turning into a workaholic, over exercise, go from one relationship to another and/or travel the world. Reaching Out Through engaging in one of these options (or a number of them), it will enable them to feel better for a short while. But if they continue with this process, they can lose touch with how they feel, and as time passes, they could end up creating even more problems Based on this, it could be said that the ideal will be for them to reach out for external support. This could be a time where they pay a visit to their doctor or they might look for a therapist who is able to assist them. Their Experience During this time, one could open up about what is taking place for them, and this will give them the chance to take the next step. One could say that they suffer from: depression, anxiety, a sense worthlessness, sadness and/or loneliness. If one was to see their doctor, they could end up being put on antidepressants and then refereed to a behavioural therapist. This could then be a time where one ends up being told to monitor their thoughts and to change their behaviour, for instance. Emotional Body Another approach would be for one to work with a therapist who will ask them about their childhood, and if their emotional experiences match up with what took place during these early years. Due to the amount of time that has passed, one may have lost touch with what took place. Yet if they were able to take the time to think about when they first started to feel this way, they may find that it was during their childhood. Therefore, the years will have passed but how they felt as a child has stayed trapped in their body. Awareness This then means that it won’t be enough for them to change their thoughts or their behaviour, as these emotions won’t be released through force. The emotional build-up that is within them will need to be processed. If one can relate to this and they want to move forward, it will be necessary for them to work with a therapist or a support group.
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There are a number of things that will make it easier to have fulfilling relationships with others, and having boundaries is one of them. The primary reason for this is that they will allow someone to maintain their sense of self.
As when one is unable to do this, it is going to be a challenge for them to have a relationship with another person. It can then be normal for them to lose themselves or for them to come on too strong. A Common Theme In today’s world, there are plenty of books available that give relationship advice, and there are also courses to choose from. What this shows is that there are a lot of people who are not happy with what is taking place in their life and that they want it to change. And while these books and courses can have different descriptions, there is a strong chance that they talk about boundaries. This is not to say that they will use the word, but the guidance they offer is likely to relate to the same thing. Different Aspects What this comes down to is that although boundaries are often seen as something that will enable one to say no and to stand their ground; there is so much more to them. Ultimately, they allow one to feel safe in their body and this then makes it possible for them to maintain who they are around others. Along with this, they stop one from having to carry what belongs to their ancestors, and this means that their life can be an expression of who they are. It could then be said that there is a surface level understanding of what they are and a deeper level understanding. One Experience So when one’s relationships are not going as they would like them to go, they could find that it comes down to the fact that other people walk all over them. This could be something they have been aware of for quite some time, or it might have just occurred to them. One option would be for them to feel like a victim and to blame others, and another option would be for them to take responsibility for what is happening and then to reach out for support. If they take the first option, their life is unlikely to change; but if they take the second option, this won’t be the case. Ready to Move On One may have already spent a lot of time feeling like a victim and through experiencing life in this way; they are no longer willing to play this role. This could be a time where they end up reading a book and or they might work with a therapist, for instance. The Opposite Having said that, one may also be in a position where they have the tendency to come on too strong, and this means they will be used to walking over others. And once again, this could be something they have just become aware of, or it might have been on their mind for a while. There is then a strong chance that they are used to making other people feel like victims, and this could cause them to push other people away. While they might appreciate their ability to speak their truth and to stand their ground, for instance, what they won’t appreciate is being smothered by them, among other things. A New Beginning One has then got to the point where they are fully aware of how they behaviour is effecting others and they want this to change. The process that they can take in order to change their life can be the same as if they were being walked over. Self-Reflection Yet regardless of whether one is in a position where they are being walked over or walking over others, it shows that they have taken the time to reflect on their own behaviour. This is the first step thing that needs to happen for one to get the ball moving, so to speak. Without this, one will continue to behave in the same way and it won’t be possible for them to change their life. It can then be normal for one to see themselves as being nothing more than an observer of what is taking place in their life. Another Experience One can then be around people that walk over them and/or who are unable to stand up for themselves, for instance, and they can wonder what is going on for these people. In fact, that could be an understatement, as one could tell them that they need to change. This could mean that one believes that they have it all together and that the people in their life are the ones who need to sort themselves out. If this was to happen, it would show that one has taken on a superior position. The Mirror Thus, one is not playing a part in what is taking place in their life, and there will then be no reason for them to change. If the people they come into contact with don’t change, one might end up replacing them with others. But while this might work, there is also the chance that they would end up in the same position, and this is because they are not simply observing life. Yet unless one takes the time to reflect on their own behaviour and what is taking place within them, they are not going to realise this. A Deeper Look If one finds that they attract people who are unable to stand up for themselves, it is likely to be a sign that they fear being walked over at a deeper level. There could also be moments in their life when people do walk over them. Alternatively, if one is used to attracting people that walk over them, it is likely to mean that they fear what would happen if they were to stand their ground. They could also have moments in their life where they walk over others. Early Experiences When one experiences life in this way, it can be due to what took place during their childhood years. Perhaps one was abused and/or neglected, and as these experiences were so painful, they would have disconnected from what took place. If one has the tendency to be walked over by others, it can mean that they are still in touch of how they felt during these years; whereas when one walks over others, it can mean that they have lost touch with how they felt. Either way, these experiences are still defining their life. Awareness When it comes to moving forward, it might be necessary for one to reach out for external support, and this can be provided by a therapist and/or a support group.
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That which is contained within these articles is based on my own empirical understanding and is true for me at the time they were written. However, as I continue to grow, what I perceive as the truth will inevitably change and as a result of this - parts of these articles may not reflect my current outlook.
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